Monthly archives "March 2018"

good choice/bad choice/same choice?


It seems like we can get stuck a lot in life. Maybe even, like, always stuck? We do the right things, are a good person, contribute to society, all of the above, etc, etc; yet, life ‘befalls’ us.

We’re not paused in time; life happens to us. There is always forward movement independent of your own personal intention. Discernible or not, your being is always progressing. That “stuck” feeling, that’s part choice and part trying to keep up with the progression. We’re always evolving. It happens in the foreground, right in front of your face; it happens in the background, where it’s not as easily apparent – it’s always there, though. You’re not the same person you were ten years ago, a year ago or even this morning. The question is; are you still doing the same things?

Life is all of it; the losses, the victories, the confusion and the clarity. All of it. It’s how you integrate your ‘life’ into your life. We don’t change, we evolve. Life is a perpetual opportunity for our evolution. It’s the losses and the victories and the confusion and clarity where, dependent upon how we embrace the opportunities (or don’t embrace them), we move into the space our higher Self is already occupying. This is why, at any given moment, we are choosing the muck we’re in and we’re just having a hard time keeping up to where we know we should be.

It’s the way in which we face life. It’s how you choose to find the growth. I’m certainly not presenting a novel concept. I’m presenting something I can speak to because it’s happened, and continues to happen, to me. There have been peaks and valleys, intentional action and fortunate occurrence and moments where I’ve actually felt the shift happen and moments where it all was just there and I could only say, “where did that come from?” Dramatic as it sounds, I marvel at the path my life has taken. I can only believe that it’s done so because I’ve made the choice to embrace and accept my evolution. Or, even just to acknowledge that it’s happening and maybe I kinda got on board every now and then. Why and how can I say this? Because I feel bigger than I did before. Because I feel like I have more meaning, more to offer and more alignment of my Self. Sounds great, doesn’t it? It is! But, I promise you, it came with an f’ing boatload of challenge. It came with a tonne of smiles and beauty and Love, too. But, it came with a lot to deal with.

Your evolution will progress at the rate you choose, but progress it will. The rate at which you’re willing to feel the hurt, face the fear, break the pattern and open your Heart, is the rate at which you’ll feel more in alignment with your own presence. The thing is, the farther your evolution progresses without you, the worse you’ll feel doing the same things you’ve always done. The gap gets wider and wider until you start choosing life in a way that narrows the separation. We’re all here to close the gap. No one is exempt or has a free pass. You don’t “get out of” being your true Self. That just wouldn’t make sense. But, it’s not meant to be perfect, either. It’s not meant to be constant work or constant stress. It’s not meant to be done right every single time. Mistakes have to happen. The longer, tougher path will inevitably be taken from time to time. You will get stuck. It is the experience. But, you also have to choose to not be stuck. You have to choose to smile, to laugh, to screw up, to be scared, to feel vulnerable, to break down, to rebuild and to Love.

“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you have to go, just remember how far you’ve come.”

Be Love.

get your parka

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; a driveway that will need clearing in the morning, the impending reality that traffic will probably be a mess on the way into work tomorrow and the potential that spring will be delayed that much longer.

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; how silent and still it seems outside, how the tree branches are shimmering beautifully white and that it almost feels like it could be Christmas, again, in a couple of weeks.

Are either of those paragraphs any less true than the other? Does the perspective in either of those paragraphs cancel the other out? No, to both. But, one of those narratives makes my Heart smile. And so, today, I choose the one that does that.

This is life. This is the choice we all have, each and every day, with each and every experience. We can choose to see the traffic jam or we can choose to see the shimmering beauty. And yes, I know, life can feel like a blizzard at times, for all of us. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t be in the storm and still experience something beautiful; something that lifts your Heart.

It’s too easy of an excuse to blame the storm; to place fault. Instead of finding fault, why not accept the responsibility to yourself, to your Heart, to see past the tough stuff through to what’s good. And, there’s always lots of good if you’re just willing to look. Finding the positive won’t necessarily stop the storm but it will certainly make the experience easier to navigate.

Choosing what’s uplifting amidst the challenges is what strengthens your Heart. It re-wires how you see what you see, how you feel what you feel and how you react to what you react to. Making the choice to let your Heart smile when it feels like you have every reason not to, is what true resolve is. It’s what really supports your true Self.

And, like anything else that you practice and become stronger at, it gets easier; you can handle more. Life’s challenges will not miraculously evaporate, no matter how positive or optimistic you can be. But, choosing to be positive and optimistic, choosing to see everything beautiful around you, will only enrich those challenges and your success through them.

Truthfully, this isn’t really even about ‘strengthening your resolve’ or ‘positive thinking’, it’s just about lifting your Heart up to the level it’s at; to lifting your Self up to the level you deserve to be at. It’s focusing on the beauty; appreciating the simplicity of what’s around you; finding every little (and big) reason to smile.

Just because there’s a storm outside, doesn’t mean you have to go stand in it.

Be Love.