Yesterday morning, on my bus ride to work, a fellow public transit user took up residence in the seat beside me. A pretty standard issue occurrence for the rush hour. On this particular morning, however, it didn’t take too long before I started feeling buddy get into my personal space. His inside leg started taking up more than his fair share of the room (and, being as though my legs are similar to that of a flamingo, I don’t use up my fair share to begin with), we was leaning up against my shoulder and I just got the, “there’s a sack of potatoes sitting next to me” feeling. Translation – buddy’s asleep.
I won’t lie, I was getting a bit annoyed.
After a minute or two of being a princess, I became aware of the response I was having (I’m doing my best to get better and better at this). So, I challenged myself – “did I really need to feel annoyed?” No, I didn’t. Pretty simple. But, that wasn’t enough for me. I needed a reason not to feel annoyed. I needed something to prove my annoyance as being unfounded.
As it usually is, the universe (or whatever, or whoever) was right on cue to help me out. And so, in my head, the thought came, “I don’t know anything about this guy. Maybe he works three jobs, maybe he has 8 kids, maybe he’s on his way to the hospital to be treated for an illness that sucks the life out of him?” The point was, I didn’t know. But, my annoyed self thought it did. It thought it knew everything.
Deep down, buddy, me, you, everyone; we’re just Love. Whatever disguise, mask or persona we wear on the outside, the real truth is, we’re all just Love. We’re all connected and invested in each other. And, whether we know it or not, believe it or not, care about it or not, we all just want to find that truth inside of us.
That morning, I was okay with him leaning on my shoulder. I was okay with letting Love taking a rest on me for a few minutes.
be Love.
You are such a nice person with a big heart. Not so many people can be as thoughtful and understandable as you are. I have seen people who reacted emotionally in these situations and I know they have the right to react in that way, but it is not the best way. Your way of thinking and resolving these issues is one of the best. What you have done is put yourself in other people’s shoes and understand that there is an acceptable reason for why they have annoyed you. Then you forgive them. Attitude plays in an important factor in our daily life. Someone back to my home country say if you think positively, you put yourself in paradise; and if you think negatively, you actually torture no one but yourself and you feel like in hell. There was a time back to a couple of years ago, I had been struggling of why I have to be the nice one and it seems nice people always be the one take other people’s trash. Now I don’t think in this way anymore. I begin to realize that the reason why a person is nice is because by being nice to others, they feel happy and they don’t torture themselves. I know that when I am mad and yell to others, I am actually the one who is suffering from losing control. The nice person when they run into situation would simply put a smile and don’t get themselves into the torturing process. I still get angry from time to time, but I try to cool it off by myself. So in conclusion, I think nice people are happy people because of their positive attitude. Take care, tomorrow is going to be chilly, so dress warm!
I think this s wonderful post. I would add something further, but you’ve said everything I agree with. Choosing to be happy and positive is of complete benefit to ourselves. The great by-product is that the people around get to experience our happiness and positive attitude.