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connect four….for your heart, your soul, your universe, for Love

Connection.

/kəˈnekSH(ə)n/ 1. a relationship in which a person, thing, or idea is linked or associated with something else. 2. to join, link, or fasten together; unite or bind

There was an idea, once upon a time, that I had about connection. That time wasn’t that long ago. But, it was a time, nonetheless, where I’d lived less of life than I have to this point. There goes the passage of time by which your life happens and that by which you happen upon life as time passes by. Connection has changed since the last time I thought I knew something about it. Did I learn? Yes. It is a way to explain it. Did I feel? Entirely. I wish there were the words to explain it.

It seems that connection, the time before now, may have been something I placed into a box. It was a certain something and it achieved a particular whatever it was. I thought I knew what it was all about back then, or maybe I just pretended to. Perhaps I knew a bit of something about it. It was as real then as it is now; that hasn’t changed. But, it seemed more malleable then. It could come and go, ebb and flow, be a yes or a no. I knew less back then. I’d felt less back then.

What I know now is not something I know from knowing, it’s something I know from feeling. It’s something that’s probably bigger than I ever thought it was. That’s not to say I had never thought it was something big, it’s just maybe not like this. And, as I reflect upon all that has been taught to me; all that I’ve awakened to; I wonder why it took me this long to understand something that makes the sense that it does. Perhaps better to be a slow learner than no learner at all? (the answer to that question is always ‘yes’).

There is the connection that resides in this physical plane; the one that comes and goes. It is the connection you may have with many or you may have with few. It’s a connection of commonality, of shared experiences, of voluntary and involuntary interaction and of dependence. It’s a connection you can have with family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances and the person you buy your coffee from every morning. This connection is not diminished by its definition and place. It’s a meaningful connection. There is learning in this space. It fills a need for your human-ness. It is an acknowledgement of physical presence, physical being and physical existence. It is a beautifully orchestrated composition of how, regardless of circumstance, position, belief system or demographic, we can find connection in one another.

Then there is a greater connection; a deeper connection. It is not of the same plane as that of the physical connections we experience. It is beyond that. It is not a connection you can or will establish around every corner you turn. And, although you may have known of this connection for forty years, four years or four weeks, your Heart and soul have known it forever. These connections are eternal. They have been created in your Universe and live upon the stars. You will know this connection because it won’t have a definition or an explanation. It will, undoubtedly, have a place within your physical being, as it must. A connection of the Heart and soul will also take space in the physical realm. But, of the connections we make in this place, only very few have residence in our Heart and soul; our Universe.

And so, I revisit my earlier statement; “I wish there were the words to explain it”. Maybe the words are there? Maybe they are the ones that speak about playing cards with your grandmother, or about that friend that can always lift your spirits no matter what? Or, maybe they are the words that speak about how your father would tuck you into his coat when it started raining outside or how your light never feels brighter than when you think of your children? Or, maybe the words are about the person you fall asleep thinking about and wake up with on your mind? Maybe these words are not really words at all but feelings from a bigger place that we want to make sense of? But, we don’t need to make sense of them. They are before us and they will be after us. They are your Heart, your soul, your Universe. There is evolution here. Opening up to the Love, the beauty, the fear and the pain – there is evolution there. Your evolution. The expansion of your greater being into those connections is You.

Be Love.

are you heart smart?

There is certainly no doubt surrounding the importance of mental health. In fact, although there is still a great distance of progress to be made as to the generally accepted view of how significant mental health is to our completeness as human beings, we’re getting there.

Something I believe that, not entirely ignored but, is undoubtedly lacking in presence to the conversation is that of emotional health.

The barometer of our overall well-being has always encompassed a long-standing position toward the maintenance of our physical health but is now making a positive shift to include our mental health, as well. Within that, or perhaps a third quotient on its own, I believe, is emotional health.

Because the concept of mental health, although infinitely important, being in its relative infancy with respect to its public acceptance and relevance, thought toward or even the acknowledgement of emotional health is far behind if not entirely non-existent altogether. But, it too, provides and plays such a significant role in how you perceive, interpret and navigate your reality.

Not unlike mental well being, our emotional health is predicated on how we process our feelings and the translation of those feelings through to our thoughts and actions. Our mental functioning is a direct product of concepts, experiences and beliefs that are held within our emotional field. And yet, although we understand and speak about our “feelings” when trying to steer through our mental maze, we simply only scratch the surface on how deep our emotions run and reflect outwardly from our thoughts.

The mind is a powerful ally and adversary all at once, but our heart is really the engine that makes us go; it is always on our side. It really is everything. Who we are, what we believe, how we act, are all personifications of what we translate from our heart with our mind. I, for a very long time, assumed that how I thought is what I felt. But, it’s the other way around; what we feel is how we think. Are thoughts and feelings and feelings and thoughts intertwined and, probably, inseparable? I’m sure I’d have to say ‘yes’ more than anything else. But, I also don’t believe we provide enough attention to what our feelings really say to us or where they come from. The greatest impacts I’ve ever experienced within my Self were all a product of my emotion; of what I felt. That from which translated into what I thought; thought about me, about my life, thought about the people near to me. Yet, as much as I thought I was addressing those emotions, was I? I’ve discovered that, although I paid great credence toward my heart, there was a blurred line where into my mind took over.

My life has taken me in a direction where I’ve labelled myself as a “feelings” person (get your Myers-Briggs type indicators out). And, I’ve thought that we are not all feelings type people. But, we are. We just don’t all choose to be. We feel, but we ignore. We feel, but we push away. We feel, but we internalize. We believe that just by “feeling”, maybe almost automatically or passively, that we’ve done our job of attending to that side of us. But, there’s more to it. There’s more questions to ask, more depth to embark on, more challenge to face. And, I think, that’s what holds us back; emotion is tough. It requires a lot from us to find the truth. We’re scared to learn what we might find; scared to learn what may surface about ourselves. But, emotional health and well being is not about the fear of what’s there, it’s about the healing that will come. And, it will take facing that. It will take your own resolve to make that choice.

It’s been part of my own process and my own evolution, to address these parts of myself introspectively and, pun intended, to get to the heart of what it is. It’s been a journey and not an easy one. But, I don’t view it as a difficult one, either. It just feels like it’s the journey of who I am. And, I’m certainly not done. I don’t think one would ever be done. Your heart has no boundaries and so why would you?

Be Love.

 

got ’em in a row?

I found church.

Two things; one – this is not about church. Two – I almost wrote, “again”.

I grew up in a rather religious household. It’s how my parents were raised; it’s how each of their parents was raised and so on. My “attendance” at church every Sunday wasn’t so much of a choice than it was just doing what I was told to do by the people who paid my rent to live in their house. Needful to say, I started failing the proverbial morning roll call right around the time that Saturday nights began making Sunday mornings a real tough endeavour.

This is not about church.

Not too long ago, on very short notice (the same morning, actually), a very close friend of mine invited me to church. I knew why the invitation had come and, very transparently, I knew I should accept. I was compelled, let’s call it. It’d been a long while since I’d been to such a place for other than a Christmas or a wedding. It wasn’t because I was against what it had to offer, it was because in between the time of living under my parents’ roof and about ten years ago, I developed conscious thought toward my own belief system, what it meant to me and how the choices I made in life lined up with who I was evolving into. “Church”, as I’d known it, wasn’t for me.

I almost wrote, “again”.

I found church, for the first time. Or, probably better put, I let it find me. The reason I don’t say “again” is because my first go-round with church wasn’t mine. And, that’s ok. Granted, the original reason for my near twenty year hiatus was a product of simply just not wanting to wake up on Sunday morning anymore; my prolonged absence was because church and religion just didn’t line up with what I believed in. And, I’ll call it what it was; it was boring. It didn’t feel like it supported what I wanted for myself and my evolution.

So, what’s this really about?

I go to church to now. Every Sunday morning. It’s pretty great, to be honest. I don’t think I would really call it church, though, as much as I would call it a get-together; a get-together of a bunch of people with really big hearts and no judgement. A community. I find apprehension in using terms like church and religion because of my own experience with them. I think, like me, it can close people off to possibility. I found myself in that seat for the first time, earlier this year, not because I was looking for church or religion, but because another piece of alignment with my true Self found me; because someone near and dear to me helped me find another piece of it.

That’s what this is about; finding those pieces. This “church” I go to, it’s a beautiful place filled with wonderful people, accepting of all, that are interested in the same things; kindness, compassion, helping one another and Love. It’s not about dogma and fear and the boring weekly pre-scripted narrative that I grew up with. The energy and vibration here lifts me to a better place. “Sunday best”, has taken on a new meaning for me. It’s not making sure my collared shirt is neatly pressed and my shoes are shined. “Sunday best”, is me just showing up with an open Heart, wearing jeans and a Snoopy sweatshirt, to a place that makes me a bigger person than I was before I got there. And, that’s how I leave that place; better than when I got there.

I’m grateful for what’s happened; I’ve learned. I’ve learned that I let my past define my present and my future. Had I not accepted that invitation and resorted to falling back on what I thought I knew about “church”, sticking to my guns, sticking to what had been my experience, I would have never let this find me.

It’s about alignment; it’s about opening yourself up to possibility, even if you think you know everything about whatever it is. Trust me, you don’t. And hey, do I agree with every message or belief that gets passed along at this place? I don’t. But, that’s also been another valuable lesson I’ve learned. You don’t have to agree with everything or have everything in common with or aspire to exactly the same goal or objective to experience alignment with your Self. Alignment is not about commonalities or same past experiences, it’s about vibration and energy. Often, we gravitate toward the facets of life that we feel mirror us the best. Whether it’s friends, romantic partners, activities, an occupation; we try to draw towards us what we know. It’s because of the comfort in that idea and, more prominently, the fear of what we don’t know. But, how do you further your evolution, further your growth, by surrounding yourself with the same thing over and over, again? Well, you probably don’t. You probably just continue to get what you’ve always gotten. And, unless that’s working for you, maybe it’s time to do something different? Even if it means looking at something old through a fresh lens, as has been the case with me and my new Sunday meeting place.

When we try to line up the ducks before we even begin, we miss out. We miss out on challenge; we miss out on expanding our Universe; we miss out on evolution; and, we miss out on lifting our energy. For years I’d told myself that church doesn’t line up for me. For all intents and purposes, I’d been done with it. But then, my circumstance called this to me and I accepted. Without truly knowing it at the time, it was my energy and vibration, or perhaps lack thereof, which brought me to this. And now, for at least one hour of each week, I’m choosing to put myself in a better place.

There’s nothing being sold to me nor am I selling you anything other than what’s already inside of you. We’re all meant to lift ourselves as high as we can go. Sometimes that means pulling up our socks and doing it ourselves, sometimes it means allowing others to help us do it and sometimes it just means doing something different even it seems the same. Your alignment and energy will lead you in the right direction.

Quack.

Be Love.

if that picture doesn’t make you smile, i can’t help you. :)

You don’t just ‘be happy’, you choose happy.

Makes sense, doesn’t it? You don’t really just ‘be’ anything, do you? You don’t just ‘be’ strong. You don’t just ‘be’ well organized. You don’t just ‘be’ an astronaut. You have to choose the actions that are commensurate with the goal. You choose to go to the gym. You choose to be conscientious and tidy. You choose to go into outer space. Aside from humanness, ‘being’ anything doesn’t just happen (and, even the human being thing is a stretch for some people). 🙂

You choose happy. How? By making decisions in your life that lead to happiness. You choose joy; you choose fun; you choose uplifting people to spend time with; you choose hugs; you choose peace. You’ll never be able to choose everything in life that you get. But, you get to choose how you respond and you make the decisions that support your happiness. And hey, are you going to be happy all the time? Maybe! But, probably not. That’s what human being is about. The question is really about how you’re supporting happiness in your life.

We all go through tough times. We need those times. Great learning and personal evolution come from those times. When we reach beyond adversity to find the other side, we call upon our greater self to challenge who we are and who we want to be. That is growth. That is evolution. But, there also comes the time, past adversity, past the tough time, when we find further growth by choosing to elevate our Self. It’s as though you bump yourself up a notch and create a new baseline of Self; a new baseline of happiness that has traversed and triumphed over the former. You make that choice.

I know it’s easy to say you’re not happy, for any variety of reasons. But, I challenge anyone wholeheartedly that truly believes they’ve never experienced joy, or had fun, or appreciated the company of a loved one, or felt safe in a hug. That’s the stuff that leads to happiness. Doing those things over and over and over, again. Find the resources in your life to create the opportunities that create those feelings and emotions. The more time you spend in those places, the easier it becomes for your baseline to mirror that; to elevate there. You’ll forget what it feels like to be lower. You’ll forget what it feels like to be discouraged. You’ll forget what it feels like to lack value in who you are. When you spend more time in places that lead to happiness, you take the strain off of your mind to remember what it’s like. You remove the distance between the two points. You live there, together. Through, probably some not great times sure, but surrounded by happiness way more of the time. Surrounded by support, by strength, and yes, Love. These building blocks construct themselves upon each other; they’re dependent upon each other. You don’t work toward one to, only then, work toward the next. You let them work all together; that’s where the true power is. Everyone pulls the rope at the same time. If the first person pulled with all their might, then stopped so that the second person could pull with all their might and stopped to let the next person pull and the next and the next, down to the end, everyone would end up in the mud before they knew it. You pull at all these things together.

Get basic. Read something inspirational. Watch something heartwarming. Give a hug. Ask for a hug. Lay under the stars. Stop and smell the roses. Eat chocolate. Tell someone they’re beautiful. Tell yourself you’re beautiful. Pick up the telephone, dial a number and say, “I Love you”.

I promise, you get to choose all of these things.

Choose happy. Choose Love.

 

Be Love.

Listen to something fun.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dGp8F7CHEY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ru0K8uYEZWw

can you hear me now?….

Connection.

Connection is real.

It’s the reason why that certain song always brightens your mood. It’s how you can watch that one movie over and over and over, again. It’s what draws you to a particular smell or a particular colour or a particular number (balsam, green and eight, by the way :] ). It’s connection. These are the frequencies emitted from any number of sources that resonate most with who you are. That connect with you; that tell the story of you.

Most importantly, though, connection is your greatest teacher.

Connection will guide you in an immense way. Albeit yes, although connection defines you in many physical parameters; the way you prefer to dress, the activities you like to participate in and the manner in which you represent your internal vision as your external self, connection is responsible for what shapes you most; relationships.

Connection is the reason for and why relationships enter, leave and remain a part of your life – including the relationship you have with your Self.

Think of the hundreds of people you’ve encountered in your life. Think of who has drifted through, stuck around for awhile, is here to stay and maybe even won’t seem to ever leave. Think, even, of the relationship you’ve had with your Self over the years. There are endless lessons here; joy, triumph, hurt, pain and Love.

It seems as though the general theory of connection is that it’s either there or it’s not there. And, it’s true. As elementary as it may seem to say, if a person has entered your life, there is a connection. Otherwise, they probably wouldn’t be there. But, it’s also true that connection is not just a ‘it works’ or ‘it doesn’t work’ thing. Connection is a ‘it takes work’ thing.

Connection is why you have the family you have; but it doesn’t mean that everything goes smoothly all the time. Connection is why you have the friends you have; but it doesn’t mean that you see or speak to them every week. Connection is why you have the romantic partners you have; but it doesn’t mean that you’re always on cloud eight or that any such person is even still around.

But, connection, real connection, is the reason why you do what it takes to be a family even when your physical self is frustrated and tired. Real connection is the reason why you can pick up with that friend after months without missing a beat even though your physical self has been absent for so long. And, real connection is the reason why you find a way to make it work with your partner even if your physical self attempts to stand in the way of your Heart.

Connection is rooted in the deeper part of who you are. It’s how strongly your Heart pulls you there. There doesn’t need to be a pen and paper reason for it. What your Heart says is the reason. It’s not established based upon attributes and definitions of the physical realm. Its foundation is in your Heart. Our physical limitations and boundaries are often what impede real connection, as opposed to fostering it.

To levy somewhat of a harsh opinion; if you feel as though you’re the same person you’ve always been, there’s a good chance you haven’t done any work in strengthening the connection you have with your Self. Why? Understandably, because it’s physically tough to deal with your shit. Your Heart and your spiritual being want nothing more than for you to be the beautiful soul that you are. That is your foundation of who you are. But, it’s your physical self that holds you back or convinces you that you’re “good” where you are; that you should be where you are. It’s also the reason we stay in relationships we shouldn’t. But, it is not of your Heart.

You don’t build connection; it is something that has already been long established before any of us knew so. It comes to us at the time in life that it needs to for us to evolve; to choose to evolve. You understand connection; not all will be the same. You strengthen connection; not all will get your full attention and energy. You learn and you grow. You decide which of them  will truly connect your Self to your life and to your Heart.

Be Love.

 

easy choice?

Last week, a very close friend called me saying that he’d promised himself that he would reach out with something more than a text message; certainly something I appreciated. In the same sentence, he also said he wanted to ask me something.

“Of course, man. Anything”.

Paraphrasing, he asked, “how do you write about the things you write about? How do you just put yourself out there with all of it?”

I remember my response. I paused….and then paused some more. Finally, I said, “because I’m not scared”.

I elaborated on I meant. It wasn’t a matter of being “tough” or “brave”, it was a matter of being who I am. I told him that I’d been through enough of life, of my life, to know this is who I’ve become and to be anything else would be as though I’d be swimming against the current trying to get somewhere I didn’t even want to be anyway. Or, was even supposed to be.

It made me recall a conversation, in somewhat of the same regard, with another close person in my life. It was speaking about how it’s not as though a person changes, it’s just that we all go through life experiences that lead us through and to who we really are. Those experiences are all part of how much of our heart we choose to want to unlock. That’s what evolution of the Self is. It’s not changing; it’s choosing. The part we have to play in it, is choice. We have to choose how much of our true self and the Love we have inside that we want to let out. And, it truly is an evolution; once you’ve gone that direction, it stays with you. It’s not a flash in the pan; one day it’s here and then maybe, poof!, the next day it’s gone.

I remember, in that previous discussion, giving the example of starting my meditation practice at Aromansse. It was something that ten-years-ago-me would have ever thought ten-years-later-me would have ever done, let alone be fully subscribed into. But, there I was; choosing that part of me to be unlocked. Not to change who I was, but to evolve into who I am. It’s a lot to handle at times. It’s tough. It’s scary. It’s a lot of responsibility to evolve one’s self, to almost have to let go of everything you thought you knew. There have been a few times that I’ve wanted to abandon ship. I tried. But, that’s the other thing I learned; anything that is truly of your heart you cannot go back from. I couldn’t just choose to ignore any of this. Like I said, I’ve tried when it felt like it got to be too much. When it felt too tough to accept the responsibility and accountability of this path. Too tough to accept what comes with self awareness. Too tough to embrace how much more there still is to go. But, you can’t go back. You can’t erase the choice of making your heart bigger.

And, my heart has grown bigger. From joy, from happiness, from hurt and from harm. It’s all Love. It’s all part of the curriculum. It’s all part of learning from each life experience. Would there have been things I would have done differently? Yes. Absolutely. I am definitely not a person that sits atop his pride and says, “if I could redo it, I wouldn’t change a thing”. It would be a lie for me to say that. There would have been things I would have done differently. But, I have learned from my mistakes. I have grown from my mistakes. And, more will come, I’m sure. But, I’ve chosen to accept what comes with the choices I’ve made, good and not-so-good.

And so, I’m not scared to be this. Are there things I’m scared of? There are. But, to be scared of my Self? To be scared of my heart? No. I don’t want to do that. Not anymore.

Be Love.

 

 

let there be light!

Everyone has a beautiful heart.

I invite you to think of any tyrant throughout the various eras of history, or any acts of hatred or violence you’ve ever seen on the news, or even what’s happened to you personally. Every one of those individuals you can think of has a beautiful heart.

There is no equilibrium maintained in the heart. There is only good; only beauty; only Love.  Just like how it cannot be both day and night in the same place; the system of equilibrium of the heart, is larger. The harmful acts we witness, experience and feel, whether physical, mental or emotional, are not a product of the type of heart a person has, but rather, they are a product of the type of person that person is. Those acts come from a wider system that include the heart, but are not by way of the heart. The full spectrum of that system of equilibrium houses the mind, the ego, pain, abuse and, ultimately, fear. Any choice not made from Love is made from the influence of those other components of the system.

To Love unconditionally is not to allow oneself to be hurt but to separate the Love from all else. It is the choice to acknowledge the light of the heart even though it may not be shining on you.

Unconditional Love is a choice. It’s a big choice. Not only does it mean you accept the responsibility of living in the frequency of Love, it means you have to choose to look past what you see on the outside (not Love) for what is actually on the inside (Love). You may even have to accept and understand that what you have experienced before (Love), you no longer do (not Love). Still not done – to add even more to it; you will also have to decide how much of the not Love stuff you’re willing to keep in your life and how much you do not want to navigate through. Decisions, decisions, decisions.

Choosing unconditional Love is to acknowledge the Love in every heart there is, regardless of anything else. As much as it requires an unrelenting, open heart, it doesn’t mean you do so at a detriment to your own. This is not only true of the relationships you carry on in your personal life but it’s true of how you simply carry on in everything in your life. It’s watching endless news story after news story of violence. It’s interacting with people on a level that focus on or gravitate towards the negative. (Consequently, that one is tough because it will feel as though we are connecting with the people we are sharing these stories with. And, there is a positive, productive and supportive way to do this. However, more often than not, the stories we share and try to relate upon are about something terrible someone did or how crummy of a person “so-and-so” is, rather than actually communicating our true feelings, trying to understand perspectives and being both sympathetic and empathetic.) It’s what state of emotional presence you keep yourself in and how you respond to the circumstances of your life (your vibrational frequency). And, it’s also how we replay the hurtful experiences we’ve faced, over and over, in our minds.

Frequently living in those spaces can only make it challenging to believe in the heart. It can only make it challenging to believe that everyone has a heart that is beautiful. The more time spent in the presence of these influencers, the more it shapes your paradigm of others. It’s not to say we should ignore, neglect or turn a blind eye to any of it and pretend to live in a rose-coloured reality. Nor is it to say we shouldn’t engage in and face any of it. I do it, too. I have, and will continue, to make myself a victim of it. I am human, after all. But, having the expectation to remove all of it from your life is just not realistic. We have a choice as to how much energy we want to expend in keeping our own heart strong, optimistic and full of Love in the midst of it all.

The way you outwardly approach unconditional Love is cohesive with how you experience inward unconditional Love, ie the Love and acceptance of exactly the person that you are. In truth, as I write this, the thought comes that it may work in the opposite direction. Or, perhaps they parallel each other? You, like any and every one else, have a beautiful heart. A heart that is only Love. As much as you are empowered to choose how much of it enters your life from the outside, you choose how much of it enters your life from the inside. It’s all about how and what you surround yourself with in life. It’s about what you choose to lift your vibration or not lift your vibration. Imagine the mental and emotional freedom you could possess by seeing every circumstance and every person, stranger or close companion, through the lens of unconditional Love. Imagine the mental and emotional freedom you could possess by seeing yourself through the very same lens.

Unconditional Love is a choice to see the light within every heart, it is a choice to burn yours brightly and it is a choice to decide which light you wish to make brighter with yours and which light you watch from a distance.

Be your light.

Be Love.

 

 

 

Love is what happens to you while you’re busy making plans

It’s About Time to acknowledge that Love Actually can be a bit Stranger Than Fiction; in a way by which I mean, not what we wanted to expect. What gets me, though, is despite that we’ve most likely all had this experience in life, we still attempt to convince ourselves in subscribing to a belief system that it’s “supposed” to look a certain way, to feel a certain way, to fit into a box that we probably didn’t even totally create ourselves.

We establish “ideals” that we expect from Love, yet really, the ideal is simply to be Loved and to Love. Without hesitation. Without reservation.

The challenge we all face, because we’re physical human beings, is the incongruence of mind versus heart, ie Earth versus the Universe. Do we listen to our head or do we go with the heart? How many times have you said, “well, I gotta think about it”? How many times have you said, “I’ll see how I feel”? It’s probably pretty lopsided in favour of the former over the latter. And, truthfully, even when we say we’ll check with our feelings, we usually just end up using “logic” and “reason” to sort things out, anyway. It’s not easy to let go of.

We try to blueprint Love. It’s a product of our daily intake with limited independent personal filtering and processing. It’s the movies we watch, the songs we listen to, the posts we see on Facebook and it’s a bunch of our own doing, too. Because of it all, of course we have a tough time not coming to a conclusion that Love can be figured out with a checklist. We write a story about it before it’s even happened. A story that’s not our own but one we’ve put together from various fragments creating and supporting the blueprint we think we’re supposed to want. But, how could something so big, so wonderful, be contained?

There is safety in logic. There is solace in reason. There is security in thinking something through, assessing the variables and coming to a supportable conclusion. We believe this to only be possible with the mind. We, very rarely, give any responsibility to our heart in figuring something out for us. And, it’s not just Love. Changing careers, where you decide to live; the bigger things in life, we’re too nervous to hand over to our heart.

But, the heart is not devoid of logic or rationale or reason. It employs all of those things and more; feeling, intuition and your connection with the Universe. These are big things; big things that we may not necessarily feel in control of. And, when we don’t feel very in control, we get scared. The direction that your heart is guiding you may not seem to make sense with what you thought it was going to be or what you figured it would look like, and that incongruence creates fear. Trust can be a scary thing, especially putting it into something you can’t see but only feel. And, fitting as it may be, I can’t offer a definitive, logical reason as to why you should trust your heart other than to say that I believe in it. I know that the best version of me is that one that truly comes through from my heart. I don’t know why, I can’t say how, I just know it is. That’s trust, isn’t it?

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

good choice/bad choice/same choice?

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It seems like we can get stuck a lot in life. Maybe even, like, always stuck? We do the right things, are a good person, contribute to society, all of the above, etc, etc; yet, life ‘befalls’ us.

We’re not paused in time; life happens to us. There is always forward movement independent of your own personal intention. Discernible or not, your being is always progressing. That “stuck” feeling, that’s part choice and part trying to keep up with the progression. We’re always evolving. It happens in the foreground, right in front of your face; it happens in the background, where it’s not as easily apparent – it’s always there, though. You’re not the same person you were ten years ago, a year ago or even this morning. The question is; are you still doing the same things?

Life is all of it; the losses, the victories, the confusion and the clarity. All of it. It’s how you integrate your ‘life’ into your life. We don’t change, we evolve. Life is a perpetual opportunity for our evolution. It’s the losses and the victories and the confusion and clarity where, dependent upon how we embrace the opportunities (or don’t embrace them), we move into the space our higher Self is already occupying. This is why, at any given moment, we are choosing the muck we’re in and we’re just having a hard time keeping up to where we know we should be.

It’s the way in which we face life. It’s how you choose to find the growth. I’m certainly not presenting a novel concept. I’m presenting something I can speak to because it’s happened, and continues to happen, to me. There have been peaks and valleys, intentional action and fortunate occurrence and moments where I’ve actually felt the shift happen and moments where it all was just there and I could only say, “where did that come from?” Dramatic as it sounds, I marvel at the path my life has taken. I can only believe that it’s done so because I’ve made the choice to embrace and accept my evolution. Or, even just to acknowledge that it’s happening and maybe I kinda got on board every now and then. Why and how can I say this? Because I feel bigger than I did before. Because I feel like I have more meaning, more to offer and more alignment of my Self. Sounds great, doesn’t it? It is! But, I promise you, it came with an f’ing boatload of challenge. It came with a tonne of smiles and beauty and Love, too. But, it came with a lot to deal with.

Your evolution will progress at the rate you choose, but progress it will. The rate at which you’re willing to feel the hurt, face the fear, break the pattern and open your Heart, is the rate at which you’ll feel more in alignment with your own presence. The thing is, the farther your evolution progresses without you, the worse you’ll feel doing the same things you’ve always done. The gap gets wider and wider until you start choosing life in a way that narrows the separation. We’re all here to close the gap. No one is exempt or has a free pass. You don’t “get out of” being your true Self. That just wouldn’t make sense. But, it’s not meant to be perfect, either. It’s not meant to be constant work or constant stress. It’s not meant to be done right every single time. Mistakes have to happen. The longer, tougher path will inevitably be taken from time to time. You will get stuck. It is the experience. But, you also have to choose to not be stuck. You have to choose to smile, to laugh, to screw up, to be scared, to feel vulnerable, to break down, to rebuild and to Love.

“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you have to go, just remember how far you’ve come.”

Be Love.

get your parka

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; a driveway that will need clearing in the morning, the impending reality that traffic will probably be a mess on the way into work tomorrow and the potential that spring will be delayed that much longer.

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; how silent and still it seems outside, how the tree branches are shimmering beautifully white and that it almost feels like it could be Christmas, again, in a couple of weeks.

Are either of those paragraphs any less true than the other? Does the perspective in either of those paragraphs cancel the other out? No, to both. But, one of those narratives makes my Heart smile. And so, today, I choose the one that does that.

This is life. This is the choice we all have, each and every day, with each and every experience. We can choose to see the traffic jam or we can choose to see the shimmering beauty. And yes, I know, life can feel like a blizzard at times, for all of us. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t be in the storm and still experience something beautiful; something that lifts your Heart.

It’s too easy of an excuse to blame the storm; to place fault. Instead of finding fault, why not accept the responsibility to yourself, to your Heart, to see past the tough stuff through to what’s good. And, there’s always lots of good if you’re just willing to look. Finding the positive won’t necessarily stop the storm but it will certainly make the experience easier to navigate.

Choosing what’s uplifting amidst the challenges is what strengthens your Heart. It re-wires how you see what you see, how you feel what you feel and how you react to what you react to. Making the choice to let your Heart smile when it feels like you have every reason not to, is what true resolve is. It’s what really supports your true Self.

And, like anything else that you practice and become stronger at, it gets easier; you can handle more. Life’s challenges will not miraculously evaporate, no matter how positive or optimistic you can be. But, choosing to be positive and optimistic, choosing to see everything beautiful around you, will only enrich those challenges and your success through them.

Truthfully, this isn’t really even about ‘strengthening your resolve’ or ‘positive thinking’, it’s just about lifting your Heart up to the level it’s at; to lifting your Self up to the level you deserve to be at. It’s focusing on the beauty; appreciating the simplicity of what’s around you; finding every little (and big) reason to smile.

Just because there’s a storm outside, doesn’t mean you have to go stand in it.

Be Love.