Monthly archives "March 2018"

let there be light!

Everyone has a beautiful heart.

I invite you to think of any tyrant throughout the various eras of history, or any acts of hatred or violence you’ve ever seen on the news, or even what’s happened to you personally. Every one of those individuals you can think of has a beautiful heart.

There is no equilibrium maintained in the heart. There is only good; only beauty; only Love.  Just like how it cannot be both day and night in the same place; the system of equilibrium of the heart, is larger. The harmful acts we witness, experience and feel, whether physical, mental or emotional, are not a product of the type of heart a person has, but rather, they are a product of the type of person that person is. Those acts come from a wider system that include the heart, but are not by way of the heart. The full spectrum of that system of equilibrium houses the mind, the ego, pain, abuse and, ultimately, fear. Any choice not made from Love is made from the influence of those other components of the system.

To Love unconditionally is not to allow oneself to be hurt but to separate the Love from all else. It is the choice to acknowledge the light of the heart even though it may not be shining on you.

Unconditional Love is a choice. It’s a big choice. Not only does it mean you accept the responsibility of living in the frequency of Love, it means you have to choose to look past what you see on the outside (not Love) for what is actually on the inside (Love). You may even have to accept and understand that what you have experienced before (Love), you no longer do (not Love). Still not done – to add even more to it; you will also have to decide how much of the not Love stuff you’re willing to keep in your life and how much you do not want to navigate through. Decisions, decisions, decisions.

Choosing unconditional Love is to acknowledge the Love in every heart there is, regardless of anything else. As much as it requires an unrelenting, open heart, it doesn’t mean you do so at a detriment to your own. This is not only true of the relationships you carry on in your personal life but it’s true of how you simply carry on in everything in your life. It’s watching endless news story after news story of violence. It’s interacting with people on a level that focus on or gravitate towards the negative. (Consequently, that one is tough because it will feel as though we are connecting with the people we are sharing these stories with. And, there is a positive, productive and supportive way to do this. However, more often than not, the stories we share and try to relate upon are about something terrible someone did or how crummy of a person “so-and-so” is, rather than actually communicating our true feelings, trying to understand perspectives and being both sympathetic and empathetic.) It’s what state of emotional presence you keep yourself in and how you respond to the circumstances of your life (your vibrational frequency). And, it’s also how we replay the hurtful experiences we’ve faced, over and over, in our minds.

Frequently living in those spaces can only make it challenging to believe in the heart. It can only make it challenging to believe that everyone has a heart that is beautiful. The more time spent in the presence of these influencers, the more it shapes your paradigm of others. It’s not to say we should ignore, neglect or turn a blind eye to any of it and pretend to live in a rose-coloured reality. Nor is it to say we shouldn’t engage in and face any of it. I do it, too. I have, and will continue, to make myself a victim of it. I am human, after all. But, having the expectation to remove all of it from your life is just not realistic. We have a choice as to how much energy we want to expend in keeping our own heart strong, optimistic and full of Love in the midst of it all.

The way you outwardly approach unconditional Love is cohesive with how you experience inward unconditional Love, ie the Love and acceptance of exactly the person that you are. In truth, as I write this, the thought comes that it may work in the opposite direction. Or, perhaps they parallel each other? You, like any and every one else, have a beautiful heart. A heart that is only Love. As much as you are empowered to choose how much of it enters your life from the outside, you choose how much of it enters your life from the inside. It’s all about how and what you surround yourself with in life. It’s about what you choose to lift your vibration or not lift your vibration. Imagine the mental and emotional freedom you could possess by seeing every circumstance and every person, stranger or close companion, through the lens of unconditional Love. Imagine the mental and emotional freedom you could possess by seeing yourself through the very same lens.

Unconditional Love is a choice to see the light within every heart, it is a choice to burn yours brightly and it is a choice to decide which light you wish to make brighter with yours and which light you watch from a distance.

Be your light.

Be Love.

 

 

 

Love is what happens to you while you’re busy making plans

It’s About Time to acknowledge that Love Actually can be a bit Stranger Than Fiction; in a way by which I mean, not what we wanted to expect. What gets me, though, is despite that we’ve most likely all had this experience in life, we still attempt to convince ourselves in subscribing to a belief system that it’s “supposed” to look a certain way, to feel a certain way, to fit into a box that we probably didn’t even totally create ourselves.

We establish “ideals” that we expect from Love, yet really, the ideal is simply to be Loved and to Love. Without hesitation. Without reservation.

The challenge we all face, because we’re physical human beings, is the incongruence of mind versus heart, ie Earth versus the Universe. Do we listen to our head or do we go with the heart? How many times have you said, “well, I gotta think about it”? How many times have you said, “I’ll see how I feel”? It’s probably pretty lopsided in favour of the former over the latter. And, truthfully, even when we say we’ll check with our feelings, we usually just end up using “logic” and “reason” to sort things out, anyway. It’s not easy to let go of.

We try to blueprint Love. It’s a product of our daily intake with limited independent personal filtering and processing. It’s the movies we watch, the songs we listen to, the posts we see on Facebook and it’s a bunch of our own doing, too. Because of it all, of course we have a tough time not coming to a conclusion that Love can be figured out with a checklist. We write a story about it before it’s even happened. A story that’s not our own but one we’ve put together from various fragments creating and supporting the blueprint we think we’re supposed to want. But, how could something so big, so wonderful, be contained?

There is safety in logic. There is solace in reason. There is security in thinking something through, assessing the variables and coming to a supportable conclusion. We believe this to only be possible with the mind. We, very rarely, give any responsibility to our heart in figuring something out for us. And, it’s not just Love. Changing careers, where you decide to live; the bigger things in life, we’re too nervous to hand over to our heart.

But, the heart is not devoid of logic or rationale or reason. It employs all of those things and more; feeling, intuition and your connection with the Universe. These are big things; big things that we may not necessarily feel in control of. And, when we don’t feel very in control, we get scared. The direction that your heart is guiding you may not seem to make sense with what you thought it was going to be or what you figured it would look like, and that incongruence creates fear. Trust can be a scary thing, especially putting it into something you can’t see but only feel. And, fitting as it may be, I can’t offer a definitive, logical reason as to why you should trust your heart other than to say that I believe in it. I know that the best version of me is that one that truly comes through from my heart. I don’t know why, I can’t say how, I just know it is. That’s trust, isn’t it?

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

good choice/bad choice/same choice?

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It seems like we can get stuck a lot in life. Maybe even, like, always stuck? We do the right things, are a good person, contribute to society, all of the above, etc, etc; yet, life ‘befalls’ us.

We’re not paused in time; life happens to us. There is always forward movement independent of your own personal intention. Discernible or not, your being is always progressing. That “stuck” feeling, that’s part choice and part trying to keep up with the progression. We’re always evolving. It happens in the foreground, right in front of your face; it happens in the background, where it’s not as easily apparent – it’s always there, though. You’re not the same person you were ten years ago, a year ago or even this morning. The question is; are you still doing the same things?

Life is all of it; the losses, the victories, the confusion and the clarity. All of it. It’s how you integrate your ‘life’ into your life. We don’t change, we evolve. Life is a perpetual opportunity for our evolution. It’s the losses and the victories and the confusion and clarity where, dependent upon how we embrace the opportunities (or don’t embrace them), we move into the space our higher Self is already occupying. This is why, at any given moment, we are choosing the muck we’re in and we’re just having a hard time keeping up to where we know we should be.

It’s the way in which we face life. It’s how you choose to find the growth. I’m certainly not presenting a novel concept. I’m presenting something I can speak to because it’s happened, and continues to happen, to me. There have been peaks and valleys, intentional action and fortunate occurrence and moments where I’ve actually felt the shift happen and moments where it all was just there and I could only say, “where did that come from?” Dramatic as it sounds, I marvel at the path my life has taken. I can only believe that it’s done so because I’ve made the choice to embrace and accept my evolution. Or, even just to acknowledge that it’s happening and maybe I kinda got on board every now and then. Why and how can I say this? Because I feel bigger than I did before. Because I feel like I have more meaning, more to offer and more alignment of my Self. Sounds great, doesn’t it? It is! But, I promise you, it came with an f’ing boatload of challenge. It came with a tonne of smiles and beauty and Love, too. But, it came with a lot to deal with.

Your evolution will progress at the rate you choose, but progress it will. The rate at which you’re willing to feel the hurt, face the fear, break the pattern and open your Heart, is the rate at which you’ll feel more in alignment with your own presence. The thing is, the farther your evolution progresses without you, the worse you’ll feel doing the same things you’ve always done. The gap gets wider and wider until you start choosing life in a way that narrows the separation. We’re all here to close the gap. No one is exempt or has a free pass. You don’t “get out of” being your true Self. That just wouldn’t make sense. But, it’s not meant to be perfect, either. It’s not meant to be constant work or constant stress. It’s not meant to be done right every single time. Mistakes have to happen. The longer, tougher path will inevitably be taken from time to time. You will get stuck. It is the experience. But, you also have to choose to not be stuck. You have to choose to smile, to laugh, to screw up, to be scared, to feel vulnerable, to break down, to rebuild and to Love.

“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you have to go, just remember how far you’ve come.”

Be Love.

get your parka

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; a driveway that will need clearing in the morning, the impending reality that traffic will probably be a mess on the way into work tomorrow and the potential that spring will be delayed that much longer.

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; how silent and still it seems outside, how the tree branches are shimmering beautifully white and that it almost feels like it could be Christmas, again, in a couple of weeks.

Are either of those paragraphs any less true than the other? Does the perspective in either of those paragraphs cancel the other out? No, to both. But, one of those narratives makes my Heart smile. And so, today, I choose the one that does that.

This is life. This is the choice we all have, each and every day, with each and every experience. We can choose to see the traffic jam or we can choose to see the shimmering beauty. And yes, I know, life can feel like a blizzard at times, for all of us. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t be in the storm and still experience something beautiful; something that lifts your Heart.

It’s too easy of an excuse to blame the storm; to place fault. Instead of finding fault, why not accept the responsibility to yourself, to your Heart, to see past the tough stuff through to what’s good. And, there’s always lots of good if you’re just willing to look. Finding the positive won’t necessarily stop the storm but it will certainly make the experience easier to navigate.

Choosing what’s uplifting amidst the challenges is what strengthens your Heart. It re-wires how you see what you see, how you feel what you feel and how you react to what you react to. Making the choice to let your Heart smile when it feels like you have every reason not to, is what true resolve is. It’s what really supports your true Self.

And, like anything else that you practice and become stronger at, it gets easier; you can handle more. Life’s challenges will not miraculously evaporate, no matter how positive or optimistic you can be. But, choosing to be positive and optimistic, choosing to see everything beautiful around you, will only enrich those challenges and your success through them.

Truthfully, this isn’t really even about ‘strengthening your resolve’ or ‘positive thinking’, it’s just about lifting your Heart up to the level it’s at; to lifting your Self up to the level you deserve to be at. It’s focusing on the beauty; appreciating the simplicity of what’s around you; finding every little (and big) reason to smile.

Just because there’s a storm outside, doesn’t mean you have to go stand in it.

Be Love.