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does free will cost too much?

The debate of free will is contentious, at best. The complex simplicity of it being, “is it or isn’t it free?”. Both, arguable vociferously and validly. On one side, if free will does not exist, what’s the purpose of life as a sentient being? On the other, if free will does exist, then so must the theory of cause and effect be discarded?

We find confidence in what we can define clearly and conclusively. The answer to, “is it or isn’t it?”, is anything but. Like science versus spirituality, we want just one and not the other. One may not explain everything exactly, but at least we force ourselves to accept the one. We limit our options so as to feel safer, more in control. The better question is, “when did science and spirituality become exclusive of each other?” And so, with free will, why do we only ask, “is it or isn’t it?”

Science and spirituality are not against each other, they are with each other. Free will both, is and it isn’t. There are no absolutes here but rather undefinable parameters that stretch as far as a consciousness is willing to stretch them. Absolutes limit potential.

Free will is a power that we both possess and are guided by. Our lives are constant experiences, challenges and situations that we navigate through. It is our path. Rather, a defined genesis and terminus orchestrated by whatever or whomever the architect was. The path between those two points is vastly variable. And, consequently, uncertain.

Free will does come at a cost. It’s the cost of suffering, pain, hardship and brokenness. But, like any scientific law, equilibrium is maintained. The spirit of Universe assures us of it. We make choices, and choices are made for us, that that bring great hurt to us. And, while there is learning buried in the hurt, it can sometimes be fair to say that the cost is too steep. But, the spiritual balance of the Universe serves that for whatever hurt there is, Love exists to silence it.

When we suffer, the last choice we would believe to possess in our strength and power to exercise is, understandably, Love. But, it would be the choice of greatest salvation. The cost of pain enables the undefined potential for the creation of Love. That is free will. We are guided into the strength of our free will by the cause and effect of our lives, our experiences and our path.

We don’t need to figure everything out first. Love just needs a sliver of space to shine into. Our demons find us so that we can find how to live above them. So that we can choose to live above them. It’s probably true that free will isn’t free; there is a price to pay for it. Choosing Love at all costs is the only way. Although, infinitely more expressive, it’s a simple equation. What can counteract the worst hurt you’ve ever felt? The most Love you’ve ever let in. Choose.

Be Love.

Love or Love? you pick.

It’s astounding how much of a choice Love really is.

Some people may be entirely inclined to argue that ‘you Love who you Love’ and others may read that to be an entirely obvious statement. Both are actually true. And, still so much of a choice, no matter which one is the belief.

‘You Love who you Love’. To fight this is futile. If there’s anything I know it’s that I don’t stand a chance against Love. There’s a reason why more books are written, songs are sung, movies are made and stories are told about Love than anything else. Because it’s the most powerful force we will ever experience. Our reason for being here is Love. To allow the force of it to overtake us. To allow the power of it to weaken us. Not to command us, but to strengthen us. Not to take from us, but to give to us. To show us the vulnerability, compassion and connection we seek. And, I know, when the Heart Loves, it just does. It doesn’t need to explain why or understand or make reason of it. There is no dispute or debate. It is the Heart which says, “that is it. I am here”.

And, within Love, we always find choice. We find the choice that is not surrendered when we allow our Heart to speak loudest, but when our mind and our ego finds its voice. It is the voice that allows fear to creep in. It is the voice that lets pride influence. It is the voice that gives space to the false notion of self-preservation, of selfishness and of sabotage.

We choose how aware we want to be, how kind, how considerate, how patient and how understanding. Those are all choices that are of our own volition. From the smallest gesture to the most grandiose; toward an unknown stranger or the most familiar of faces; the Love we show is always a choice. The Love we receive is always a choice.

There is responsibility and accountability that comes with Love. How could there not be? We’ve been given the reigns to wield the most powerful force in the Universe; it seems as though it should inherently require consideration, care and culpability. Love, literally, has the ability to change life. Yet, the attention it deserves often seems to be reactive rather than proactive; casual rather than causal. We can be very intentional with Love; both the Love our Heart chooses for us and the Love we decide we’re going to shine by way of our thoughts, words and actions. There is so much about Love that happens in the moment, but there is also so much about Love that happens out of the moment.

Love chooses us in the moment and we choose Love out of the moment.

“To be Loved like you’ve never been Loved, you must Love like you’ve never been Loved”

Be Love.

a letter to you

So, I was speaking to your Heart today. Yesterday, too. And, all the days before that as a matter of fact.

You didn’t know? Well, I can’t say as I’m overly surprised. I would say most people don’t that we speak. I mean, it does surprise me a bit (and, makes me smile) that you don’t know on account of how close I am with your Heart. But, it’s ok. I get why you don’t know. Don’t worry, it’s not like I’m going to stop anytime soon. Promise.

What do we talk about? Gosh, everything….I’d say pretty much everything. You don’t have to be nervous that I know so much. I never speak about it with anyone else. Just your Heart. It’s always between us.

I speak with everyone’s Heart, actually. You’d probably be pretty surprised at how similar all the conversations are that I have. It kinda doesn’t really matter whose Heart I happen to be speaking with, the stories are really a lot alike. Doesn’t matter from where, what age, man or woman, rich or poor; I guess it’s because the Heart is the Heart. It’s just a universal constant. That was definitely something I learned along the way. I’m always learning, to be honest. And, if I can say, I think both me and your Heart learn a lot every time we speak. And, like I said, we speak all the time.

The reason for me sharing all of this is because I want to help you. To let you know that I’m there for your Heart. I’ve always been there for your Heart. No matter what; even if you didn’t know that I was close to your Heart. Maybe you kinda knew? Maybe you could feel it but just didn’t know what it was? That was me. That was us; me and your Heart. We try to get your attention a lot.

Why do we try to get your attention? You need our help. We just want to help. We have a lot to give. Infinitely a lot to give. Til forever. We don’t want anything in return, though. It just makes us really happy when you listen to us. That’s way more than enough for us. And, it makes us do more for you. But, it’s ok when you ignore us, too. We’re still going to keep helping.

Not to sound like a couple of know-it-alls, but your Heart and I know it all about you. It’s our job to. What makes us chuckle is when you don’t really let us do our job. We chuckle (and shake our heads lovingly) because you’re the one who gave us this job. Don’t you remember? No. Probably not, I guess. It’s how it sorta works. It’ll all make sense, eventually.

We know not everything is exactly the greatest. It’s like that for a lot of people; most people have a lot of the same stories. The biggest difference is really just how different people respond differently. But, we know that what’s going on for you, is what’s going on for YOU, regardless of what’s going on for anyone else. Believe you us, I can tell you that a lot of people didn’t expect their lives to be where they are right now. Lots of people didn’t expect to have gone through the pain they’ve gone through. Lots of people didn’t expect to feel as uncertain about themselves as they do. But, I tell you with confidence, your Heart and I, we care about you more than you could ever know. You can and should count on us. Always.

Thing is, for all this to really work, you need to let us do our job. Not to sound totally arrogant, but it’s really in your best interest to let us do what we do. I say with no reservations, nothing is more powerful than your Heart and I. And, by “more powerful”, I mean more compassionate, more caring and more Loving. I don’t say that because we’re full of ourselves, it’s because we’re full of You. We’ve done this a lot and we just keep getting stronger and better at it. That’s why you knew to put us in charge. You just forget a lot.

You have to let go a bit. You have to let us have a bit more control. I know that scares you (we talk about that all the time), but that’s really how this goes. You have to let us do our job. The challenge is that most people think it’s all about them. And, it is. But, it’s really all about us. How it works in your favour is that we’re all about you. Does that make sense? The fact is, we’ve got way more pull than you. So, let us do the pulling instead of you pushing us away.

I just want you to know that I’m here for you. We’re both here for you. I can’t do this without your Heart and you can’t do it without the both of us. Open up to us a bit more when you can. Listen to us a bit more when you can. We’re always talking.

Your truly (really truly). Lots of Love.

The Universe

Be Love

….and, you just get it

I think, for everyone, there arrives a point in time when it becomes apparent that love is everything. Truly everything. Probably, the realization for most, is elusive for the better part of life. The reason I believe that to be true is by general observation of the state of the world. It’s not that of love. There’s a lot of it out there; there’s a lot of good being done. But, if tallied by a simple count of integers, it wouldn’t win.

Now hold on….that’s not to say I don’t believe love is winning, I do. I believe that one “unit” of love exponentially outweighs one “unit” of not-love. Exponentially. It’s the only way to explain how the single digit percentage of love on this planet holds up the double (probably near triple) digit percentage of the converse, and we keep turning.

The fact is that we all love. Family, significant others, children, friends, pets. We love. We are relational beings. And so, we love. We give to love, we take from love, we find strength from love, we feel weakness from love, we empower with love and we manipulate with love.

But, we love.

In conversation this past week, I shared a personal story from something I experienced and the feelings I’d had from it. The response that was given to me was, “not everyone thinks like you do, though”. It made me wonder how someone could not in such a circumstance. A lot to do with that not only was ‘thinking’ a part of it, but ‘feeling’ was as equally a role. And, if there’s anything we are as humans, it’s instinctively feeling beings. If that moment wasn’t a bit of confirmation that I was on the right “love is everything” track, I don’t know what would be.

I’ve known for a little while now, love’s place in my life. Relative to the number of years I’ve lived, I would measure my realization to still just be, “a little while now”. The realization, I’d say, a function of already being on the path combined with personal life experience that came to be. But, it certainly wasn’t always that way. Far from it. The feelings that my life experience conjured up in me couldn’t have been more obvious – love really is everything.

It changes how you perceive life. It evolves the reason to be the person that you are. It’s easy to not understand any of this when mortality isn’t anywhere in sight. Which, is why I reason the realization eludes most for the better part of life. Perhaps not until breaths become nearly countable. Although, it’s never too late, maybe it’s too late by then? But, the realization is certainly not confined to the stark truth of expiration.

I don’t want it to be too late for me. And, it’s not. I’m glad that I realize love is everything. Truly everything. I know that nothing can take its place. I know that nothing is more important. I know there is no fear stronger than it. I know that there is no accomplishment greater than it. And, I know that nothing gives more meaning than it. It’s freedom, whenever it is you decide to choose it.

Maybe it’s true? Maybe not everyone thinks this way? The Love I want to give and the Love I want to receive will be the only accomplishment I will live for. It’s the only accomplishment I am alive for. And, it will be the only one I take with me beyond here. How can presence here be anything but? Life will still be life. I will still participate and partake in all that it means to have a good life. But, to really live is to know of the freedom that Love provides. It’s not a blanket statement; Love is freedom from everything. Self-Love, the Love of someone unconditionally by your side, faith in Love; that is what grants your soul its path to be free.

Be Love.