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don’t resolve, re-solve with Love

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Often, when we look for resolution, we’re just looking to fix something that’s already happened. We’re responding reactively as opposed to proactively.

I try my best to subscribe to the idea that things don’t happen to us, but rather for us. I try to recognize and support every learning opportunity from each experience that life presents me. But, what if we knew the lesson before it was being taught? What if we were armed with the answer to a question that hasn’t yet been asked? This isn’t to infer that we should be arrogant in our intelligence or require us to be guarded and defensive or be a step ahead of the curve, it just requires one thing.

Love.

This is what Love does; it provides us with the security, confidence and ability to handle any situation we face and celebrate every great success. I know that it’s amazingly difficult to accept that Love can be the answer in every circumstance, but I know it can be your truth as well as mine.

Very honestly, I struggle with this idea each and every day. I ask myself the question, “how is Love going to help me here? It won’t make this work problem go away. It can’t pay my bills. It won’t build me a deck.” But, it’s not about what it can give you; it’s about being able to give yourself to it.

Surrendering to Love is what can provide you that security, confidence and trust in who you are and your place here. In fact, as I write this, there is a great deal weighing on my mind. I wasn’t even certain I would be able to get this post done to meet my self-enforced schedule. However, the more I type the word “Love”, the more I think of the word “Love”, I feel a bit of that weight lift from my mind. Allowing the idea in, right at this moment, is helping me to focus on a grander scale; one that isn’t wrapped up inside my head.

Whenever you feel a wave of negative emotion trying to push you over, think “Love”, repeat “Love” in your head. Just try to let it absorb you. As I’ve said before, Love won’t solve your problems. But, if you live through Love, you won’t have any.  

Allow Love to be your answer all the time.

be Love.

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getting your pants less on fire

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Every time you tell the non-truth, aka lie, you deny who you are. You deny yourself the Love you deserve from you.

To have the courage, commitment and conviction to be honest all the time is no easy task. It’s just inevitable that at some point we’re going to lie. Whether it’s a white lie, a grey one, red, purple; it doesn’t matter. By avoiding the truth, we’re avoiding the truth of our self. And really, is it “inevitable” that we’ll all lie at some point or are we all just agreeing with an idea that we’ve been conditioned to believe? Have we simply accepted that to “successfully” get through life, we’ll all have to lie at some point, or is that just a lie? If a tree falls in the forest but no one is around to hear it, does it….moving on.

Living with honesty, first and foremost, means living honestly with yourself. It means taking ownership over the opinions you have, the decisions you’ve made and letting go of the daily external influences trying to convince us of what we should believe about ourselves.

“Yeah but, Jimmy, some things are just easier to fib about rather than tell the truth and create a conflict or hurt someone’s feelings.” I get that. But, I respectfully counter by saying that cutting corners for the small stuff that doesn’t matter is just going to primer you to be able to cut corners for the big stuff that does matter. And, if those fibs don’t really matter, then why not just tell the truth?

Your truth has nothing to do with anyone else. It has to do with you. It’s being able to understand that you deserve to Love yourself unconditionally. And, it’s being able to understand that those who don’t Love you unconditionally for who you are, is okay.  

Recently, I created an opportunity to share something personal with someone. To say I was uncomfortable is a veritable understatement. Every internal negative self-talk reared its ugly head – “I’m a loser”, “this person will think less of me”, “I’m weak.” And, on it went. Regardless, my Heart wouldn’t let me off the hook. It kept telling me that there would be no way for this person to accept me as I am if I didn’t accept myself as I am. If I wasn’t forthright with them, then I wasn’t accepting who I am. I was just lying to myself.

As nervous as I was, there was an excitement I had inside of me. Was I going to look like jerk? Quite possibly. Was I okay with it? I was. I felt like I was going to set a bit of myself free. Even though that was my truth right now, the most encouraging part of it all was that I knew I could change it. We can change anything. But, the change has to happen through us. Whether that’s changing how we think, changing what we know, changing whatever; it’s all within us. We can’t look to the outside for our answer.

Next time you feel like you “need” to lie in a situation, ask yourself from what source are you denying yourself Love and from what source are you looking for Love. The Love which you find and create within yourself will be all that you need to give and receive from others.

be Love.   

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a story about a guy

mr munchy

 

Amidst the hunt for eggs, chocolate bunnies and family hoopla, I felt more than compelled to take pause and write about one of my most influential sources of inspiration.

I know; I can already feel the squirminess that often goes hand in hand with any opinion, discussion or prophetic rant that grounds itself in religion. I give you my word, this isn’t about religion. This is just going to be about a guy.

A lot of people liked this guy; a lot didn’t. Many thought he was special and many thought he was an “extremist”. He was lauded to be a saviour and he was persecuted as a fraud.

The one constant; the message he spoke, taught and lived.

In form, I believe him to be no different from me. It’s a belief that gives me more hope, faith and reassurance rather than if he were some supernatural being dropped off on Earth by a flying saucer or magical stork. He possessed the same physical and mental faculties as I do; he needed air to breathe, water to drink and food to eat. He wasn’t without flaw and he wasn’t infallible; he was a human. What was “superhuman” was his consciousness and spirituality in his Love, forgiveness and compassion that he lived.

There wasn’t any “magic” about him. He was just a guy that lived as unconditional Love. A Love that he was often ill-treated for. It wasn’t easy for many to understand why he treated the poor, the homeless, the corrupt and the diseased the same as he treated his mother, father, brothers and friends. It was a society, not so different from ours today, where those who were deemed to be “lesser” citizens were turned away from and avoided. Yet, it was these people he drew himself closest to. It was these people that he showed the most Love.

When I think about what this weekend is meant to signify, I think I swim against the current of popular opinion. I don’t believe he did what he did to “save” us. I believe that he did what he did to teach us. To teach us that who we really are is our soul, not a body. To teach us that living as unconditional Love is what fulfills our reason to be here. To teach us that the way to save ourselves is to save ourselves rather than wait for someone or something to do it for us. The truth is, well my truth at least, is that we’re already saved; we never really needed it to begin with. It’s just a matter of deciding how long we want to live with hate in our Hearts before trading it all in to be that unconditional Love he was teaching by example.

I like to think that on their day off, he and Siddhartha Gautama aka Buddha, go golfing or go-kart racing with Mother Theresa and Gandhi. What I’m getting at is that, they were all just people. Only, they knew they had enormous souls and Hearts of an unrelenting conviction to Love, forgiveness and compassion.

The one thing that separates any of us from any of them is what we believe we’re capable of.

be Love.

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