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sad ain’t bad

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As much as I’d like to believe in a world that doesn’t include sadness, my feet are also somewhat firmly-ish planted in some semblance of realism. And, although I have a daily subscription to faith in Love, believing in crazy Universe shit and that time and space doesn’t really exist, there’s still the part of me that says “be realistic”. But, “be realistic”, in a good way.

Sad can definitely be “ain’t bad”. How? I think it requires starting at expectation. Sad sucks….sorta. Here’s a “sorta” angle. Sad can often equate to the following: not changing out of pajamas – good; laying on the sofa – good; not dealing with the crap of life – good; eating potato chips – good. So, if you ask me, I’m saying, “whoa! Sign me up for sad”.

But, the shadow that’s cast upon all of the aforementioned is how we approach said emotion. We bring sadness into our lives as a weight on our Heart. As something that makes us weaker, not stronger. Pajamas, sofa, avoiding life and potato chips are great. They won’t get you far in the long run, but they’re great. So, for a moment or two, who cares about the long run? Not everything has to be about what’s down the road. I mean, if the enlightenment wagon is all about being right f’in now, and sad is your “now”, then? Get on the damn wagon!

Sad doesn’t really have to be sad. Sad will pass. You’re not really meant to be there. The path to putting yourself right starts with just being on the path you’re on, right now. Your true self isn’t supposed to be a sad self. But, your true self also wants to go with flow of the Universe. And, sometimes the flow of your Universe sucks (so you think). Just go with it. Trying to fight the flow, even of something largely thought of as “bad”, just makes it worse. What really pulls us down is the unreasonable expectation of not allowing yourself to be sad. Or, even more counterproductive, being sad about being sad. I’ve done it. Sad about sad; it’s nuts.

Now, here’s the other thing. We need sad. Why? Evolution. Evolution is the name of the game. Anyone that’s here, renting a bag of bones, isn’t here because they’ve got it figured out. They’re here because they’re working on it. I don’t care how “put together” someone appears. If they’re here, they’re figuring their shit out. The choice is, do you think of your sadness as a building block or a building demolition? If we didn’t experience the array of emotions we do, you’d never know you were out of sync with who you’re supposed to be and, circular calculation alert, you’re supposed to be figuring out who you’re supposed to be.

Without doubt, there are going to be some people that are perpetually out to lunch on this one. But, you don’t have to be. Feel like shit, but don’t waste it. Cancel all your plans, watch television til you feel embarrassed, eat cookies for every meal of the day, but….BUT, take a second to understand why you’ve brought yourself into that space. Ask yourself or the heavens or the Universe why you feel the way you do and what you should do about it. Lose the battle, if you want, to sadness. But, don’t lose the lesson. I’m not even saying to need to come out on the other side with answer. But, don’t let the opportunity pass you by without asking the question.

Finally, if I can add one more spin on this; not allowing yourself to accept sad, is selfish. There’s someone that wants to help you. There’s someone that wants to feel meaningful to be there for you. To make you smile or offer a suggestion. To be sad with you or just to give you a hug. There is. I know there is. You know the great thing about hugs? When you give one, you instantly get one right back.

Sad is here is help all of us learn; to evolve. It’s here so that we can change what isn’t working in our lives. It’s here so that we can be proud of how we bounced back. And, it’s here so that you can help me and I can help you.

Sad ain’t bad; its reputation just precedes it.

Be Love.

And, sad. That’s ok, too.

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move over, Forrest….

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Life is like a colouring book.

As the pages turn, what’s ever more apparent is that, what is there, is what is there. Everything that’s in the book is in the book, even before any of us opens the front cover. The stories are drawn upon every page, each with its own definitive outline, waiting to be filled in.

You can use the brightest colours, or you can use the darkest. You can use every colour in the box, or just a few. Heck, you can even borrow someone else’s colours or use absolutely none at all. And, you know, although those empty outlines are there to be completed, no where does it say that you have to. You can just look at the emptiness, staring into its depth, or you can scribble as much spaghettis on the page as you want. It’s your book.

On more than a few occasions, you’ve probably made a real mess of some of those pages. Thankfully, none of them are permanent. What’s done is done; it can’t be erased. But, it only stays there for as long as you choose. Sometimes, you just have to tear the page out and get started on the next one.

And, I’m sure, maybe without even noticing, you’ve created many beautiful pages. Or, maybe it was your intention all along? Those are the times where that page needs to go up on the refrigerator. Not only to share what you’ve created and to remind you of what you’re capable of, but to show you what each and every person is capable of; the beauty that each and every person has within them.

No one is going to colour their book the same as anyone else. Nor, will the pages and the outlines we start with be similar. But, the title, the theme of the book is no different for any of us.

Be Love.

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i think i’m an 8 1/2

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Whether it’s wearing the proverbial shoe on the other foot, turning the metaphorical tables or figuratively trading places; take pause. Take pause as to who you are, where you are and what you have.

Compassion is something that is always at a shortage. It’s also something that can never be overdosed on. There is someone, always, not far away from where you are right this very moment that needs help. When you’re looking for a place to charge your phone, someone is looking for something to eat. Or, somewhere to sleep.

I think I sort of get it; compassion is a tough go. Not only does it seem like the world’s problems are insurmountable, but I think we think that acting with compassion or exercising empathy means we, too, will be sad. It stands to reason that thinking about those less fortunate doesn’t really make a person feel that great and, probably, that there’s just too much to do. And so, where’s the allure of compassion and empathy when it just seems like it’ll drag us down or it’s too much work? Guess it depends upon how you think about it.

The most underused cliché is that “one person can make a difference”. Ever heard of Mother Theresa? Probably. Mahatma Gandhi? I’d hope so. How about Narayanan Krishnan, Betty Makoni, Dr Jim Withers or Robert Lee. Could you imagine one person multiplied by a billion, trying to make a difference?

Your thoughts are your power. Your power is your thoughts.

Anybody who ever believed they couldn’t do “it”, probably didn’t. Anyone who believed they could, gave themselves a chance. Compassion isn’t asking you to change the world, it’s asking you to change yours.

Live your life. Drink that overpriced coffee, watch Netflix until your brain seizes, buy stuff you don’t need. Do all of those things. Do whatever is enjoyment to you. But, maybe every time you have that coffee, you sock away $1 for someone that can’t afford the very same. Or, for every season of some junk you watch on television, you volunteer an hour at a soup kitchen or mission. And, every time you buy another new whatever-it-is you don’t need, you donate an old whatever-it-is that you don’t need.

View compassion as an opportunity. An opportunity to create something better than what it was. An opportunity to be someone’s light. An opportunity to be your own light.

And hey, maybe you don’t want to do any of those things; that’s fine. Maybe it’s just more than a person is willing to do. But then I ask, smile, at least. Be cheerful to the people you know and the people you meet. Give compliments, patience and hugs. Whether it’s the shoe, the table or the place, we all like we get those things. Be responsible for the energy you bring.

No one’s asking you to change the world, just ask yourself to change your own.

Be Love.

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it costs what for shipping?!

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You ever buy something on eBay, whatever it is, with the claim that it’s a “genuine” or “authentic” insert description of item here. Yet, you know it just can’t be “genuine” or “authentic” because, aside from just knowing better, it costs about one-eighth of what you know it should cost, the pictures aren’t helping the cause and “genuine” or “authentic” is spelled incorrectly.

Yet, sometimes, not always, maybe more than we’d like to admit, we still buy the junk.

Why? Well, it’s cheap. It’s easy. And, we probably kinda hope and think that it’ll turn out ok. Even though the little voice inside of our heads is telling us not to click the button. The ironic part about it all is, even though we’re the ones buying, you actually try to sell yourself on the idea.

But, you know what the real kicker is? We just know better. And, we still do it.

We live our lives, too much, as though we’re trying to get away with using junk. We’re not our genuine selves, or act from a place of authenticity. We take shortcuts. Yet, even though we know better, we try to sell ourselves and the people around us, on the idea that the easy way can be the right way. But, it’s not. It’s junk. Eventually, sooner than later, whatever it is will expose itself as junk and the cost to take the right path will be greater than had you just started there to begin with.

There is nothing we need to sell anyone. There is no two-way transaction here. Ultimately, nothing of what you do, think or act upon changes hands. It is simply you. Think of it as though you were the only person on this planet. Would you feel the need to impress anyone? To judge? To speak louder than you need to? No. There wouldn’t be an audience for any of it. It would just be you.

On your own, none of any of that junk would do anything for you. It wouldn’t further who you are, it wouldn’t make you feel better about yourself and it wouldn’t contribute to your evolution. It’s a distraction. That’s not to say that the people around you and the experiences you have are a distraction, it’s to say that they can act as a distraction to the genuine and authentic nature of your true self. I don’t feel inclined to give a list of the most common examples because I think we’ve all been a part of it at one time or another. We’ve all felt when we’ve tried to make that “sale”.

The Universe isn’t trying to put you to task. It’s not a bunch of trick questions on a pop quiz. It’s not trying to sell you on anything or get you buy something. It’s actually really really simple; be that of which you been armed with, Love. You. Every time you feel like you’re getting that pull that just doesn’t feel right, ask, “Is this Love? Is this really me?”

Truth is, as soon as you need to ask those questions, you already have the answer.

Be Love.

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this definitely says, “just go”!

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Not everything needs to be a process. Not everything needs to be thought over and over….and over, again.

Sometimes, eight words are better than eighteen. Or, even still sometimes, none are better than any. Especially, when they all say the same thing.

Whatever it is, just go.

Not trusting in Love, in the Universe and yourself, slows you down. Not that you need to be in a rush, but don’t you want to see what’s next? Isn’t the destination really the journey? We spend so much time with pros and cons, goods and bads, this will happen or that will happen. You know what you get when you sit on your hands and think and think and think? I don’t know, either. Sweaty hands?

Just go.

We all have that flash in our Heart for everything we need to do; everything that crosses our path. It’s that flash that guides us. But, we don’t trust it. We trust analytics and outlines, weighting calculations and rating systems. I can tell one consistent product of all of that, every time; fear. Or, apprehension, doubt, insecurity; it’s all the same. Things that pull you down not lift you up. It’s not You.

It’s okay to think about things. We all have our decision making process. But, the Universe has a decision making process, too. And, it trumps yours. It’s already decided, long ago, that you’re here to succeed.

Imagine the power you would give to yourself if, for any path you take in life no matter how big or small at the time, you were to say, “I will succeed at this”? Regardless of what the possible outcomes are perceived to be, you just say, “I will succeed at this”. How could it not go your way? It would have to because it would go the way the Universe intended for it to go. Which, is the way it needs to go because the Universe knows everything. And, if the Universe is on your side toward success and it knows everything and whatever it is in question goes the way the Universe wants it to, then doesn’t that mean you can’t fail?

Be yourself. Be the Universe. Be Love. Be as big as you can possibly be. And, once you’ve been all that, be even bigger. None of us can even begin to comprehend the expanse of our being. It’s not even close to; if you should take the job or ask the girl out or buy a new car, whatever, whatever, whatever. That’s just all the stuff that’s happening while you evolve. You are here to evolve. To broaden your thinking, to get bigger, to evolve, to be invincible.

MC Hammer had it right; “can’t touch this”.

So, just go.

Be Love.

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spare some change?

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A brief lesson in history:

 

The Earth is the centre of the Universe.

Christopher Columbus discovered India.

Candle light is the only light.

Men vote.

Encyclopedia Britannica. Or, maybe the microfiche?

Pluto is a planet.

 

At one point in time, all those ideas were real, they were “truth”. The only common attribute they possess now? The ability to illustrate how quickly and expansively change can be created.

 

Somewhere, someone along the line challenged what they knew to be, into what they believed it could be. Stemming from a desire or an intuition to be something more, something greater, something different, change was manifested.

Nothing needs to be the way it is. It’s easy to be where you are because it’s what you know. It may suck, but it’s not scary. It may be difficult, but it’s not challenging. You may not have the answer, but you’re probably not willing to ask the question. If this is you, and it’s okay if it is, your wheels might be turning, but you’re not going anywhere.

Anything can change, no matter how concrete you believe something to be. (Even the Berlin Wall came down). Let’s review the history lesson, now de-bunked. The new truths; the Sun is, America, the light bulb, as do women, the Internet, just the name of Mickey’s dog. All of those original ideas were challenged until transformation occurred. Who knows what may be true in another 50 years?

Where you are is not the only place you can go. Who you are is not the only you that you will ever be. The most wonderful and, probably, underutilized strength we all have as higher beings is the ability to expand; to think we can continuously be more than we currently are. And, that’s not to say that what we are isn’t “good” enough. It’s just to say that you can be whatever you want to create. It’s just a matter of how deeply you wish to evolve.

Astronomers and scientists will probably never know the end of the Universe. The more technology evolves, the farther way the “end” gets. The greater the ability we possess to expand our view, the more we can see; planets, star systems, galaxies; it’s endless. Your presence here works just the same.

Like the astronomer’s Universe, your Universe will expand and change with your own evolution, the way you need for it to change. Lifting the parameters of thought and possibility is the way to ask, “I wonder how far I can see?”

Challenge, ask, visualize, feel; these are really the only things you need to do to get the ball rolling. It costs you nothing other than to attempt an expansion of how your mind works. Conquering fear or complacency is no different than breaking a habit or an addiction. It’s largely thought that to effectively cease addiction, the behaviour needs to be replaced with something else. To that I offer, drop the fear and….

Be Love.

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close your eyes. do you see it?

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Which story sounds better to you? The one where your dreams come true, you have happiness in your head and Love in your Heart? Or, the one where none of that happens?

There’s a beginning to that first story. There’s a bunch of beginnings to that first story; an infinite amount, some might say (I might say that, too). Every time you close your eyes and can see yourself amongst the stars; a backdrop of black, just you and the universe; that’s a beginning.

There’s nothing more you need; you’ve got you, you’ve got the universe, you just have to make it go. If Love is your fuel tank, what’s your fuel?

Believe.

Don’t see it, believe it. It only appears when you believe it. Whether it’s specific to the last detail or as vague as vague gets, just believe.

Believe in yourself. Believe in the universe. Believe in Love. Believe in peace. Believe in belief.

Want to help someone feel good? Tell them you Love them. Want to help change someone’s life? Tell them you believe in them. Whatever or whoever it is they are, tell them you believe in them.

We all want strength and support; give that to someone. Believe in them. Change their perspective with your own. Change your own perspective with belief. When you believe in someone, you become their strength, their support. If you’re looking for meaning, you can find it there. Believe in someone. Become responsible with them for how big they can be. Making someone important makes you important. Making someone strong makes you stronger.

Waiting to receive it will take your time and nothing more. As soon as you give it, it will be there. As soon as your eyes say, better than words ever could, to someone that you believe in them, you will have it, too. That’s how we all make this go. Think about what belief can do for you; for everyone. Think about how it makes you feel and how it will fill your tank. Think of the change it will make. You’ll see.

I believe in you.

Be Love.

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what if….?

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Two words that can flip anything on its head.

“What if?”, synonymous, in at least one person’s humble opinion, with “endless bounds”. You can, literally, apply “what if?” to every situation you’ve ever been faced with or will face, in life. “What if?” is a challenge. It’s a challenge to transcend what you may be thinking, what you’ve always thought or, simply, what you believe you know to be.

It’s the jump off point to something greater; something bigger.

Think of if mankind had never asked the questions, “what if there was something better than this candle?”, or “what if I could get this horse to have more power?”, or “what if there’s more out there; out in all that space?”.

If Thomas Edison, Karl Benz and Robert Goddard hadn’t felt inclined to ask the question, “what if?”, you may still be taking your horse and buggy to the local wax store, all the while thinking Pluto is still an actual planet. But, they did ask. They challenged what they knew to be instead of dismissing the power of what they did not know to be. They allowed “what if?” to erase the parameters that had been defined for them. They allowed “what if?” to newly shape what they could know and what they could be.

Token clever/philosophical insert – “What if?” is not only a question, but it’s also the answer. Given that one can’t exist without the other, I would fathom that someone much more intelligent and articulate than I could probably argue they are one and the same. And, so I will just say that I can’t see them ever being separate. It reminds me of the long debated philosophical quandry, “if a tree falls in a forest but no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound”? The answer is, no. It doesn’t. It can’t. Sure, it’ll make sound WAVES. But, without a receiver, there is no sound. Without the question, there is no answer.

And so, the challenge is to you. The challenge is always to you; there is no one else that can make the change in your life that you want to make. There is a “what if?” at every corner and intersection of your life.

 

What if….

I react differently;

I have more fun;

I just enjoy more;

I had more money;

I didn’t care about how much money I have;

Feeling down was okay;

Feeling up was even better;

I believe I can change my world;

I believe I can change THE world;

I am just Love?

 

Change is a double header. First header; “what if?”. Second header, do something about it.

Expand. Expand your mind; expand your Heart; expand your parameters. It’s all about asking “what if” there is more? And, there is more. Find yours.

Do something about it.

http://thewhatifproject.ca/

Be Love.

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batter up?

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Your life can change in a moment.

We train for months, spend endless nights studying, work countless hours of overtime and devote all of our effort and energy into whatever it is we wish to devote all of our effort and energy into.

When your life changes, when it no longer will be what it was, it’s because of that moment. THAT moment. The moment you win or lose, pass or fail, get promoted or fired or whenever it is that whatever you were doing smacks you in the face and says, “hey, this is life”.

Your life will change in that moment.

We think about what it was that brought us to that moment, or where that moment will now take us. We think about what we could have done differently, or what we did that was exactly “perfect”. We think about who we were, or who we’ll be.

But, really, what you are, is that moment. You’re the “yes” or the “no”. You’re the “I do” or the “I don’t”. You’re the “I can”, or the “I won’t”.

You’re the Love, or the not Love.

Life is a series of moments, each of which is shaping who you are, as Love or not Love. It’s like we’ve all heard thousand times before, it’s how you react to the moment. You can’t control if someone trained harder than you, what was on the test or how many TPS reports the guy down the hall did more than you. But, you control what the moment really is.

And it’s, are you going to be Love, or are you not?

That’s all that we get to decide. There is nothing else. And, it’s a difficult idea to accept, for sure. It doesn’t seem right or fair or that all of everything of whatever it is you’ve done or sacrificed, or whatever, boils down to that moment and those two options you have to choose from. But, that’s what it is. Are you going to be Love or are you not? And, that is where you’ll find your true power.

Not power over someone or something or some situation, but power over your life. There’s nothing else you’ve been put here to have power over. Only you. Only your life. A batter doesn’t have any control over what pitches get thrown at him. He can swing, go down on strikes, or take a walk. But, no matter how much practice or coaching he gets, he doesn’t control what’s coming at him. All he gets to do, is decide about himself and that moment.

The power isn’t earned or bestowed upon you; you have it. You already have it; always have. How are you using it? Are you even using it? You can be scared and use it or be brave and use it. You can be for certain when you use it or confused as ever when you use it. You just have to use it. You just have to answer the question, “am I going to be Love or am I not?”

Be Love.

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til death do me part

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There’s only ever one commitment you’ll need to make in life. You read it; only one.

That means, whatever job you have, team you’ve joined or relationship you’re in, you can quit. Just like that. You can quit anything. And, truly, the only person you have to answer to is yourself.

Whoa, whoa, whoa….it’s just not that easy, you say? Yeah, it is. If you don’t really want to be in whatever place you’re in but you continue to be there, guess who you have to answer to? Yourself. Again. Neat, huh?

As we’re well into the 21st century, it seems as though we live with a greater amount of frivolity than ever before. Almost like a refined, modern day ‘70’s movement, but with smartphones. That being said, for all that “moving here” and “moving there” with no sense of direction, it also seems as though we’re stuck in a lot of dressed-up, traditional paradigms. And, whether we know it or not, we’re committed to the wrong things.

Maybe it’s your job, maybe it’s the catatonic relationship you’ve invested half your life into, maybe it’s your Facebook account (no one really cares what your dinner looks like or that it was your kid’s 48th month birthday – that’s 4 years old, by the way. Give it up.) or maybe it’s just the way you feel about yourself? Wrong commitments. And so, we stay stuck in the things that don’t line up with who we are.

But, we’re scared. And, rightfully so. It’s scary out there. Quitting something you’ve gotten yourself into comes with a lot of recourse. Someone might think you’re a jerk (PS that’s their problem), you might have to change the way you do things in life that you’ve done for years, you might be out a wheelbarrow full of money or the worst yet, you might have to actually confront yourself with the question of “what the f am I actually doing in my life”. But, you know what the really really scary thing is? Staying in a place that doesn’t fill your Heart because of any of those reasons.

The following is inevitable; you will hurt people, you will make people sad. Also true; you will be hurt, and someone else will make you sad. Without doing a mental do-si-do, here’s how it works – if you’re trying to make yourself happy and truly follow your Heart, without any intent toward hurting someone else (even if they still end up getting hurt), then you’re doing what you need to be doing. Heart, lead. You, follow. Make sense?

We all have a responsibility to support each others’ Heart. Some people will let you, and some people won’t even know what that is. But, there is no commitment you need to have in anything that isn’t about you. If you’re truly finding alignment with your Heart, it will want to support the rest of humanity, even if it feels like the smallest drop in the ocean.

There is only ever one commitment you’ll need to make it life. Love yourself.

Be Love.

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