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lions and scarecrows and tin men, oh my

The challenge with life is that it doesn’t tell you what it’s doing or why it’s doing it.

I have to believe we all know the feeling. If you haven’t said, “why is this happening to me?” at some point in your life, well then you should either write a book or let me be the first to say ‘welcome to Earth’, you must be new here.

The “challenge” is two-fold. One; we’re way too nosey of a species and two; desire for control, also know as ‘lack of faith’.

I’ll let you self-assess the concept of being nosey based upon this question – how much social media do you engage in and how much of it expands your mind or brightens your heart or makes you a better person? And really, social media is fine. It’s just a question of where you’re putting your time and energy – both being extremely important resources.

The second one is really the hook; and it’s definitely a tough one. Without doubt, it impacts some of us more than others. The truth is that desire for control is not really you; it’s not really what your Heart is after.

Control narrows you; it restricts your options. Both control and faith are earthly concepts. One is bound by the parameters of your human-ness, the other just isn’t. When we try to harness control, we limit our faith; one of those inverse type relationships, for all the math-y sorts out there.

Our human brain wants to tell us that control is what will guide us to the desired destination. It’s an intuitive theory, really; see the goal, get yourself to the goal. But, control is rarely accompanied by faith. The reason being; the appearance of self-reliance. And hey, control and self-reliance and important. There’s a lot of places in life that control and self-reliance are the ticket. I’m not saying that faith can’t manifest things to eat in your refrigerator, but you’re probably just better off to take control and go to the grocery store.

The challenge is that when we really tune into control, we really start to tune out faith. And, when it comes to the big stuff in life, faith is the guide you want. Control minimizes your options. It labels what you want your outcome to be. In the event the outcome doesn’t reflect what you thought your control would produce, we usually put the ‘failure’ tag on it. And, as soon you introduce the word ‘failure’ to something, it’ll usually illicit a response of defeat from your being. It sort of stops you in your tracks.

Faith is where you give yourself more of a chance. Now, it’s definitely not guaranteed but it’s less restrictive. Its address is still that of an earthly residence, but it begins to tap into your soul. Faith is the connection we need to establish between who are here, in these shoes, and who we are there, in the Universe. Setting your goal and destination is a key component to whatever it is that you’re trying to accomplish. The journey, however, is to always broaden your Heart and consciousness.

In its essence, faith is actually a more powerful form of control because it removes the stress you place on yourself and your human limitations. It’s scarier, yes. But, eventually will become more comforting once the realization is adopted that you’re no longer just relying upon yourself but rather calling on the entire the Universe to give you a hand.

It’s your only way to true stardom.

Be Love.








an apple for the teacher


An apple for the teacher

There’s any number of emotions to feel when we’re talking about Love. For most though, Love commonly falls into two buckets; joy of the heart and breaking of the heart – AKA: ‘being in a relationship’. And, while this is very true, it’s just a piece of the puzzle. What we regularly see, hear, read and speak about is ‘relationship love’.  What we regularly and consistently experience is the Love that’s all but relationship love.

Love is everywhere. Most of us reserve Love for the people that we consciously choose to give it to or receive it from. Resultantly, if you think Love is only meant for your family, partner and close friends, then that’s probably where your ‘reality’ of Love will begin and end.

There is no pick-and-choose with Love. Love is our perpetual teacher – no in-services, spring breaks or summers off. You’re a full time student. The only prerequisites to this course are willingness and self-awareness.

To restrict one’s education from Love to the romantic relationships we experience is a very narrow curriculum. Every relationship you encounter in life, from your auto mechanic to an opponent in sports; to your mother-in-law to the relationship you have with yourself, is an opportunity to learn.

Each learning opportunity is one of two choices; an acceptance of Love or a denial of Love. The breadth, however, is indefinable.

Example: you’ve had a long, challenging day. Chores need to be done, maybe should get in another hour of work, you should go to the gym; standard issue. You’d really just like to relax and get to bed early. The acceptance of Love would be to do just that. It would be to take care of yourself and not fret about what needs to be done. It would be to take the path that leads to raising your vibration, not to draw from yourself even more and deplete your energy.

Now, to build on this example, a person could say, “well, I kinda don’t ever want to go to the gym. It takes too much energy”. This is a denial of Love. The difference stems from actually being self-aware and attuned to what your body, mind and soul wants and needs versus falling prey to the lower vibrational attractor. Sometimes you need a break, true. Take the break. But, there’s little deniability that you need fresh air, exercise and healthful foods. There’s a balance in knowing what you will benefit from right now and that which you’ll benefit from in the long run. A self-employed painter, with a budget to spend on one vehicle, might really want to buy a muscle car. That might be great for the weekend, but the painter should probably buy a work truck.

The lessons from Love happen all day, every day. This is where we come back to the culpability of self-awareness. To fully absorb and embrace what Love has to offer, self-awareness is integral. You have to know how you feel. You have to know how your individual self responds and reacts to life. Not your ego response, that being, the response that trumps being right over everything else. But, your heart response; the true response borne of who you really are.

Both of these responses happen in parellel with each other. Would you rather argue with someone to prove you’re right or have everyone be happy? Does complaining about something solve your problem or does finding internal (and external) resolution really address the disharmony? Does denying a homeless person so little as a smile raise the vibration of the universe or is it just a mechanism for you to feel less uncomfortable with yourself?

Being tuned into this channel is not tough. No one entered this plane of existence to be a jerk. There’s a lot of jerks out there, sure. But, they know they’re jerks and just don’t know how to face up to it to make a change. Even those of us who take fleeting pride in being made of stone and emotionless, feel. We all feel. You know when you’ve done or are doing something that your heart wouldn’t do if you let it be in charge all the time. It’s the identification of the disparity between what your heart would do and what you’re actually doing that offers the lesson.

It’s pretty simple but it’s probably not that easy. It’s not really that tough, either. Your true being is one with your heart response. You’re actually using up more energy and life force doing anything but that. It’s built on momentum – the more your heart gets to lead the response, the more out of alignment you’ll feel when it doesn’t, the easier you’ll be able to identify each opportunity for the greater you to shine through.

Hate to break to you, but school’s always in.

Be Love.



“Different” is nothing more than misunderstood knowledge. It is the derivation of a conclusion based upon facts that do not rely upon it. It is to say, you are not like me and because I know me, I formulate my opinion of you based upon what I know of myself. And, you are different than me; you don’t make sense.


For those that this doesn’t make sense for, I would ask if you’ve ever felt “different”. Or, if you’ve ever been witness to “different”. Different isn’t always about judgement, dislike or disapproval. Often, it’s just about the unwillingness to understand. It’s like going to a Halloween party and being the only guest not wearing a costume. You may surely get a few arrows slung your way, hopefully, in good fun, but no one really actually cares to know more. Except, you care. You can’t help but feel uncomfortable and wish you were like everyone else; at least maybe for that one night.


Would it really be better to be like everyone else? Is that really the point? At the end of it all, whether it be that night, that year or that lifetime, there is just your truth of your Self. Not wearing a costume when everyone else is, takes courage. It takes bravery and trust in who you are. It takes an understanding that you, no matter how your pieces fit together, contribute to the true universal puzzle.


We often think that the true, real “us” is scary. But, the costume is the truly scary façade. It is the shroud that conceals what is really there. It is inevitable that the longer the costume is worn, the more it becomes tattered and torn, revealing what is underneath. If we become the costume, we not only fool those around us, but we fool ourselves. We deny who we truly are. And, who we are is what is truly beautiful.


That which is not true, cannot truly be Loved. The ultimate goal, whether or not a part of your current lifetime, is that of unconditional Love. One cannot give what they do not possess. Unconditional Love does not come with a costume. It comes with the acceptance and embrace of what is true.


The more the truth is embraced, whether from the privacy of your own home or bellowed from the top of a mountain, the more powerful the Love of the universe grows. It’s like the CareBear Stare. More Care Bears = stronger stare. More Love of the truth = stronger universe.


Be different.


Be Love.




do or do nut….the choice is yours.


It seems counterintuitive to believe that anything with a hole in it could be complete. That, the emptiness is the way it’s supposed to be. The way the Universe intended it.

An absence of whatever it may be can’t help but be thought of as something that needs to be filled. It’s easily, and often, interpreted as that we are without.

And so, when we experience the feeling of without, we are triggered and driven to remove the void and remove the feeling.

Lack is nothing more than a feeling; an idea. What of a perspective that considers the desire or need to eliminate the lack is actually what creates it?

Your daily life is exactly this. A person doesn’t need look any further than the thousands of ads and commercials seen each and every day about what they don’t have, but now need.

If you didn’t know you needed something, would you still?

The excess of consumerism is an easy one to poke a hole in. But, this isn’t about overriding outside stuff with inside stuff. This is about overriding inside stuff with, well, more inside stuff.

Most intrinsic thought systems want to tell you that if you’re really going to get anywhere in life, both Earthly and spiritual, you have to fill your Heart up. And, I agree! Of course, I agree. That being said, philosophical argument can present that as soon as you’ve introduced a consciousness to an idea that it needs to fill something up, it will think it’s missing something.

Your Heart is missing nothing. It is complete. And thus, as are you.

This is what I mean about replacing inside stuff with more inside stuff. Nine out of nine times, we try to use outside stuff – materiality, attention, diversion – to patch the perceived “holes” of the inside stuff – self-worth, confidence, Love.

At the same time, we also use really wonderful things in life to patch those inside “holes”. Things like helping others, relationships, building a family or what we believe to be a particular station in life. Don’t get me wrong; these are all amazing things, imperative and invaluable toward the goal of living a fulfilling and meaningful life. But, they are not the answer to the perceived lack.

Much like the ads and commercials, we’ve been convinced that we need an external reliance of the “inside stuff” to fill up our Hearts. We try to find the beautiful parts of life to make us complete. But, the beautiful parts of life are just that, beautiful. They’re not meant to complete you or me or anyone. It’s the reason why, when we chase after these things and finally attain them, that we don’t understand why the feeling of absence is still there. We believe the wonderful “inside stuff” was supposed to take care of it all. It’s a not a crazy concept. It’s compelling in its sensibility because the foundation of the belief is found within the meaningful parts of life; giving, sharing and Love.

The simplicity of it is that you are not missing anything from your Heart that the inside-out or outside-in, beautiful or not, can or will fill up. It is just the idea, the perception, that our Heart will only be full once we’ve achieved the sincerely meaningful things in life. It’s just an idea.

The truth is that you are meaningful in life as you are. The hole is just an idea. You are complete. You are whole.

Be Love.



you’ll jump higher

Soul searching.

We probably don’t do enough of it. If at all. Or, maybe just not the right way?

It’s not a new theory, rather just another branch of the tree. And, it’s not your fault (it is, actually. Just trying to be nice). It’s “not your fault” because of the world you live in, same as me. And, that is a world that is nothing but go. “The world stops for no one” is no longer a philosophical barb. It, literally, is this world.

The reason it really is your fault, and mine, is because soul searching takes three things: the ability to question, a few moments of the day and your own self.

Soul searching, on the level I wish to give attention to, doesn’t just further you, it furthers everyone. It’s not just a matter of introspectively dissecting your inner being to discover or resolve or understand who you are. It can be, more fundamentally useable, just to ask one’s self, “what am I doing?” or “why am I doing it?” With anything.

It’s something that can be done for the most minute details of your day, as it can for the most grandiose crossroads in your life. It really truly is just the intention to stop and ask yourself about what you’re about to do or what you’ve just done. There’s answers on both sides.

Soul searching applies to everything. If you give it the time and power over the circumstances and decisions in your life, it will pay you back with the answers. Soul searching will tell you where to go in life, where not to go in life, how to realize your full potential, how to help someone else realize their full potential, how to treat other people, how to treat yourself. And, everything in between. “Should I eat this piece of cake?” Yes!

When you connect to the ethereal part of yourself, doing so by simply having the desire to engage in communication with that channel of your consciousness, you’ll open the floodgates not only to who you are, but to how you are part of the Universe; part of every part of the Universe. And, therein, when you tap into that frequency, it’s not just you that goes further, it’s everything and everyone that goes further.

I believe in Love. I believe in the beauty of the world and of the people that live here. But, I also believe there’s a lot out there, too much in fact, that is doing its best to stomp the Love and the beauty out. The Universe needs your help to stomp back.

Search. Ask. Stop. Be alone. Find peace. Your true natural state of being is that of calm tranquility. When’s the last time you felt calm tranquility? Reconnect the connection. It’s never lost.

The true underlying meaning of all this is that we don’t treat each well enough. We don’t treat ourselves well enough. We allow too many things that don’t matter to get in the way. It just can’t work this way. There is so much more to who you are then what you give yourself credit for.




Be Love.





a six-letter, four-letter word


Your world is changing.

All around you, there is change. Change of a sort that is not universally perceptible but rather individual. As though, specifically, particularly, tailor made for you. Just you.

It’s a change that only you will experience. It’s a change that only you can experience. You could attempt to speak about it. But you won’t need to. You could try to explain it. But truthfully, you probably won’t know what to say or how to say it. “It’s just different”, doesn’t really cut it.

But, you won’t really care. Not in the way as to turn your back on everything else and walk away. But to realize that this change doesn’t require you to care. It’s just requires you to take care.

You’ll feel the change in the warmth on your face from the sun, the sway of the trees in the wind, the ability to “see” the beauty in everything, the peace and calm inside of you – the peace and calm around you.

You can’t hold onto this change. It doesn’t work like that. There isn’t anything with this magnitude of truth in your life that would allow you to lose it. Loss begat fear. There is nothing to fear with this change. It’s always there with you, always will be there with you.

It may be difficult to understand because nothing in your physical life will need to change, but yet everything in your life will change. You can still go to your same job, wear the same clothes and like the same music. Or, you could not do any of those things.

This change is yours and yours alone. And, it will change the world. But it can only change your world. Hearts and minds of true enlightenment and wisdom know that there is no world to change. You are your world. Hearts and minds of true enlightenment and wisdom know that you only need to be your world and nothing else.

Stop waiting for it.

Be Love.










it goes how high?

Once upon a time, there was no solar system. There was an Earth and a moon and a Sun and the stars. There was only what could be seen.

Then, slowly, our view expanded. Far away distances became closer and newer, even further away distances replaced the old.

There were planets and star systems and a galaxy was found. The galaxy that housed our Earth. There was discovery after discovery. The newer, even further away distances were now known and documented. And now, even more further and less understood distances became apparent. Our view expanded.

More stars were observed; their sizes dwarfing that of our own Sun. Further, man sought to discover another galaxy, Andromeda. This spiral galactic neighbour of our Milky Way is estimated to support more than one trillion stars – more than two times as many as ours.

And, again, our view expanded.

Light years became a distance. Parsecs wasn’t just sci-fi, anymore. Dark matter was introduced only to simply be a stranger to physical cosmology. I know????

Once upon a time, there was an end to the Universe. There was an end because it was as far as we could measure. But, the end became further and further away because the choice was made to be bigger; to be grander. To be resolute in what only was seen limited what more was unseen.

To suggest there is an “end” to the Universe, only needs reminder of the days in which the Earth was flat.

To suggest there is an “end” to your capacity as Love, only needs reminder of the grand scale of the Universe, the star that you are in it and the light that is your potential.

We measure first, then we become. We suggest we will be “this” forgiving or “that” compassionate, and then we fill that end – content with reaching the goal. What if we just became? What if we just started and didn’t stop? What if we said we will move “that” way, but that there would be no end? What if you were just Love and peace and light without a parameter? Surely, if the Universe can teach us anything, it would be that.

Your power is only defined by the definition. If the Universe is evermore, then so must you be. Counterintuitive as it seems, the limitation of your physical self enables your infinite being. It’s like, you wouldn’t know pain if you were invincible. And so how could you be infinite without first being introduced to limitation?

We stop anything because we believe it’s as far as we go or because we’ve seen someone only go a certain distance. It’s only the idea of being finite which can limit something that just isn’t – your soul, your light, you as Love. There isn’t an “isn’t” in anything that is You.

So go.

Be Love.




how to get rich….?


When I had initially thought this through, it seemed like I had it sorted out. Not that I was proficient in the practice of self-worth, but that I understood what it meant. My theory seemed “right” because the sense it made had a certain definitive logic to it. And certainly, logic can be a barometer for much in life. If you were a machine, logic would be your answer probably nine times out of nine. If you were based upon a series of algorithms or math equations, physics laws and theories of thermodynamics. Yes. Logic is your horse. But, you’re not a machine.

My original thoughts on this were an outline about how to measure self-worth. Of course, it wasn’t about what you owned or where you lived; nothing to do with how much money you had. I thought, albeit for more than a few moments, it was all about how you treated yourself; exercise, rest, meaningful relationships, fun, even, contradictory to a sentence ago, buying or doing something nice for you – all paramount to achieving and believing in self-worth. But, you know, it’s just physical stuff. Physical stuff for your physical self. It’s real, but it’s not really real. And, it keeps us, unfortunately, busy.

I don’t dismiss taking care of your physical self. Feel good about it. Do whatever you can. Buy yourself everything, if it suits you. But, it’s not self-worth. Treating yourself well is not self-worth; it’s just….treating yourself well. Good things only make us feel worthy when we have the good things. So, what about when we have the good things, but don’t feel good? There’s the “logic” of logic falling apart right in front of you. The challenge with “good things” is that when we don’t have access to them or experience them regularly, we don’t believe we deserve them. And, when you don’t believe you deserve something, you can’t believe you’re worth anything.

And so, the real challenge isn’t capturing the “good things”, it’s to not fall victim to the belief in “good things”. You can wear any mask you like; but it’s still always going to be you under it.


My initial theory on self-worth couldn’t be “right” because it couldn’t be universally applied and find consistency in its results. Not everyone has access to “good things”. There are those who live impoverished, malnourished and barely able to make it by on a physical level. There is no possible circumstance that I can believe those parameters are what define a person’s ceiling on self-worth. We’re all the same, regardless of what brand of shoes we wear, or if we’re even wearing any at all.

So, what stays consistent no matter what corner of the universe our star is in.


Treating yourself well isn’t self-worth, Loving your Self well is self-worth.

Here’s the part where you don’t get your money’s worth (or maybe you do; reading this is free, I guess); I don’t know how you attain self-worth. I know it’s inside of you. I know you probably have to fake it til you make it. I know, for sure, it’s not any of that stuff that keeps us busy. But, I don’t know how you get there. You don’t know how I get there, either. It’s not that you have to do any of this alone, but you have to do it inside of you. You have to be the one that wakes up and says, “I Love myself”. You have to be the one that meditates every morning. You have to be the one that feels like a tree in the forest. You have to be the one that hears the silence of the night on your front step as though you were sitting in the middle of the universe.

This was never meant to offer what self-worth is, it was to offer what self-worth isn’t. It was to say that I believe there is nothing that defines your apex of worth except the physical mind. The part of you, for whatever reason, that needs you to stay grounded in the physical for fear of abandonment. You can leave it behind – it needs you more than you need it.

Be Love.





Fear: an inspiration


Once, a very long time ago, Fear was new to all of ‘this’. Bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, it really wanted to make something of itself. Fear didn’t just want to go through its existence as though all was by rote. But, it didn’t exactly know how to do that. Fear knew that it had something inside of itself. Something that it knew it had to offer that nothing else did or could. Fear felt the pull, the push, the drive, the whatever-you-want-to-call-it, to be what it was truly meant to be. It knew that it was more than just to step ‘right foot, left foot’, through life. The biggest challenge, though? Fear was scared.

It had never done this before. It had never taken its own destiny in its hands. It had never really tried to be what it was supposed to be. It seemed like a really big deal to Fear. What if it got it wrong or made a mistake? Worse yet, what if it failed? Then what? Could it start over? Try something different? What would Fear do then? Would that be it for Fear? No, it couldn’t be. Could it?

The whatever-you-want-to-call-it felt too strong in Fear. It tried, for awhile, to ignore it. And, there again, it was scared. Scared to embark on a path that seemed dark and unknown, but yet as though where the light was to be found.

And so, one day a very long time ago, Fear decided to take that first step down the path. It was scary. No doubt about it. It was unfamiliar. No doubt about it. Fear tripped and fell along the way. It made mistakes; it was evitable. How could it not? This whole thing it was doing was new to Fear. But, Fear learned as it went. It tried different things, new things, old things – anything to pull out what it knew it had inside of it. Anything to step into the direction of the whatever-you-want-to-call-it of what it was really meant to be.

Now, Fear is everywhere. It’s living the destiny it couldn’t see, but knew it had for itself. Fear’s reach over its own existence has grown vaster than it probably ever could have imagined. All it really took was that first step. And, that second step. And, however many steps it needed to walk down the path that was there for it. Fear’s not scared anymore. The more Fear let the path show it the way, the more it saw the path. The more comfortable and confident it was. Fear realized that, bumps in the road aside, pursuit of true self will turn no one way. There is no other path than to be one’s true self. Fear did it. Fear became everything it could ever be.

What’s holding you back?

Be Love.