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billy ocean had right the whole time

There will be many instances throughout your life that you will be asked to let go. They won’t all bear the same appearance, but rest assured, it won’t just happen once. It’s not just once. If it were simply once, you’d have a single checkpoint of growth in the how ever many years you spend here and that would be it.

There’s no fun in that.

These instances we’ll all face, these instances of letting go, it’s not a matter of just throwing your hands in the air and being done with it. No. It’s a lot further from the end and a lot closer to just the beginning than it may seem. It’s the time in which you’ve reached the mark to pass off what was once in your hands to something greater. That’s when these moments arise; that’s when you get the pull to let go the most. It’s when, even though we clamour to gain control, to maintain control, it’s time to actively relinquish control. And really, what greater command in power and control than to consciously assign it to a higher force? A higher force than you, but that is You.

It’s not that you abandon your goals or give up on your dreams and ‘hope’ they’ll come to be. It’s about acknowledging that your physical self can only do so much. It’s about knowing that employing all that is available to you in this life means giving control to what seemingly appears to be out of your hands. The hands you pass it off to are still yours; just able to handle more. But, it is only fair though that you do everything you can up to that point. There is no free ride, here. That’s part of the three-way deal; that’s your contribution to your total self – you take care of the physical stuff, you make sure you’ve asked your Heart to weigh in and then you give it up to the Universe. It’s all three. It’s choosing to get into the car but not behind the wheel.

And, you have faith and you know. You have faith and you know that you did everything you possibly could for your dream. You have faith and you know that your Heart was in on it with you; that it was a true reflection of who you really are. And, you have faith and you know that the Universe will take you the rest of the way.

You leap. Be it with a job, with relationships, with changing old habits, with vulnerable communication and with allowing your Heart to be fully open. It’s why a lot of people get stuck, or make a decision that they know they shouldn’t make – they stick with trying to maintain control; it’s too scary to give it away. They don’t actually let the Heart contribute; it’s easier to make sense of what seems to be on paper rather than on true feeling. And, they trust themselves rather than the Universe; when they should trust themselves to trust the Universe.

You are in control. You are given the control to ask a greater power to take over for you; to not do it for you, but to do it with you. It has to be a choice otherwise it would have no intention behind it. There would be no focus and no directive, just fear. You don’t find what’s in your Heart by fluke. You ask for it. You ask to be who you were always meant to be.

Be brave.

Be Love.

i <3 me; pt. ii - the return of Love

Tough.

Without doubt.

It ain’t easy to Love your self. It ain’t even easier to realize you’re not Loving your self. I take pause. This isn’t about actually Loving your self. This is about trying to Love your self. It’s about trying because this whole deal, this whole “Love your self” deal, is as much about the journey as it is the destination. You won’t get it until you get it. Get it? You have to try.

The conscious thought of Loving ourselves is probably not a frequent occurrence, if maybe an occurrence at all. Yet, it’s not uncommon to come across the idea in our daily lives. Many an advertisement says we’ll love ourselves more if we just owned ______. Or, there’s even just the wall art at Hallmark that says “Love Yourself” that’s free to look at though the window, free to be reminded of; that passes by as quickly as it approached. But, that’s kinda just it. We see it, we hear it, we know it, but we don’t actually get it.

Tough.

Loving yourself isn’t easy. But, I’ll tell you this. It’s worth it. You owe it to your Self; your real Self. You and your Self are in this til the end, side by side, arm in arm, to the death. Literally. What’s more reason to take this seriously? With a smile on your face, of course (not too serious). 😀

There are many reasons for one not to Love themselves. Lots. Diminished self worth, hurtful past relationships, hurtful current relationships, the experience of abuse (be it physical, mental or emotional), self-image, broken trust and, very simply but most poignantly, not being Loved back. It’s going to be an uphill. But, the overriding reason to Love your self, is because of You. It’s what you deserve, nothing less and everything more.

So, how?

There’s some magic to it, but no magic formula. Loving your self is about some universal constants and some flexibility and forgiveness. Loving your self needs a whole of tonne compassionate Love as well as some tough love, too.

Universal constants apply to everyone. But! They get smooshed together with who You are as an individual; they become about you. Elaborate; everyone needs to be active; you’re welcome to argue that universal constant, but I won’t. You’ve got one body and you should love it. Having a healthy, positive physical self is an integral component of building the foundation to your mental and emotional self. This is a truth no matter who you are. Exercising and being active attracts positive energy. It helps flush out stagnant energy and brings in new, vital, clean energy into your body. And, there’s endless ways to do this. Play sports, lift weights, go to yoga, walk your dog, walk someone else’s dog, ride a bicycle; endless endless choices. Feeling good from exercise and activity – universal constant. How you want to do it – your individuality.

Creativity. Creativity opens up pathways to and from our soul. It expands your being and gives you an opportunity to be free, and it’s fun! You can write, paint, dance, sing, do crafts, build Lego; it’s whatever you like. It’s just a matter of allowing that channel of energy to flow through you. And, doesn’t require you to think too much or over analyze. You just….feel.

Music! Listen to music! Absorb the energy behind the words and notes. Allow the rhythm to permeate your exterior. Just let go into it. Whether you want to listen to Thirty Seconds to Mars or Kenny Chesney, just go all in and be the person who’s belting it out at the traffic light like no one else is on the road. Let the frequency lift you.

It’s about participated in your life. It’s the groundwork. It’s the stuff that you don’t actually have to try that hard to achieve. Just find things you like to do. Find things that truly feel rewarding. Ditch the sofa. Get off of social media. Eat healthful foods. Appreciate nature. Meditate. Heck, actually, all of life is a meditation! No one’s ever encouraged anyone to spend more time watching television or to eat a bag of donuts everyday. Sure, a little bit here and there with the Netflix and the crullers, but the stuff that really counts is the stuff that fosters your being. You’ll know what these are for You. You won’t have to search very deeply because they, themselves, are not overtly deep. Just look. Just feel. Just take care of your self.

So now, the really not easy one. Your Self. Big ‘S’.

This is the one that’s really tough. This is the one that doesn’t need a mirror to see what you don’t like about your self. This is the one that music can’t drown out the thoughts and the anxieities that don’t ever seem to dissipate. This is the one that, no matter how tall the wall is, will always climb over unless you’re willing to just take the wall down.

Taking care of your Self is all about how you treat your Heart. It’s about allowing everything about you to rise to the vibrational frequency that your Heart operates on. And, this is where the toughest love comes in. To Love one’s Self is to experience true vulnerability, true pain and true triumph. This isn’t the one that’s readily tangible. It’s everything else. It’s acknowledging the underlying reasons why you don’t care enough to experience all the joys (and fears) of who you are. The tough love truth is that you have to deal with your shit. We all do. We all have it. We’ve all experienced some thing or things that have brought us these lessons we need to learn. And, no. As much as exercising, listening to your favourite song and eating kale are part of the solution, they, in and of themselves, are not the solution.

Growth and expansion of your consciousness and soul requires that you break out of the shell that holds You back. Then, once you break out of that one, you break out of the next one and the next one and the next one, til you no longer even notice you’re doing it. And yes, it probably means going to hell and back. Or, so it will seem. But, it makes sense, right? We went through hell to get into this predicament we’re all a part of, in our own way. Seems to follow that getting out means going back through.

And so, there will be instances whereby you need to exercise compassionate Love to your Self. Forgiveness, kindness, reasonable expectation, the allowance to break down. But, you will also have to employ tough love. No excuses, motivation, setting goals and putting the pieces back together. And sometimes, you’ll need both compassionate Love and tough love simultaneously; like when you tell your self to find the will and the strength to want to face what you don’t want to face. If you don’t, it won’t go away. The lessons we need to learn are there to be learnt, not ignored. When we learn, we get bigger. When we ignore, the distress gets bigger. It gets stronger. It brings us down even further. And, the reason you should care is because it will become to loud to hear what’s in your Heart. You need to create the pathway to realizing what your Heart already does; your beauty and your Love.

You have to discover why you don’t like what you see in the mirror; it’s not because of the actual reflection. You have to overcome why you never feel good enough; it’s not because you’ve never experienced success. You have to learn why open and honest communication isn’t your strong suit; it’s not because you don’t have the words. You have to acknowledge the reasons why you’ve built a wall around your Heart; it’s not because you were a brick layer in a past life. This is all stuff we have to face; to come to terms with. It’s not done in solitude. It’s done with help. It’s done with choices and people and relationships that raise you to a higher vibration, not keep you where you are or pull you lower. It’s not done by drugs, alcohol, over-eating, destructive relationships or anything that is a low vibrational match to the crap you’re already in. It needs to be above that. It’s even not immersing yourself in productive things like exercise or work or meditation. You still have to face what you don’t want to face. It’s acknowledging the fear of how far away you are from where you really want to be in your life.

This one is tough, it really is. These words are not meant to cast a shadow of unreasonable simplicity. It’s going to take all of your being. It’s something that only you can do, but it’s not something you can do alone. Your Heart knows what it needs to be helped. It’s the place you need to go to first. You will be able to feel all the imbalances in your life through It. And, you will feel scared; that’s what the emotion will be. But, it’s not fear of what’s inside, it’s fear of breaking the pattern that has become so familiar. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between a positive or a negative pattern. It just knows the familiarity, comfort and efficiency of repeating a pattern. Attempting to break that pattern, invokes fear. But, to ascend to meet your Self, the pattern needs to be broken. That is the catalyst to changing and building your greater vibration. It’s how you treat your Self; how you judge your worth; how you perceive what you deserve; who you build relationships with; how you choose to Love others; how you choose to be Loved or loved (there’s a big difference between those two in my book); and how you choose to Love your Self.

The reason that this one is so tough is because no one can tell you how to do it. You have to figure it out yourself. You have to choose it yourself. We all do. You have to help yourself. You have to ask for help. You have to make tough choices. You have to make good choices. Ultimately, you have to lift your self from where you are to where your Self is. Going up is always more challenging than falling down. But, that higher vibration, that higher point of attraction, is all magic, art and science together. It’s everything. You’re everything.

Be Love.

empire of light

A rainbow is a phenomenon whereby reflection, refraction and the dispersion of light in water droplets results in a spectrum of colour appearing in the sky. It is not a physical object that can be approached, touched or harnessed and is impossible to create without a single, unified light source. When, at its brightest, it is beautiful. A rainbow paints the sky with colours whose vibrancy is unparalleled; not readily able to be replicated by any derivation other than itself. It is a perfect projection of the artistic, yet mathematical construct of nature.

You are the light source of your rainbow. The colours of which manifest themselves across the spectrum of your life. They combine to paint your sky with the vibrancy that you project. Your rainbow is reflective of the light that emanates from your Heart. It is the representation of the source that is you. It is all of it; it is your self-worth, it is your support, it is the company you keep, it is the manner in which you treat yourself, it is the manner in which you treat others, it is the fulfilment you find within your being and it is your Love.

The intensity of your light, of your Love, is what creates the beauty in your sky. It is what brings the spectrum of awe-inspiring colour to you, to be a reflection of you, to be You. When, at its brightest, it is the perfect projection of who you are meant to be. It isn’t anything that can be measured or quantified. It, too, is a phenomenon. It is the light in which you build your being upon.

You bring this to yourself. You are the light that creates the rainbow and yet it is also the rainbow that provides the beauty to you. My own rainbow; I think of the people I Love and those that Love me; I think of how I choose what is in my Heart and how I share it; I think of what is important and meaningful to me and my actions to enable the realization of those aspirations through my Heart. I know that it is what I build from my light. And that light is the integral component to creating the colours of your rainbow; of what is brought to you manifested by relationships, prosperity and Love.

It’s not an accident; it’s not a perfect storm. It is everything that is tangible and, also, not. It is not luck or a fluke. It is a concerted focus to be the light that brings onto it the rainbow. There is an actual mathematical equation for a rainbow. And, your rainbow too, has an equation; it’s found in your Heart. It is Love. It is kindness. It is consideration. It is respect. It is compassion. It is nothing you can grab or calculate, but it is everything you can feel. It is what is real and like the colours in the sky, your Heart will see it.

Be Love.

maybe it’s the party talking or the chocolate fondue?

You have forgotten.

It is not your fault.

There has been hurt. There has been disappointment. There has been fear. Enabling you; convincing you to forget. Convincing you to forget not what you are, but who you are. Convincing you that this way is less painful; that this way is easier. Your eyes will be open, yet you will not see. And that which you believe you should see, but cannot, you will forget. But, It is not meant to be seen. You can remember.

You can remember. It is your choice to remember. It is your choice to open the door. And, to leave it open. To let It in. It may not be all that enters, but It will be all that will stay. It is your choice to invite It in.

It is your choice to remember the time before the hurt and the disappointment and the fear. It is your choice to not to push it apart from you, but to make it a part of you. That which we resist only makes stronger that which we resist. That which we allow, only makes us stronger.

There is no substitute for who you really are. Hurt will try; disappointment will try; fear will try. They will all try. They will try by using that which can be seen. They will try by using that which can be seen as a substitute for that which can only be felt. You will feel It within you. Your external sensory perceptions will be muted yet what you feel will never be more heightened. It is You. That which you can feel stronger than anything else can only be You.

You are Love. You were always meant to be Love. To give, to receive, to light your way and to enlighten the way. Everything else that is not Love will try to persuade you to believe that this openness is painful. And, it can be. It will be. Everything else that is not Love will try to persuade to believe that the converse is less painful. That not allowing Love in will lessen the hurt you feel and erase the hurt you have felt. But, it’s not true. The hurt only appears to subside because it has been there long enough for you to forget who You were without it. To forget who You are with It; who You are with Love.

You have forgotten. But, it is not your fault. You can remember who You are. You have felt it. It never leaves You, It only waits for You.

Be Love!

 

Love. [i don’t think we’ve ever used that title?!]

There really is nothing else out there that compares. It’s an expression, a feeling, a strength, a peace. It can be as powerful as a herd of stampeding elephants or it can be as quiet as a mouse. Love will lift you and keep you where you need to be. It is beauty and it is wonder. It is meaning and it is reason. It is transformative.

To say that there are no requirements of Love would be….inaccurate. There are; or maybe there’s just one? Maybe that should say, “there is”. Whether it’s just one or a hundred, it will be the most ever asked of you.

Love wants you to just do one thing. Give. Give it all away. Over and over and over, again. There’s many ways and many people to give your Love to. It won’t all be the same that you show it or can even be able to show it. It might be a silent blessing in your mind; it might be a kind text in the middle of the day; it might be the biggest hug you’ve ever given someone or it might be your unconditional, unrelenting Heart for the person that means most to you. It’s all different.

The way Love is the same is that you just give it. You don’t expect it in return. You don’t judge. You don’t measure. You don’t wait. You just give. Love is not a trade. Love is a decision from your Heart, by your Heart. It is not set within a defined parameter. It is to be grateful of and grateful for. It is who you are. The Love inside of you is the Love outside of you. You give. And by giving, you receive. You don’t receive from the source that you gave it to, you receive it from you. Ever volunteer at a soup kitchen? Ever expect to have one of the people you served come to your house to serve you? See what I mean? Same idea.

Love isn’t wondering or worried about what’s on the other side of it. It knows that there’s Love on that side, too and that the Love over there can take care of it over there (which is the Love that comes to you, in case that last sentence was too vague). 🙂

It is just on you to open your own Heart and keep it open. Just yours. And by doing that, without thinking about it or planning around it, you will open other Hearts. Again, it won’t all be the same. You’ll open the Heart that will offer you a silent blessing without even knowing. You will open the Heart that sends you a kind text in the middle of the day. You will open the Heart that gives you the biggest hug you’ve ever received. And, you will open the Heart that has unconditional and unrelenting Love for you. It is that your openness brought that to you. Your intention to give and to continue to give brought that to you. It is what connects us to all of those other Hearts.

Love will change your life. It will support your life. It will create your life with you in ways you never thought were to be. You just have to let it in.

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

you get what you deserve

You deserve kindness.

You deserve patience.

You deserve compassion.

You deserve to feel confident.

You deserve to be beautiful.

You deserve to see all that is beautiful.

You deserve to accept everything about you.

You deserve to have a voice.

You deserve to stand up for yourself.

You deserve to be important.

You deserve respect.

You deserve thought and consideration.

You deserve attention.

You deserve the biggest hugs and the warmest kisses.

You deserve snuggling on the sofa.

You deserve a day off.

You deserve comfort.

You deserve to be taken care of.

You deserve to feel safe.

You deserve to be supported.

You deserve help.

You deserve to be listened to.

You deserve to cry.

You deserve to be held up.

You deserve to be lifted up.

You deserve to smile.

You deserve joy.

You deserve meaning.

You deserve to be happy.

You deserve rest.

You deserve the calm.

You deserve peace.

You deserve to trust.

You deserve to not be scared.

You deserve to be courageous.

You deserve to let your Heart speak.

You deserve to let go.

You deserve the Universe.

You deserve to be Loved.

You deserve to Love.

You deserve it all.

 

Be Love.

sometimes, you get more than what you pay for

We do a lot of things without a whole heap of restraint; we drive too fast, we eat poorly, we social media like crazy, we abuse substances, we’re impatient, we’re unkind and we’re just plain negative (see what I did there?).

What we don’t really do so freely, is Love.

Our actions, emotions and feelings, the above being no exception, come with potential consequence to one degree or another; some more graver than others. Yet, we liberally, and frequently, partake without much thought or concern as to what can potentially befall us. At the same time, our actions, emotions and feelings come with potential benefit. If they didn’t, most of us wouldn’t do the things we choose to do.

If you speed in your car, you’ll probably get where you’re going quicker, but you run the risk of a traffic ticket, an accident and even personal injury. If you don’t take care of your health, sure it’s probably easier day-to-day, you’ll eat more treats and exercise less; but, the long-term (and short-term) effects to your health will lead to a diminished quality of life. As for being impatient, unkind and just a plain ol’ jerk; I don’t know what one stands to gain – perhaps some sense of false power? Nonetheless, that one I can be sure results an energy and frequency drag to yourself and anyone around you.

With the consequences easily apparent and clearly not commensurate relative to the potential short-term “benefits”, we freely partake in many of these practices regularly. It, somehow, seems like we fallaciously convince ourselves that what’s to gain is greater than what’s to lose….or, maybe we just don’t even think about it at all?

Then there’s Love. Love – the one that we can’t help but over think. The one that we prophesize, we prognosticate and we agonize over what the consequences could be if it doesn’t work out the way we want it to. The one that we all know and want the benefits of, yet can’t get past what the risk is. And, I get it. At one point in life, we didn’t over think it; we didn’t play out the “worst case scenarios”. We gave our Love freely; the way it was meant to be given. Then came the time we were hurt. It changed everything.

Does it reckon that this speaks to Love in the capacity of romantic relationships? Yes, it does. But, it’s really just about Love. All kinds of Love. Any kind of Love.

Love is this really vulnerable, really powerful force. No matter who you offer it to, there’s always a chance of consequence. There’s always the chance it’s not reciprocated; there’s always a chance it doesn’t meet your expectations; there’s always a chance you can be hurt. With friends, family, romantic partners and even strangers; it’s no different. There are always potential consequences. And, in fact, the likelihood is that you will experience some form of hurt, if you haven’t already. Most have been there before, I’m sure. Love, though, is also that one practice in life that creates infinitely more strength than any sort of pain. It’s the one that truly creates meaning. It changes life.

Love makes us shy; it makes us nervous; we build walls because of it; we put our guard up. We do this because we don’t want any of the pain that can come from this very raw form of vulnerability. We rarely, if ever, think of silently offering Love to a stranger or someone less fortunate or to the jerk that just cut you off on the road. We don’t really make it a habit to let our cherished friends know we Love them. We probably don’t view a challenging co-worker as a just a person that too desires the emotion that accompanies a feeling of Love. And, certainly, our “loved” ones are the ones that we can treat more harshly than anyone else in our lives.

In its true essence, Love is the only thing that when we give it, the gift is to our self. Love is not responsible for hurt, we are, our expectation is and our dependency is. Love, truly, does not come with consequence. It is our choice to throw Love under the bus when what we want to happen, doesn’t.

Love wants you to do two things; give it away and have a short memory for when you “think” you don’t get it back. Love is something that you just have to let the Universe keep track of. And, it will. It, totally, will. Vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability is faith. Faith in the Universe, faith in your Heart and faith in Love.

You’ll experience a lot of what your gift of Love does. You’ll also not experience a lot of it and probably wonder what the point was. Probably feel pretty crummy about it, too. But, those are the experiences where you just have to trust Love. Love trusts you, after all. Why else would it let you choose what you do with It?

Make the choice.

Be Love.

two thousand and seventeen – a year in review

There’s a certain philosophy, largely centered within the practice of consciousness and spirituality, that time does not exist. It is, if anything, a thought-provoking catalyst enabling the thinker an involuntary willingness to expand their mind – kinda like one of those, “if a tree falls in the forest….” moments. That being said, it is a philosophy not totally devoid of science. Einstein, himself, in fact proposed a hypothesis that the “dividing lines between past, present and future is an illusion”. And, he was a bright dude.

As my own time here has advanced, I can’t help but to have noticed that time feels different than it used to. And, it’s not something I can readily explain. It feels as though this past year just began and yet, here we are, ready to start a new one. In the same thought, as I reflect upon all the things that have happened in 2017, there’s no doubt it’s been a lot. All squished into the same 365 days like in any other year. And so, I don’t know if I can reason out what the deal with time is. It makes me think that maybe “time” should not be measured in seconds, minutes and days, but rather in experiences. Experiences in what you’ve learned.

Now, it would be easy to speak about all that’s transpired in the past year. But, that’s nothing more than a recounting of fact. I don’t want to say it’s taking the easy route, but it’s definitely not the avenue of personal growth or evolution. I believe that our evolution is enabled by our challenges and victories; which are actually one and the same. Make no mistake; all of our challenges are victories. All of them. It sometimes may not seem that way; we get stressed out, are cheated, lose a job, our health fails, we’re heartbroken, you name it. But, we prevail. We prevail because those experiences shape who we are. When we say, “ok, what has this unlocked inside of me?” That is your victory.

And so, this is my 2017.

I’ve learned that consistent, positive meditation will create what you want in your life. Coupled with listening to your Heart and taking action, you can create anything.

I’ve learned that listening to your Heart and actually doing it, is not easy. Simple in concept, but not easy in action. That’s what makes following through that much more impactful.

I’ve learned to better understand how I work both physically and emotionally. It’s a matter of education, trial and “error” and intuition.

I’ve learned that carbs aren’t really that bad.

I’ve learned that goals and aspirations and the life you want, evolves as you do.

I learned of a level of patience and understanding that I never thought I had in me.

But, I’ve also learned that my ability to be empathetic needs work.

I’ve learned that when you believe and hope in something, you have to fill that belief and hope with your Heart. That’s where you will find the greatest fight in you.

I still like soup.

I’ve learned that fear can be your guide. When it seems like fear is overriding your thoughts and your actions and is silencing or blocking your ability to listen to and follow your Heart, all you do is the opposite of what fear is saying.

I’ve learned that we’re all radios tuned into a frequency. And sometimes, when our frequency is a little bit fuzzy, we need that of others’ to help clear ours up – the ones that truly support our frequency.

I’ve learned that even though your Heart can be in the right place, it doesn’t mean you can’t hurt someone. Including yourself.

I’ve learned that you can distinguish an alligator from a crocodile by paying attention to whether the animal sees you later or in a while.

I’ve learned that we choose to be bigger. I’ve learned that we choose to evolve. Everybody has this choice available to them. Each one of us is hardwired as a Loving and compassionate being. It’s the life we live and the challenges we experience that will unlock that Love and compassion. It’s a choice. And, it’s a choice that you can make each day regardless of the one you made the day before.

I’ve learned that three beautiful Hearts unlocked mine.

Happy 2018!

Be Love.