Ah yes.
“Love yourself”. Yet again. It’s big one. It’s important. It’s kinda everything. And, I’m sure this won’t be the last time we talk about it, either.
The reason that Loving yourself is the top banana, is basically this, freedom.
Loving yourself is dropping the expectation, it’s letting go, it’s forgiveness. It’s all the fluffy shit everyone believes is easier said than done. But, it’s not. It’s really not. We just say that so that we don’t have to face it. We don’t want to be different, or adversarial, or unagreeable, or….wait for it, have to deal with ourselves. If you want to Love yourself, all that and more, is on the menu. With a big helping of lighten the fuck up.
I really don’t know how much I can preach about this stuff. It’s just something you have to do if you want to make ground. There are so many things in life that we do that aren’t showing ourselves Love. When you put yourself in a place of disharmony or unrest, it’s withholding Love from yourself. When you withhold Love from yourself, it’s going to be pretty difficult to offer the Universe the best version of yourself. And, that’s what it’s all about; being the best version of you. We all, including you, benefit from that version.
So, what stands in the way of not Loving ourselves? Fear. (Broken record, are we?) Some people will think that fear is the opposite of Love. This camp doesn’t think that. This camp thinks that fear is a just a jerk that stands in the way of Love.
Any instance we create for ourselves that imbues dissonance from our Heart, is because of fear. It’s fear of consequence, it’s fear of loss, it’s fear of the unknown. The real truth is, you can say “no”, you can tell someone you don’t want them in your life any longer, and yes, you can quit your job. It’s not the only one out there.
Shedding the desire to avoid fear and moving toward bringing in Love, is what will create your freedom. And really, isn’t that what we’re all searching for on some level? Freedom from stress, from financial obligation, from a destructive relationship, from negative self image. It’s freedom. And, the ultimate freedom, is the one where you just pile on mountains of Love on yourself. What’s most important? If I Love myself, or if someone else loves me? I have to live with me every day. I owe it to myself to make me numero uno. And, the truth is, all that time we spend trying to make sure everyone loves us, how much of it is really Love? Love, with a capital “L”?
Two things and I’ll let you be. One – ask yourself, as much as you can remember, “am I showing myself Love right now?” Two – if you’re not, “what am I scared of?”
Be Love.
First of all, I want to apologize to banana as it is a good fruit, which is healthy and easy to get ready for us to eat. However, there is a reason that I don’t like banana that I am not shamed of. It has nothing to do with banana. So, I am sorry to banana. I am so relieved after reading this post as not only I agree with you, but I also have made a decision to say no to people in my life. Today, someone commented on some of my actions face to face, and in my opinion, I don’t think that person doesn’t really cares for me but rather just enjoy finally he can comment on someone whom he knows won’t argue back. He represents a group of people from my culture that girls will have to act gentle and not argue back in front of guys to keep the what so called harmony. Now harmony doesn’t matter to me, and it is my happiness and my love matters to me. I called my parents told them what has happened today and as I have expected, my mom said “he is a good friend as he pointed out your weakness right in front of you for your benefit”, I replied “no, that is not out of my benefits as he doesn’t know me as if he knows, he should have realized that I have been bearing with his comments for a long time and ready to end this friendship”. I then told my mom that now I am not afraid letting this type of people go in my life and I would rather be alone all my life, but not want to have friends like this. I am strong enough to take care of anything. This type people sometimes really annoys me as they begin with “for your benefit” to put them in a noble position, but their words are uncomfortable and hurting. I am ready to tell that person or people like that next time when they come to me “I am busy and now if you would excuse me”. I am tired of being that “nice” person to take people’s trash. However, don’t get me wrong, I will still take care and love those ones I love and I care for. This is all because I have chosen love. I can’t love everyone, and it is out of my scope. I am happy in front of those I love but sometimes when I say them with the ones that I am not so fond with, I feel a bit upset. But love is love and I wish those I love can feel my love with them. I am not perfect and sometimes my way of love is to keep myself in a shell when I am not feeling well and will come out again when I am ready. I will be consistent no matter which group of friends that I am in front of. All right be love, and be bright. One more thing, water-melon is good for you too, red & green, bright color & bright love!!!
It’s very difficult, but often, those tough relationships teach us the most. I understand how this can be challenging for you, but before you decide to remove this person from your life, ask how you might grow from it. You don’t have to be victim to it by believing this person’s words, or feeling less important, or being downtrodden. However, maybe there is opportunity to find a learning point for you? That being said, maybe there is not? Maybe your growth will happen as a result of saying to this person that you no longer wish to carry on a relationship with them. That is showing yourself Love; by having the courage to remove those barriers to being Love as much as you possibly can be.
I hope you find the silver lining.
Be Love!