doing the same thing + expecting a different result = insanity

Separation

I believe I am separate from others. I believe I am separate from a higher being. I even believe I can be separate from who I truly am.

Integration

I am connected to everyone and everything. We support each other.

I withhold information from others and the truth from myself. I never allow anyone, including myself, to know who I really am.

With honesty, I am who I truly am. I do not withhold who I am for fear of pain or loss of control. I can never really know or predict the response to my honesty and should, therefore, stop assuming responsibility for the emotions, growth and reactions of others to my honest, non-manipulative communication.

Fear of loss of a relationship separates me from the vulnerability of having to deal with other relationships. Therefore, I feel (separate) and “safe”.

There is no inherent “right” or “wrong” to any type of relationship. All relationships are inherently neutral and “okay”. If I choose monogamy, I do not expect or need my partner to do the same.

I will love you, only so long as you fulfill my needs and expectations. I withdraw my love if you do not satisfy me.

I Love you without trying to change you. I do not require you to fulfill my needs or have expectations of you.

I need commitment in order to avoid my fear of having to deal with other relationships. I believe commitment ensures security. This is a false sense.

I stay present. I do not need commitment because I trust the future to bring me what I require and teach me what I need to learn.

I want, expect and try to get others to fulfill my expectations and needs. I use my relationships to get what I need.

I enjoy the relationships of others but without expectations.

I use obvious or cloaked manipulation to facilitate my needs being met. I do this to remain protected from my own fears. I see others as who I need them to be and not for who they are.

I allow my relationships to be who they need to be. Only then can I see who they truly are.

I do not believe that everything that happens to me is for my highest good. I try to control and shape all aspects of my life and relationships.

I know and trust that everything occurs for me and my highest good. I have no desire to control anyone.

I depend on and need someone outside of myself to make me happy.

I recognize that I, and only I, am the creator of my own reality. Therefore, only I am the creator of my own happiness.

I believe that if a relationship I have also loves another relationship, that there is less love for me.

There is a never-ending source of Love for everyone to share. No matter how many people I Love and how many people Love me, it does not diminish the strength and force of any source of Love.

It is not good when a relationship has less time for me.

If I truly Love myself unconditionally, the time spent with myself is equal to the time spent with another. The time I spend with myself is as enjoyable as the time I spend with others.

I believe there is always the potential to experience pain. I choose this.

I know I am the creator of my happiness and do not choose pain.

Ending or losing a relationship creates pain.

I recognize this relationship no longer serves me. I am grateful for the experience I have shared and the lessons I have learned. I allow myself to move in another direction from the relationship with no animosity or hard feelings. Only Love.

I require the physical presence of others. I am not comfortable with me.

I know that I am connected to everyone, including those I Love. I know I am never alone even when I am by myself in physical form.

I am angry at the outside world for not meeting my expectations.

I recognize that I have created a reality that I do not prefer.

I, sometimes, hurt others. Sometimes, I am hurt by others.

I create my own reality, which includes other people’s reactions to my actions. I can never be hurt by another person unless I choose to be hurt. Only I am responsible for my reactions to the comments and actions of others.

My relationship partner is seeking to have their needs met by me. A person’s needs can never be truly met by anyone but themselves. This creates expectations, attachment and possibly ill-fated feelings.

I am pure in my intention toward the relationship. I am 100% who I truly am. I am fully responsible for what, in my integrity, I would like to give to the relationship.