Monthly archives "September 2014"

what does Mr. Miyagi have to do with Love?

wax on wax off

Are you the student or the teacher?

The majority of us, for the most part, probably think that our propensity and capacity for Love is pretty static. Kinda like, we have ‘x’ amount of room for Love, we can give ‘x’ amount of Love and we know what we know about Love. Realistically, we probably don’t really ever think of it at all. It just, “is what it is”….well, it’s not. 🙂

Love is school.

The great thing about this school is that you don’t always have to really try that hard; or be paying attention; or studying or doing tonnes of homework. In fact, you don’t always even have to go. Just being in the building is an amazing start. Actually attending class is even better. And, if you decide to get involved in extracurricular activities, you’ll be well on your way to the top of the class.

All this school requires is your enrollment and for you to walk through the doors. For most of us, though, we have yet to find the entrance. And, that’s okay. It’s not hard to find. Simply choosing to become a student will get you in. And, once you’re in, Love will be as big a part of your life as you want it to be.

You might feel a little lost at first; like you’re wandering the halls not knowing where to start. But, Love doesn’t need a map. It’s inside of you. Consciously allowing it into your life will immediately increase your Love Quotient. Your learning will begin before you realize. And, there’s definitely no shortage of lessons being taught; some of them very obvious and others, not so much. Some of them as easy as 101; others, made for the advanced class. Staying the course, regardless of the progress you believe you’re making (or not making) is what will get you on the honour roll.

To make it even easier, there are no grades in this school. You don’t even have to always be aware of what you’re learning or see the lesson, either. Everyone here is passing. There is no failure. By trusting in Love, you’ve ensured that you’ll successfully complete your curriculum on your own pace and at your own level. And, before you know it Danielsan, what you’ve learned throughout the way will become so apparent. You’ll acknowledge, instinctively, how all you are is Love. You’ll be able to see it, apply it and live it. You won’t only be a student, but you’ll also be the teacher. You’ll never stop being either.

If this all seems a little too simple, it’s because it is. The moment you choose Love to be your teacher is the moment you choose to evolve; to move forward. To become your true self. And, there’s no rush. When you’re ready, you’ll be ready. This school never closes and has enough spots for everyone.

be Love.


letting nature work

letting nature work


Letting Nature Work
Silent Change

We all see things about ourselves, our relationships, and our world that we want to change. Often, this desire leads us to take action toward inner work that we need to do or toward some external goal. Sometimes, without any big announcement or momentous shift, we wake up to find that change has happened, seemingly without us. This can feel like a miracle as we suddenly see that our self-esteem really does seem to be intact, or our partner actually is helping out around the house more. We may even wonder whether all of our hard work had anything to do with it, or if it just happened by way of grace.

As humans, sometimes we have relatively short attention spans, and we can easily lose track of time. We may worry about a seedling in a pot with our constant attention and watering for several weeks only to find ourselves enjoying the blooms it offers and wondering when that happened, and how we didn’t notice it. Nature, on the other hand, has infinite patience and stays with a thing all the way through its life. This doesn’t mean that our efforts play no part in the miracle of change—they do. It’s just that they are one small part of the picture that finally results in the flowering of a plant, the shifting of a relationship, the softening of our hearts.

The same laws that govern the growth of plants oversee our own internal and external changes. We observe, consider, work, and wonder, tilling the soil of our lives, planting seeds, and tending them. Sometimes the hard part is knowing when to stop and let go, handing it over to the universe. Usually this happens by way of distraction or disruption, our attention being called away to other more pressing concerns. And it is often at these times, when we are not looking, in the silence of nature’s embrace, that the miracle of change happens.

by Madisyn Taylor


thanks CK 😉

who do you think you are?!

the riddler

A teacher, a tax accountant, a fire fighter, a nurse, a janitor.

Nope. Not even close.

You’re Love. 🙂

How many times have you been asked, “what do you do?” Countless, probably. How many times have you answered, “I’m a messenger of Love”? None, near certainly.

From as far back as we can remember, we’re pushed to decide who we want to be and never to acknowledge who we actually ARE. We study, we take tests, we interview, we intern and we finally get a job that provides us with what we believe to be our identity. For many, it offers relevance; it offers a purpose. For others, it’s an emptiness. We think that we need to get up in the morning and go to wherever it is we need to go and do whatever it is we need to do, to be “something”. When, the truth is that you’ve always been and will always be EVERYTHING.

Love is your purpose, and being bigger than yourself is the way to get there. To be bigger than yourself is to be your true Self. And, your true Self is Love. You can be this no matter what it is that you do. Your job and your pay cheque give you what you need to survive; Love is what you need to live. Everything we do is platform to be Love, your job being no exception. It may, very well, be something you can’t stand; you might even hate it. But, there is opportunity there. It’s the opportunity to make someone else’s life better whether it be for a moment, the afternoon or that entire week. It’s a smile, it’s holding the door open, it’s telling someone they look nice today, it’s lending a helping hand on a project. That is what you really do. That is your job while you are here.

Think of those people in your life that you Love. Do you care what their title is? Does it make a difference if they’re a doctor or a lawyer or a nuclear physicist? It doesn’t. What matters is the Love you share with that person. We can share this Love with everyone.

Tomorrow, and every day for that matter, when you go to your job that perhaps isn’t all that great or perhaps is the greatest thing ever, think of how you want to make a difference. Think of how it doesn’t matter if you work in the basement or if your name is on the building to be able to make that difference. Think of how your job is to be Love and the place where you are is just where you get to do it from.

be Love.


how to Love a prick


“Being negative only makes a difficult journey more difficult. You may be given a cactus, but you don’t have to sit on it.”

We get a bad deal, dive head first into its onslaught and follow our natural instinct to pull ourselves down into its abyss. It’s the classic, “oh, woe is me” approach. All of sudden, we can’t see more than four feet in front of our faces, and thus, our entire vision is tunneled into whatever is so “terrible” that is happening to us.

If you didn’t know too much about cacti, like me, you’d probably think it wasn’t a very fun plant. It’s rigid, it’s spiny, and it’s just plain uninviting. Nothing good here.

But, if you took the time to get to know that cactus, you’d find out some interesting things you wouldn’t have expected. You’d learn that its spines help prevent water loss; you’d learn that the specialized structure that produces its spines also bloom flowers and; you’d learn that beneath it all, there is an extensive root system which enable the cactus to thrive in the most toughest of conditions. But, I digress. This isn’t a lesson in the study of botanomics.

What it is though, is a study in seeing the big picture. And, the big picture is you and the universe. Not, you VERSUS the universe but you AND the universe, working together, whether you know it or not. The cosmos is always conspiring to put you on your path. It’s like a clandestine auto-pilot. We think we might be getting a prickly cactus, but we’re really getting what’s beneath that inhospitable exterior. We can either choose to have a seat on the thing and make it worse, or we can choose to eventually see the flowers blossom and marvel at its unseen ability to give itself life.

The universe doesn’t want to drag you down and make life difficult. But, it does want you to learn a little as you go. It wants you to be able to find the Love in every situation you face (which, don’t get me wrong, I waiver on from time to time. Case in point, hearing another absolutely ridiculous sounding 4-cylinder muffler drive by as I type this. Like, what am I supposed to learn from being completely annoyed by those things?).

Nonetheless, choose to Love the prickly spines, and ask yourself, “why am I facing this? What will it help me learn? and, “how can I embrace this?” And, it’s okay if you don’t have the answers. Just asking the questions puts you in a position to receive what you need to receive. Let yourself have faith that Love is on your side, albeit sometimes disguised as few bumps and bruises. But, they’re really only bumps and bruises if we choose for them to be.

If we choose to embrace that cactus, give it our Love, let it grow, become stronger and bloom its flowers, we’ll learn the lessons we need to learn. And, sometimes it may happen overnight, but other times, it may seem to take forever. Sometimes, we might need to put all of our energy and effort into it, while in other instances, we might just need to send our Love from a distance and let it do its thing.

Everything wants to grow into something beautiful regardless of its exterior. Choose to find the beauty.

be Love.


you get what you give.

love magnet

It looks like this week is story week….

Trying to encourage people to be vulnerable and throw away their instinctual defense mechanism often results in a “you’re crazy” look. Or, the person will just directly say to me, “you’re crazy”. Fair enough.

When I try to explain that changing how you’re treated means changing how you treat others, regardless of what they’ve done or haven’t done to you, I’m usually met with a brick wall of skepticism and impossibility.

And so, I would like to share two stories and will simply leave you with this – just try it. If what you’ve been doing hasn’t been working (which it probably hasn’t), try it. Take a chance and put your Heart on the floor. Maybe it gets stomped on, but maybe it doesn’t. Maybe it’ll be your foundation to stand on.


Two weeks ago, at my co-ed soccer game, I exchanged a few words with an opposing player; nothing major. He took to complaining about nearly everything and I wanted to reason with the guy, ie get him to shut his yap. As he passed by me, all the while sharing his victimizing grievances (eye roll), I very calmly suggested that he settle down and that nothing really terrible was happening to him. Truthfully, I did tell him he didn’t need to be a “crybaby” about everything, but it was with good intention. Out of nowhere, a very unassuming young lady started tearing strip out of me; insults, language, etc, etc. As I was smiling at her, I just wanted her to let it out. When I asked why I deserved all of those things she said to me, she replied, “well, someone on your team called me ugly”. There was zero hesitation in my Heart; I looked her right in the eyes and said, “I don’t think you’re ugly at all.” My new friend was a deer in headlights.

Not more than a minute later, I received an apology. Truthfully, at that moment, I felt connected with her. And, if it wouldn’t have been totally weird, I would have given her a hug.


Another soccer game, tonight in fact. In the midst of a battle I had for the ball with an opposing player, he happened to come down quite hard on my ankle. Pretty unnecessary by most standards, and I’m pretty sure not exactly unintentional. Once the play had gone down the field, I ran near to him, patted him on the arm and, with no hostility or anger in my voice or face, said, “hey man, take it a bit easier. I don’t need you breaking my ankle”. He arrogantly replied, “that’s soccer”. As I jogged away, kinda wanting to get the last word, I said, “I know. I know. It’s just a bit much, man. It’s all good.” Minutes later, hand extended, my new friend offered an apology. He agreed that what he had done wasn’t necessary and he was sorry. In fact, he and I had a few more run-ins throughout the course of the game, simply due to our competitive nature, and we now would ask each other if the other was okay. Or, we patted each other on the back. Even though we were against each other, we respected the other’s well-being.

Connected, again.

And, that’s how I look at these instances; connections. When we act and respond with anger, revenge and hostility, we get the same. And, we get further apart. When we do our best to use our Heart, we connect. We get closer. And, I tell you for sure, the feeling I get from these results far outweigh the ones I would get when I went toe-to-toe, eye for an eye with someone who wronged me. If you knew me six or seven or eight years ago, you wouldn’t have known this person writing these words. He didn’t exist. Retribution existed. Anger existed. Being right existed. That all doesn’t make sense to me anymore. This does. I can’t control what’s already been done to me. But, I can try to control how I want to respond to it. And, no. We can’t change other people, but we can change ourselves. The rest will follow.

The cliché holds true for me, and so I’ll use it. “If I can do it, so can you.”

be Love.


PS: my dad can still really frustrate the f out of me. But, I’m working on it! Everything takes practice. 🙂