Monthly archives "June 2016"

til death do me part


There’s only ever one commitment you’ll need to make in life. You read it; only one.

That means, whatever job you have, team you’ve joined or relationship you’re in, you can quit. Just like that. You can quit anything. And, truly, the only person you have to answer to is yourself.

Whoa, whoa, whoa….it’s just not that easy, you say? Yeah, it is. If you don’t really want to be in whatever place you’re in but you continue to be there, guess who you have to answer to? Yourself. Again. Neat, huh?

As we’re well into the 21st century, it seems as though we live with a greater amount of frivolity than ever before. Almost like a refined, modern day ‘70’s movement, but with smartphones. That being said, for all that “moving here” and “moving there” with no sense of direction, it also seems as though we’re stuck in a lot of dressed-up, traditional paradigms. And, whether we know it or not, we’re committed to the wrong things.

Maybe it’s your job, maybe it’s the catatonic relationship you’ve invested half your life into, maybe it’s your Facebook account (no one really cares what your dinner looks like or that it was your kid’s 48th month birthday – that’s 4 years old, by the way. Give it up.) or maybe it’s just the way you feel about yourself? Wrong commitments. And so, we stay stuck in the things that don’t line up with who we are.

But, we’re scared. And, rightfully so. It’s scary out there. Quitting something you’ve gotten yourself into comes with a lot of recourse. Someone might think you’re a jerk (PS that’s their problem), you might have to change the way you do things in life that you’ve done for years, you might be out a wheelbarrow full of money or the worst yet, you might have to actually confront yourself with the question of “what the f am I actually doing in my life”. But, you know what the really really scary thing is? Staying in a place that doesn’t fill your Heart because of any of those reasons.

The following is inevitable; you will hurt people, you will make people sad. Also true; you will be hurt, and someone else will make you sad. Without doing a mental do-si-do, here’s how it works – if you’re trying to make yourself happy and truly follow your Heart, without any intent toward hurting someone else (even if they still end up getting hurt), then you’re doing what you need to be doing. Heart, lead. You, follow. Make sense?

We all have a responsibility to support each others’ Heart. Some people will let you, and some people won’t even know what that is. But, there is no commitment you need to have in anything that isn’t about you. If you’re truly finding alignment with your Heart, it will want to support the rest of humanity, even if it feels like the smallest drop in the ocean.

There is only ever one commitment you’ll need to make it life. Love yourself.

Be Love.




hey ho, let’s grow


What you give your attention to, will grow. That which you allow to be, is beautiful.

There is balance to everything. We can underdo things as much as we can overdo them. Too little water and your plant won’t get enough life. Too much water and it will drown. But, the right amount of attention; the amount whereby, it has the support it needs but is allowed to be what it needs to be, will enable it to flourish. It will be beautiful; the way it was intended to be.

We overdo the negative and we underdo the positive. Neither know that it is what it is; negative does not know negative and positive does not know positive. It simply seeks your attention. Your focus toward the negative, gives it “life”. It gives it the support it needs to grow. And, the larger it becomes, the more we lose sight that we are the ones that enable its growth. Eventually, it is us who will drown.

We underdo the positive. We do not cultivate the ideas and emotions that support its growth. Often, we believe we have trouble even planting the seeds when, in fact, they have been planted for us; many times over. You need only be here to provide the light.

We can overdo the positive, too. Falsely, in truth, it is only what seems like the positive. The reason we overdo the “positive” is because for as much attention we provide to it, it still seems as though it requires more. It seems to take rather than give. This is not your true positive. This vampire feeling is a misalignment of who you’re really supposed to be.

When you give your support but also allow what it is to “be”, it will give back to you. You will feel as though your effort is minimal because it completes the circle of give and take. Or, rather, it recycles the give and take. Building off of both, each time.

True positive growth can happen amidst the negative. Perhaps, even, the negative is required to set apart the positive. The most enlightened of us would be able to explain the beauty in both is equal.

You are put here, planted here, to grow. To be supported and to flourish into what your beauty is. To “do” but not “overdo”; to allow your true inner being. To “do” but not “underdo”; to support your true inner being.

There is, absolutely, beauty everywhere around us. It only needs to be looked at to be recognized. It’s your guide. You are not apart from it, but you are it. If you simply choose to see it, to be part of it, it will be there. You will be there. You will be it.

Be Love.





is that the Lövbacken or the Kragsta?

instruction manual

There is no instruction manual on how to be you. If there were well, you’d have authored it already. I mean, who’s more suited to write about you than you?

Some of us (more than we know) spend a lot of time searching for that manual. Maybe you feel lost? Maybe you’re not really sure what happened, but here you are, “stuck”. Maybe you’re just not sure of who you see in the mirror, anymore? Or, maybe you never were sure?

Somewhere along the way, it feels like you lost You. Your spirit, your individuality, your soul was quieted; maybe even silenced. You probably didn’t even notice it happening. It’s funny; we try to find our identity by being like everyone else.

Eventually, when the misalignment from your true self becomes so loud that no amount outside noise or distraction can drown it out anymore, you feel like you don’t know who you are anymore. Or, maybe more aptly put, you don’t know WHO you can be anymore.


Nothing was ever really lost.

Your instruction manual; the blueprint on who it is to be you, is in your Heart. Your Heart is what created you; physiologically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. There was a brain in your Heart long before there was one in your head. (You can actually Google that. It’s science.)

Who you really are, and will ever be, is a permanent part of you. It might just be filed away in some dark corner, but you can always get at that file. Rhetorical question time: ever heard the expressions, “search your Heart”, “follow your Heart”, etc, etc? Well….get it?

It’s not a matter of figuring out what’s in there; everything is in there. It’s a matter of figuring out how to listen to it. Whether it’s your conscience, your intuition, your passion or what makes you see that bright flash of light; it’s all the same thing. The signs may all be different, but the message comes from the same place.

You can actually think with Heart. Sure, it’s definitely all about feeling, but there’s logic in there, too. Your Heart can reason, it can rationalize and it has its own intelligence in there.

We were all built from the Heart, up. And, we’ve built what is around us. “Following your Heart” is not a matter of rolling the dice based on a feeling, it’s going back to the real architect of everything you see around you. You want to know all the details about a structure? Or, how to fix a problem? Where the access to the power is? Go to the instruction manual. Go to the architect. Go to your Heart.

It’s not complicated. It’s not about the pros and cons or fitting in or doing what seems to make the most sense. It’s just about accessing what’s already in your Heart. This is something that no one can tell you how to do. Someone can tell you that you can do it, but you can’t be told how to. You just have to try and try and try again. Just go back to the beginning.

“Congratulations! You’re the proud owner of your Heart. Tools you will require….”

Be Love.