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50 shades of Love

Recently, I was asked, “do you think there are different kinds of Love?” Immediately, I thought, “great question”, followed by, “yes” – sort of.

We hear the word “Love” all the time; “I Love this song”, “I Love shawarma”, “I Love lamp” and “I Love you”. But, what do we really mean? And, when do we really mean it? We “Love” a lot of things that are as easily forgotten as they are remembered. Ultimately, the existence, or lack thereof, of those things won’t compromise who you are or how you live. In a month’s time, you might like another song or find a new place to eat. It’s surface stuff.

But, what about the not-surface stuff? The Love we show for others? We Love our parents differently than we Love our significant other, than we Love our friends or our teammates. There are enough derivations that we almost need an instruction manual.

The Love most of us experience on a daily basis is a wonderfully beautiful emotion. In any form, Love can possess immense power. It gives us hope, inspiration, joy and a sense of purpose. Love makes us feel good. It also makes us feel bad. This is the Love that often comes with conditions. We need our partner to Love us back. We Love our best friend until they disagree with us. We Love our parents, sometimes, just because they’re our parents. A person we “Love” can quickly become a person we don’t. Love based on expectation and contingency has the ability to exert a gripping power over us.

Don’t get me wrong, I believe that this embodiment of Love is an amazing phenomenon. It gives us unparalleled strength. It’s just that, for as much strength as it can give us, we are also vulnerable to having that strength taken away from us.

The truth in my Heart is that I know there is only one kind of Love – pure Love. Pure Love is not in you, it IS you. It’s the Love you give no matter what. It doesn’t come with prospect or hope of reciprocity. It doesn’t gush over lust or dwell upon disappointment. It’s simply an unwavering force that has no beginning and no end. Pure Love doesn’t know any boundaries. It’s infinite.

Love is blind.

An idiom that couldn’t be more true. Pure Love IS blind. It doesn’t know your name, or your age, or your job. It doesn’t know where you come from, the colour of your skin, or what faith you practice. It doesn’t know what you’ve done or haven’t done. It’s just Love. It sees everyone, and everything, the same – as an opportunity to be an uncompromising and unrelenting power. It’s a power of the most humble expression. It’s not something to be exerted on others or held to any standard; it’s a brilliance that we can all shine from.

Pure Love is the “no strings attached” Love, it’s the “Love your enemy” Love and it’s the “no matter what you do to me; you can’t take the Love away from me” Love. It’s the Love that Mother Teresa, Gandhi and Jesus lived. Because none of those people are any different than you or I, it’s a testament that it’s a Love that we can all live.

Be the Love that is you. You have opportunity each and every moment of each and every day. Let go of thinking about what Love can get you and understand what Love can give you. The Love you offer and the Love you receive is dependent upon only you. This is the foundation of pure Love. This is YOU.

be Love.


be Love

Everything you do is an opportunity to be Love.

We’re gonna say that a lot around here. It’s one of the truths at the[heart]movement.

Doing something with Love doesn’t have to some elaborate, grandiose gesture. The easier you are on yourself, the easier it will be. Castles and temples and palaces weren’t constructed with one enormous block of material. Each brick, each stone, each slab, was purposefully moved into its spot to form the foundation and integrity of the structure.

And, it takes time.

Lots of time.

Start small.

You don’t have to draw up detailed blueprints or devise radical plans on what you’re going to do. Rather, just acknowledge the power of Love inside of you and let it be your guide. It’s there. Whether you think it is or not. You might have to give it a nudge to wake it up, but it’s there. Trust that.

Little steps will still get you where you need to go.

Start holding doors open for people. Let someone with less items in their basket go ahead of you in line. Write a cheque for $10 the next time a charitable group sends you something in the mail. 

I can guarantee, the more you open up to the idea that you are Love and act from a source of Love, the more that Love will open up to you.

About 2 years ago, it was suggested to me that, for one week, I do my best to see everything and everyone as an opportunity of Love. All I had to do was remember that idea and put a bit of effort into it. So, I did easy things; I said hi to whoever was in the elevator with me, I looked people directly in their eyes to offer them the most earnest thank you for their help or service to me, I smiled at as many people as I could; especially those less fortunate that I would pass by each morning on my way to work.

As advertised, the more I did it, the easier it became. It didn’t take long before I was thinking less and less and doing more and more. It started feeling second nature; more instinctual.  The results were amazing, to say the least. Not only did I feel good about my actions and better about myself, I saw the Love in other people. It wasn’t only me offering these simple gestures to others, but others were offering them to me.

The week, fittingly, culminated in my most important lesson of all. It was the Thursday of my “be Love” week and I was crossing the street behind my building just as a fellow was making his way across the street toward me. He fit the profile of exactly what a hard-nosed downtowner would look like; baggy pants, hat pulled down low, hands shoved in his pockets. And, that’s exactly what I did, I profiled him. I thought that this guy doesn’t want to have anything to do with my “be Love” project or my smile. So, as we crossed paths and exchanged gazes, I became stoic. I was tough. I could be just as tough looking as him.

In that moment, he was my teacher. He showed me that there is Love in everyone and comes in all sorts of packages and appearances by offering me the most sincere, peaceful smile anyone ever could.

In, literally, one split second, this person taught me one of the most valuable lessons I’ve been lucky enough to experience. And, I’m ever grateful for it.

Go out there and try your own “be Love” experiment for a week. Or, a few days, even. See what happens. I’ll have to be honest, though, I’m no longer doing this experiment. I’ve had the results proven to me and now I try to live it every day.

be Love.


what if….?

What if….you were just Love?

What if every thought you had, every action you took, every feeling you felt, was on a foundation of Love?

What if you offered a compassionate smile to a homeless person rather than deny his existence by turning your head?

What if you just gave to give?  Not for accolades or rewards, but because someone needed what you had.

What if you looked in the mirror and saw your beauty instead of focusing on your flaws?

What if, when you thought, “I should listen to my Heart”, you actually did?

Your Heart is the answer. It can and wants to do EVERYTHING for you. We put a pretty basic physical responsibility on our Heart; to run the body. Power this, pump that, keep me going day to day and, hopefully, don’t overheat. Without it, physiologically, you’d have a tough go at staying ALIVE. Its strength, however, is infinitely so much more. Your Heart is your LIFEFORCE. Without using it spiritually, emotionally and mentally, are you really actually LIVING?

Your Heart will rack up more life experience than any other part of you. It’s the first thing to get here and it’s the last thing to go. It can feel, think, ache, work, act; the list goes on. There’s no substitute for the experience it has, and yet, how often is it that we ask our Heart what we should do?

We often believe that we need to agonizingly weigh every option, process every possible variable and evaluate each potential outcome. Only then, will we let our BRAIN make a calculated decision. And, in many circumstances, it’s a decision that is pretty much second guessed and waivered upon the very moment after we’ve made it.

What if there only was one decision to make?

To choose LOVE.

Your Heart doesn’t weigh the options. It doesn’t analyze all the potentials. It doesn’t play out all the results. It already knows the answer. It bases everything it does on Love. If you make a decision using Love as your foundation, you’re making the right decision. I know it sounds PollyAnna, but really, how else can you put it? Trust that if you’re doing something from Love, you’re doing something right.

You don’t need to do anything drastic. Wake up in the morning and say to yourself, “I am Love”. If someone cuts you off in traffic; “I am Love”. Face frustration at work; “I am Love”. Another bill comes in the mail; “I am Love”. Soften yourself to everything that comes your way by remembering that you are Love. That’s why you’re here. To be Love.

You can still get where you need to go with small steps. Just being open to knowing that you are Love is further along than you were yesterday. Small acts can create big changes.