Chances are, you’re probably doing it wrong.
It seems as though you have it figured out, but you probably don’t. Not entirely, at least. It’s the reason why you could usually feel better on any given day. Or, every day, for that matter.
It’s the credit you give to yourself. It’s what you believe you’re worth. Or, lack thereof; on both accounts.
Consciously or not, you’re judging yourself all the time. And, most likely, not measuring up. It’s not your fault, though. It can’t be. To be surrounded with the “ideals” and the “perfections” the way we are, would leave nearly anyone with an insurmountable level of insecurity and uncertainty.
Whether it’s how you look, where you live, how many friends you have, the job you go to, how charming you are; it’s not enough. None of it offers a true sense of self-worth. None of it really taps into who you really are. Even the people around us, those that we “love” and those that we don’t “love” all that much, often unbeknownst to them, contribute to our lack of self-worth.
It’s because we’re doing it wrong. We’re using the wrong scale of measure. When what you’re comparing to, what you’re attempting to measure up to, is outside of you, you’ll never reach it. How can you reach anything that is and will always be outside of you? How can you be anything that isn’t YOU?
But, it’s what we’re conditioned to believe. Sure, we’re told that it’s okay to be us and that we, in fact, should be who we are. But, we’d be a better ‘us’ if we only had “insert here”. And, I’m not just talking about stuff. I’m talking about being smarter or more fun or charismatic or happy-go-lucky. If none of that stuff is in you, then what? You don’t feel worth a damn, that’s what.
There’s only one scale. It’s your scale. Only you get to use that scale; no one else. And, no matter what, you get as much credit as there is to be gotten, every single day.
How else will you be able to allow yourself to be Love? It’s not anywhere but inside your Heart. I know it’s not easy to ignore what the magazine covers say you should look like, or why your parents feel the necessity to point out everything “wrong” that you do, or why you can’t find that perfect relationship to share with a partner – but why fall into it? Why strive to never be able to reach the outside?
It’s not about what you’re doing “out there” or how much you’re accumulating or who you’re impressing. It’s what you’re doing to feel your Heart and what you’re doing to help others do the same for themselves. The only Heart you can touch is yours. That’s why it’s your scale and yours alone. That’s the measurement to which there is no limit. Every day that you’re living in your Heart and from your Heart, is the best you could ever do regardless of what that translates into or looks like. All it takes is the willingness, your Heart and You.
And, just for the record, when you begin to transform your life based upon that scale, everything translates into Love. 🙂
Be Love.
There is a scale to everything as long as you want to measure. When it comes down to be happy, it is the motivation behind you that make you work hard to get what you want. The motivation will get you through the tough time. Credit, popularity and charming… actually doesn’t matter to others, it is us who think they are important. I feel so happy that I know whom I love and whom I don’t love. I used to feel so upset that why I don’t like this particular person. And yes there are many reasons. Now I don’ feel upset anymore as I am aware I don’t like this person, so I don’t have to waste any more time on him/her. Good to me!!!! What I am trying to say is as long as we are aware what we are facing, then that is good! That is better than we don’t know and keep on feeling upset. You are right that we shouldn’t focus on what outside of us, but rather those factors inside of us.
We always know, inside, what it is that we are facing. We choose to feel upset or choose to be in a place we do not want to be.
We always know what it is that will make us happy. We don’t need anything that we don’t already have except to open our Heart.