Ever try to fall in Love with yourself? Probably not. That’s probably a really weird thing to suggest.
But, think about it. Most of us, at some point in our lives, will try to get or hope to have someone fall in Love with us. We’ll puff out our chests, bat our eyelashes or plume out our feathers however we can. Why? Because we want to be noticed by whomever we’re trying to be noticed by. By whoever’s affection we’re after.
How come we rarely, if ever, try to attract our own affection?
I’m not saying you need to be a narcissist and walk around like you’re better than everyone; making Vanity Smurf look humble in comparison. But, maybe it’s time to start knowing you’re perfect and you deserve your Love.
One is the loveliest number.
So, let’s be a little off the wall for a minute. Let’s say you’re vying for your own affection. It’s you on you. How do we treat ourselves relative to how we typically treat another person?
Ever notice someone you find attractive? Ever notice the same about yourself? Or, do we continually remind ourselves about how we’re not “good enough”? I promise, we all have countless attributes, both inside and out, that make us beautiful. They may not be the same as someone else, but they’re ours.
Ever want to buy someone the best gift ever? What happens? You think about what it would be. You find the exact item. You wrap it perfectly. And, you eagerly, with Love in your Heart, give it to them. You want to make them smile; and know you’re thinking about them. What happens when you buy something for yourself? Do we say, “Hey Me, I think you’re really great and although it’s just a material item, I want to give you this because I care about you”? I think we usually just “want” or “need” whatever it is and go out and buy it. Not thinking about how we can Love ourselves and make ourselves smile with the gesture.
When’s the last time you bought yourself lunch, not only because you need to eat, but because you want to enjoy your company with a nice meal? You don’t need to make a reservation for one by candlelight, but maybe ask yourself if you can buy you lunch because you’d like to spend some time together.
You don’t need a “big spoon” to have a cozy time on the sofa. A blanket, a cup of tea, a movie or some quiet solitude can help you feel your Love inside.
I realize that the things I listed are largely “surface” things. But, the truth is that you don’t really need to do any of them to know that you deserve to Love yourself. I use them as the little push to find the Love within us; as the way to lead into knowing you can Love yourself no matter what and that you don’t truly need anyone to have Love in your life. If it means being a little corny and winking at yourself in the mirror or wrapping a gift to give to yourself, why not? Why not help yourself Love your Self?
Ever heard the idiom, “you have to fake it til you make it”? I know you have. So, maybe actually just give it a try.
be Love.
“I have to love myself before I can love others”, this is from the song called “love or truth”. I think I have to love myself to give me the strength to love others. I mean first I possess lots of love inside of me so I can share my love with others. I shop a lot for myself as I dress up and behave the way for myself, not for others. Beauty is a reflection of what inside of us, your gestures, your words and you behavior are driven from what is inside of you. I always like spend quality time with myself, such as watching movies, shopping, reading, cooking and getting as much as quality sleep as I can to make me healthy, Each day I spent most of my time at work, and after deducting the time of eating, sleeping and showering… the time I can give to myself is not that much. So I always have to make sure I spend sometime with me. By saying this, I didn’t mean I don’t like spending time with my friends. If they need my help even just want to talk to me on the phone, I would like to listen and give my best advice as I can. The best part in life is when we look at the mirror, we really like the person in the mirror, not because how we look or what we dressed up, but the way we are. Spending time with myself is not because I am lonely, it is because I love myself and I want to spend time with myself 🙂 Be love, be happy and be bright!
Today’s lesson: in order not to feel regretful in the future, love the people who are in my day-to-day life at the present. People tend to be blind when they have something so important to them and didn’t realize & appreciate what they have at that moment, and start to feel regretful when it is too late. No one can travel back to the past unless the time travelling cat really exists. We all should start love and respect ourselves before we can love others. When a person is confident enough with the love he/she has, he/she won’t be jealous, mad and upset easily. I just want to love without regret and love as much as I can. Life is about experience different feelings, and we should all experience those positive feelings as much as we can. Whenever we feel negative, it doesn’t do any good to us. Being negative is a self torture process and also sometimes torture the one we love. A strong person is not the one who receives love, but the one who gives; the logic behind this is the giver has sufficient love and he/she doesn’t calculate the gain/loss in love. Actually there is no gain or loss in love. How can we lose love? We don’t. We just didn’t realize how much love we have deep down inside of us. I will never torture myself again or those who I love. I like the positive version of me, so I am going to eat an ice cream shortly. Our life is about making choices and we are responsible for our choices. I am just so lucky to meet whomever I was supposedly to meet in the past and they contribute the part that making me strong. I will give the best of me to the people I love, because we never know when we will have to hug each other and say goodbye. Life is full with surprise and uncertainties. The person you are hugging now my disappear the next second. Sometimes I feel if I don’t hold and hug this person in front of me, I may lose him/her the next second. There are still to much I want to say here, but for now I will stop here. As long as you post, I will comment, so my dear friend, I will talk and share with you later. I am going for ice cream now to power up for tomorrow. 🙂 Take care and be bright!
Spending time with ourselves is one of the most important things we can do. Many people, however, do not. Often, being alone with one self, requires a very introspective look. We may see things we don’t like, or maybe we already see these things but are trying to ignore them or avoid them. Being alone and doing things for ourselves is a step in Loving who we are. And, as you said, not because of our appearance, but because of who we’ve grown to be inside.
But, I believe sharing the Love we have, inside and out, is all part of the growth process. If I waited til I fully Loved myself to offer Love to others, well then, I would be fearful that I would never Love another person. Maybe, true unconditional Love and compassion is not attainable until we offer to ourselves, I don’t know. But, I do know that surrounding ourselves with Love will only continue to grow us in that direction.
Be Love.