Monthly archives "April 2019"

you can handle the truth

There’s not much we need in life. If you’re fortunate enough to have food on the table, clothes on your back and a roof over your head, for all intents and purposes, you’ve made it. And, even if you have to struggle for all of that, it doesn’t change what the truth is for everyone.

There’s not much we need in life.

As fortunate as I am to have all of those things, I’m even more fortunate to know what the reason for my life is. To give the Love I have to give. To share the Love I have to share. And, not in a “change the world for the better” type way. But, to change my world for the better type way.

Maybe it sounds selfish, but that’s where the best version of who I know I am, is. It’s not to slightly influence or impact the lives of any impressive number of people a person would think is impressive. It’s to directly contribute and support the lives that are a part of mine. I know this. I find peace in knowing this. It connects me to my Heart. And, when we find what connects us to our Heart, we bring that which it is, to us.

We all chase. We chase power, money, influence, security, approval, answers; we chase everything. When we get it, we chase more. Even the humanitarians, philanthropists, motivators and inspirators that directly impact the impressive number of people they reach with their gifts, I would argue, still could never fill the place that is meant for the people we share life with that we can hug every day, watch grow every day and say, “I Love you” to every day.

That’s what the truth is for everyone. Not everyone is seeking that truth. Not everyone wants to face that truth. But, the realness of that truth is not a tough argument for me. And, I had that argument with myself for a number of years, whether I knew it or not. I don’t have that argument, anymore. I don’t need to. Love won. It was always going to win. It just kept trying til I finally got it. Now, it’s my turn to carry it forward for myself. To believe in it. To stay the course. To trust my Heart. To have faith. To welcome it in. It’s on me. And, I’m ok with that because I know what I believe in. I know what the truth is and the truth never changes.

Love isn’t serious. But, it’ll be the most important thing you’ll ever do.

Be Love.

this is a mistake. Great!

Life can be fraught with doubt, ie. life is full of doubt. Always. We doubt ourselves, we doubt others, we doubt the decisions we’ve made, we doubt the decisions we haven’t made. It’s become an integral part of our thinking and processing. Almost as though we couldn’t progress through an experience without it.

Doubt is a learned behavior. When we’re told to “learn from our mistakes”, we choose to learn the wrong thing. Because we’ve been hurt, because we’ve had loss, because our trust has been taken advantage of, because we’ve been vulnerable; we’ve chosen that to learn from our mistakes, is to not make them. And, choosing to not make mistakes is not education, it’s avoidance.

Education is evolution. First, we experience the hurt in our lives, then we endeavor to avoid it at all costs. We don’t want a repeat of the pain. So, we shut down and we shut out. We actually believe that the more we insulate ourselves, the less the likelihood we will put ourselves in a position to make a “mistake” and, ultimately, the better off we’ll be. That may serve us constructively if the following weren’t true; mistakes = education = evolution. And, why are we all here? To evolve. To get closer to Love.

There was a period in my life when I believed I could insulate myself. When I thought I could build walls tall enough that nothing could get over them. And, the scary thing was that I wasn’t even aware I was doing this. The walls don’t work. The mistakes still happen. The hurt comes through. And, instead of having the openness and vulnerability and humility to absorb it, it’s met with resistance, solitude and pessimism. The real mistake is believing we can avoid that which is meant to help us grow. The resolve of evolution will out-build your walls any day.

I’m no longer scared of mistakes. Not because I don’t make them, not because I trust people to never hurt me and not because I have the utmost strength and self-confidence. It’s because of a belief in Love. It’s choosing that there really is no other choice. We can look to whatever external resource we like, but when it all comes down to it, Love will be your strength, your freedom, your peace.

It’s not complicated. You just let it all go to Love. You choose to believe in it. You realize that things won’t necessarily unfold the way you planned. You understand that you’ll make mistakes til the end of forever. You steady yourself for the hurts that are yet to come. But, you don’t let it stop you from being exactly who you are and Loving that person. When what you do, what you say and what you believe comes from your Heart, it can never be stepped on. Sometimes it feels that’s exactly what happens and it shakes our faith. But, it’s not. That’s a misunderstood feeling. It’s the confusion that accompanies the misunderstanding of how anything truly from the Heart can be turned away. It’s confusion, because deep down we all know that Love loses to nothing and to no one. We feel that knowing, that pull, yet it seems to us to be the mistake we’ve made.

I’ve realized how much a “mistake” can give. It gives the opportunity to open our Hearts that much more, to expand our vulnerability, to become stronger by embracing our weakness. You find out about the person you really are when you give your Love unconditionally. And, you find out about the people you give that Love, unconditionally, to. That’s education. That’s evolution. There is nothing else. That’s where you’re supposed to go.

Be Love.