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you get what you deserve

You deserve kindness.

You deserve patience.

You deserve compassion.

You deserve to feel confident.

You deserve to be beautiful.

You deserve to see all that is beautiful.

You deserve to accept everything about you.

You deserve to have a voice.

You deserve to stand up for yourself.

You deserve to be important.

You deserve respect.

You deserve thought and consideration.

You deserve attention.

You deserve the biggest hugs and the warmest kisses.

You deserve snuggling on the sofa.

You deserve a day off.

You deserve comfort.

You deserve to be taken care of.

You deserve to feel safe.

You deserve to be supported.

You deserve help.

You deserve to be listened to.

You deserve to cry.

You deserve to be held up.

You deserve to be lifted up.

You deserve to smile.

You deserve joy.

You deserve meaning.

You deserve to be happy.

You deserve rest.

You deserve the calm.

You deserve peace.

You deserve to trust.

You deserve to not be scared.

You deserve to be courageous.

You deserve to let your Heart speak.

You deserve to let go.

You deserve the Universe.

You deserve to be Loved.

You deserve to Love.

You deserve it all.

 

Be Love.

sometimes, you get more than what you pay for

We do a lot of things without a whole heap of restraint; we drive too fast, we eat poorly, we social media like crazy, we abuse substances, we’re impatient, we’re unkind and we’re just plain negative (see what I did there?).

What we don’t really do so freely, is Love.

Our actions, emotions and feelings, the above being no exception, come with potential consequence to one degree or another; some more graver than others. Yet, we liberally, and frequently, partake without much thought or concern as to what can potentially befall us. At the same time, our actions, emotions and feelings come with potential benefit. If they didn’t, most of us wouldn’t do the things we choose to do.

If you speed in your car, you’ll probably get where you’re going quicker, but you run the risk of a traffic ticket, an accident and even personal injury. If you don’t take care of your health, sure it’s probably easier day-to-day, you’ll eat more treats and exercise less; but, the long-term (and short-term) effects to your health will lead to a diminished quality of life. As for being impatient, unkind and just a plain ol’ jerk; I don’t know what one stands to gain – perhaps some sense of false power? Nonetheless, that one I can be sure results an energy and frequency drag to yourself and anyone around you.

With the consequences easily apparent and clearly not commensurate relative to the potential short-term “benefits”, we freely partake in many of these practices regularly. It, somehow, seems like we fallaciously convince ourselves that what’s to gain is greater than what’s to lose….or, maybe we just don’t even think about it at all?

Then there’s Love. Love – the one that we can’t help but over think. The one that we prophesize, we prognosticate and we agonize over what the consequences could be if it doesn’t work out the way we want it to. The one that we all know and want the benefits of, yet can’t get past what the risk is. And, I get it. At one point in life, we didn’t over think it; we didn’t play out the “worst case scenarios”. We gave our Love freely; the way it was meant to be given. Then came the time we were hurt. It changed everything.

Does it reckon that this speaks to Love in the capacity of romantic relationships? Yes, it does. But, it’s really just about Love. All kinds of Love. Any kind of Love.

Love is this really vulnerable, really powerful force. No matter who you offer it to, there’s always a chance of consequence. There’s always the chance it’s not reciprocated; there’s always a chance it doesn’t meet your expectations; there’s always a chance you can be hurt. With friends, family, romantic partners and even strangers; it’s no different. There are always potential consequences. And, in fact, the likelihood is that you will experience some form of hurt, if you haven’t already. Most have been there before, I’m sure. Love, though, is also that one practice in life that creates infinitely more strength than any sort of pain. It’s the one that truly creates meaning. It changes life.

Love makes us shy; it makes us nervous; we build walls because of it; we put our guard up. We do this because we don’t want any of the pain that can come from this very raw form of vulnerability. We rarely, if ever, think of silently offering Love to a stranger or someone less fortunate or to the jerk that just cut you off on the road. We don’t really make it a habit to let our cherished friends know we Love them. We probably don’t view a challenging co-worker as a just a person that too desires the emotion that accompanies a feeling of Love. And, certainly, our “loved” ones are the ones that we can treat more harshly than anyone else in our lives.

In its true essence, Love is the only thing that when we give it, the gift is to our self. Love is not responsible for hurt, we are, our expectation is and our dependency is. Love, truly, does not come with consequence. It is our choice to throw Love under the bus when what we want to happen, doesn’t.

Love wants you to do two things; give it away and have a short memory for when you “think” you don’t get it back. Love is something that you just have to let the Universe keep track of. And, it will. It, totally, will. Vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability is faith. Faith in the Universe, faith in your Heart and faith in Love.

You’ll experience a lot of what your gift of Love does. You’ll also not experience a lot of it and probably wonder what the point was. Probably feel pretty crummy about it, too. But, those are the experiences where you just have to trust Love. Love trusts you, after all. Why else would it let you choose what you do with It?

Make the choice.

Be Love.

two thousand and seventeen – a year in review

There’s a certain philosophy, largely centered within the practice of consciousness and spirituality, that time does not exist. It is, if anything, a thought-provoking catalyst enabling the thinker an involuntary willingness to expand their mind – kinda like one of those, “if a tree falls in the forest….” moments. That being said, it is a philosophy not totally devoid of science. Einstein, himself, in fact proposed a hypothesis that the “dividing lines between past, present and future is an illusion”. And, he was a bright dude.

As my own time here has advanced, I can’t help but to have noticed that time feels different than it used to. And, it’s not something I can readily explain. It feels as though this past year just began and yet, here we are, ready to start a new one. In the same thought, as I reflect upon all the things that have happened in 2017, there’s no doubt it’s been a lot. All squished into the same 365 days like in any other year. And so, I don’t know if I can reason out what the deal with time is. It makes me think that maybe “time” should not be measured in seconds, minutes and days, but rather in experiences. Experiences in what you’ve learned.

Now, it would be easy to speak about all that’s transpired in the past year. But, that’s nothing more than a recounting of fact. I don’t want to say it’s taking the easy route, but it’s definitely not the avenue of personal growth or evolution. I believe that our evolution is enabled by our challenges and victories; which are actually one and the same. Make no mistake; all of our challenges are victories. All of them. It sometimes may not seem that way; we get stressed out, are cheated, lose a job, our health fails, we’re heartbroken, you name it. But, we prevail. We prevail because those experiences shape who we are. When we say, “ok, what has this unlocked inside of me?” That is your victory.

And so, this is my 2017.

I’ve learned that consistent, positive meditation will create what you want in your life. Coupled with listening to your Heart and taking action, you can create anything.

I’ve learned that listening to your Heart and actually doing it, is not easy. Simple in concept, but not easy in action. That’s what makes following through that much more impactful.

I’ve learned to better understand how I work both physically and emotionally. It’s a matter of education, trial and “error” and intuition.

I’ve learned that carbs aren’t really that bad.

I’ve learned that goals and aspirations and the life you want, evolves as you do.

I learned of a level of patience and understanding that I never thought I had in me.

But, I’ve also learned that my ability to be empathetic needs work.

I’ve learned that when you believe and hope in something, you have to fill that belief and hope with your Heart. That’s where you will find the greatest fight in you.

I still like soup.

I’ve learned that fear can be your guide. When it seems like fear is overriding your thoughts and your actions and is silencing or blocking your ability to listen to and follow your Heart, all you do is the opposite of what fear is saying.

I’ve learned that we’re all radios tuned into a frequency. And sometimes, when our frequency is a little bit fuzzy, we need that of others’ to help clear ours up – the ones that truly support our frequency.

I’ve learned that even though your Heart can be in the right place, it doesn’t mean you can’t hurt someone. Including yourself.

I’ve learned that you can distinguish an alligator from a crocodile by paying attention to whether the animal sees you later or in a while.

I’ve learned that we choose to be bigger. I’ve learned that we choose to evolve. Everybody has this choice available to them. Each one of us is hardwired as a Loving and compassionate being. It’s the life we live and the challenges we experience that will unlock that Love and compassion. It’s a choice. And, it’s a choice that you can make each day regardless of the one you made the day before.

I’ve learned that three beautiful Hearts unlocked mine.

Happy 2018!

Be Love.

the meaning of Christmas

Christmas means a lot of things to a lot of people. Family, friends, partying, gifts, eating too much, Santa Claus, sleeping in and even stress. All fair, all relevant.

The one meaning that I cannot dispute as to why this day exists is because that of a single person. Just a person. Not a saviour. Not a god. Not anything more than a person. And, what that person represented; Love.

Amidst the dogma, precepts and tenets, there was only one reason for that star to shine in the night sky over two thousand years ago. Not for anyone, but for everyone. For Love.

Christmas opens our Hearts. It carries with it an energy and power that is unlike any other. It is the power of connection. Whether aware or not, we have all felt this energy. I have felt this energy and I know that it isn’t able to speak to my Heart and not yours, for either none of us are special or all of us are special. And I don’t believe the former to be true.

The power of this energy, this connection, is yours with no bounds. It was always meant for you. It is a power of kindness, compassion, forgiveness and, of course, Love. It is a power of true meaning. It is a power to see the beauty in the Hearts of others. It is a power to see the beauty in your own Heart. It is a power to overcome our fears, our insecurities and our doubts and to realize our courage, our resilience and our confidence in ourselves and in each other. This is the feeling we were meant to have always. This is a real power you own not just for one day of the year, but for every day.

It’s not just about how strongly we can Love in the best of times, it is too, about how strongly we can persevere in the name of Love in the not-so-best of times. Christmas, I think, is a time where we all let our guard down. We let our guard down because it’s not really where our Heart wants to be, even though we sometimes put it there. The power of Christmas, the connection to each other, the connection to those close to us, is so special on this day that Love has no choice but to prevail. To be more triumphant than its counterparts that act to silence it.

It’s simple. It’s always been simple. Just Love. Everything fades out except for the reason that star shone in the night sky so long ago; Love. It is everywhere in your life.

“We all make mistakes. Which means, hey, glass half full, we all have a lot in common. And, the more we try to understand one another, the more exceptional each of us will be.

But, we have to try….I implore you, try. Try to make the world a better place. Look inside yourself and recognize that change starts with you. It starts with me. It starts with all of us.”

                                                                                                                           Officer Judy Hopps – Zootopia Police Department

 

Merry Christmas.

Be Love.

a new hope

I believe in good.

I have to.

The reason I have to believe in good is because of who I choose to believe I am. I believe I am good. I believe I have a good Heart and good intentions and good aspirations. I believe that the true person I am, the person that I will always be, the person that I have always been, is a good person. It is no different than knowing the sun is always shining bright, no matter how dark the clouds are that day.

My belief is important because I falter. Belief is important when we actually can’t see that which we know to be true. Seeing is only believing when we succumb to fear. Believing, when we are in a place of Love, is what enables us to see. This is true power. When I falter, when I am not the person I want to be, I have to believe that I am that good person. If I do not believe, I will not be. I will not see.

I make mistakes. I say the wrong things. I have critical thoughts. I take the wrong approach. Sometimes this happens without thinking too concisely or happens by thinking too quickly. And, sometimes this happens when I’m sure I’ve been the most diligent in my thought process. It is because fear doesn’t know how much or how little you’ve thought about something; fear doesn’t know if you’re insecure or confident; fear doesn’t know if you’re happy or upset. All fear knows is that when it sees an open door, it will go through and stay as long as it possibly can. I, too, let fear get the better of me. But I know it’s not because I’m not a good person. It is because I’ve faltered. It is temporary. It is a mask I’ve put on that is not really me.

I am grateful for the falter. It’s what enables me to understand more about myself. It shows me the cracks that need to be filled (with Love). I have no problem admitting a mistake, but I don’t choose to view it negatively. Mistakes are the greatest opportunity for self-reflection, self-awareness and self-Love. These are the water, soil and sun for your growth.

Growth can sprout up immediately, but it can also be measured. The experiences we have are amazing in that they can jolt our growth nearly as it happens or they can also guide us to a gradual path. Both are simultaneously true because of the belief in yourself that you are good.  Believing that you are good enables you the power to pull the mask off immediately or layer by layer. It is your strength, your resolve and your support that directs this.

Everyone is good but not everyone chooses this belief. If I believe I am good, then I must believe that everyone else is, too. My strength is the belief in myself. You will and have, undoubtedly, encountered people that have harmed you, hurt you, cheated you; they are all good. They simply do not have the inner belief in themselves.

I believe I am good. I believe you are good.

Believe.

Be Love.

 

 

 

why your windshield is bigger than your rear view

Reflection; it’s a meaningful and integral component of self-awareness and conscious growth. It’s something that, knowingly or not, we all do.

It’s human nature to think about the past; to revisit it, to recalculate it, to relive it. It’s human nature to allow our past to shape our future. The truth, though, is that our past doesn’t actually shape our future. The truth is that we allow our past to shape who we are right now by that of which we, by choice, then employ to create our future.

The reason your windshield is bigger than your rear view mirror is because what’s in front of you is much more important than what you’ve already passed by. Yet, there can often be an involuntary pull to stay affixed to that what was.

For a lot of us, we don’t just use the rear view to glance at what may be approaching that we don’t expect. We stare. We get lost in it. We begin to forget what direction we’re actually travelling in. This isn’t hard to do. Your windshield isn’t that far from your rear view. We convince ourselves that, even though we’re looking at the reflection of something in behind of us, it’s the forward direction. It can certainly have a tendency to look a lot like what’s in front of us. But, it’s not. And, while what’s back there is integral to your journey, the beliefs that have been created as a product of those travels are limiting to who you really can be. They have created the singularity that is exactly the definition of the past; there is only one option in the past – the option that was.

Uncertainty persuades us to believe the rear view is the windshield. We’ve done what’s back there, we know what it’s like, we’ve been through it before. We want to stay there because we know what it is. We are familiar with it. What happens is that we allow our past to shape who we are right now and that’s it; we end it there. We don’t grow. We don’t get bigger. We don’t see new challenges. We don’t open our Hearts. Yes of course your past plays a part in your present and your future. But, the part it plays is not the one whereby it dictates any timeline beyond what it already was. The part it plays is that moment of reflection as you glance into it to remind yourself that you can be as much of it, or as little of it, as you choose.

The path we travel down doesn’t stop whether we’re looking at the broad expanse of view through the windshield or the compact back facing mirror. Though, when we stare into our rear view with our foot still on the gas, the inevitable happens. We either hit what we didn’t see or we pass by beautiful opportunities in our life because we were too busy trying to navigate a road we’ve already navigated. I guess you could keep looking out the back and just stop accelerating. But then you wouldn’t be going anywhere, would you?

I’m not trying to say that the past is the past and you should leave it there. I’m not saying that at all. But, we all have experiences from our lives that we don’t use to positively impact our future, or very simply, we just hang onto and limit the person we can be. We limit the belief of the person that we can be. You can only be as caring, as open, as compassionate and as Loving of a person as you believe you can be. And, similarly, you can only receive as much of all of that as you believe you deserve.

First you believe, then you can see.

Be Love.

 

 

 

thanks for the presence

We are all responsible for the energy we carry with us.

It’s not meant to be a daunting provocation; it is however, meant to be a resolute reminder. What we carry with us, what we bring with us, will be the moment in which we live. It is as much becoming a product of your environment as it is shaping the environment to be a product of you. That is what energy does.

Be that as it may, this responsibility isn’t a full time job; for two reasons. One – you’re a human being; you can’t always be expected to be ‘on’. Sometimes, you just aren’t there and that’s ok (these are the times when we need someone else to help us out or also when we can just be in the muck). And, two – every moment is another opportunity to raise yourself to a higher energy. You can, literally, reset yourself at any moment in time.

The impact of your presence, intentional or not, is felt by everyone who is connected with you. Argument aside, we are all connected. But, this is also to varying degrees. In fact, even you, yourself, experience your own presence. It seems redundant, but you supply the environment with your energy that creates the energy you supply the environment with. You exist in that environment absorbing what is in that energetic field. Speaking in circles, am I? Think of a time when something crummy happened to you. You rehashed it in your mind. You felt sorry for yourself. You began to agonize over it. You felt even more sorry for yourself. You scrutinized every little detail of the incident while getting deeper into it. You felt the despair of it and so on and so forth.

It’s the same effect as with offering the beauty inside of you; the smile you wear on your face, the way you greet another human being; stranger or friend, the bounce you have in your step. This creates the energy that surrounds everything. And, that’s just the surface stuff. It’s also the deeper, internal energy you carry that will permeate your environment and the people in it. Similarly, you are a receiver of outside energies which are absorbed by your energy field whether you “see” anything or not. Ever know a person that just makes you feel better even if they’re not doing so great? Ever know a person that can just suck the life out of you even if they’re sunshine and lollipops? This is why; it’s the energy thing.

This isn’t as labour intensive or complicated as it may come off to be. It’s really just an acknowledgement and awareness of how we propel our own Universe and those of others around us. There will be people that pick us up and there will be people that we pick up. There will be instances whereby everyone seems to on top of the mountain and others where misery will certainly love company.

Be responsible for your energy. Or, start by just knowing you are responsible for your energy. Feel your energy, feel the energy around you. Connect with it; realize that it is not separate from you. It’s all a conduit to access the truly higher being that you are. And, really, it simply can improve your life. These words; connection, energy, absorb, resonate – they are all related because they drive each other. These actions drive the greater You.

Your presence is a gift. Unwrap it.

Be Love.

 

 

mr green

 

You know there’s this thing that’s happened to me more than a few times now that I keep getting surprised by and know I shouldn’t; “everything is the Universe’s canvas”.

I seem to forget that the Universe speaks to us in different ways, at different times and through different mediums.

I’ve definitely been guilty of thinking that a message of true meaning can only come from a transcendent meditation or a best seller from Oprah’s book club or a profound conversation with someone who appears to be “enlightened”. But, it’s really not solely the case. The Universe doesn’t give two hoots how it gets its message to you, it just wants to get it to you.

More often than not, we approach many situations without an openness to receive. We, sorta, unintentionally “judge a book by its cover”. And, not in a bad way, but in a way that closes us up a bit. It’s not that we do it on purpose; it’s just that we use a very narrow brush to paint our horizon. Whereas the Universe uses a brush the width of which has no bounds.

I know it’s happened to me before where, in a particular situation, the last thing I would expect would be to receive an impactful or heartfelt message. But, it happens. And, it happens again. It’s just the Universe painting our growth with broad brush strokes.

Now, it’s very very possible such a message was only meant for you. Or, it may be that the message was meant to be en masse. Or, it may even be that a bunch of people received it the same way but processed it differently. This is just the Universe doing what it does. And, it does the same from a goofy movie, a fortune cookie or off the back of a city bus just as well as it does from the Dalai Llama or Deepak Chopra. Now, the Dalai Llama and Deepak Chopra, through intention alone, probably have more of a chance at getting you with an insight than the 32 express does, but still. Both can bring meaning if we are open and ready to receive that meaning; if we want the Universe’s attention and we want to give it ours.

What I’m really learning is that the Universe just wants to communicate. It wants to put itself in front of you through the stuff that you put in front of yourself. I don’t want to say the Universe can’t call you up on the telephone, it could very well happen. But, I think it’s more likely that it wants you to show some trust in It by opening up your Heart to the way it knows how to communicate with you.

Maybe just like this?

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

i think therefore i am….am what?

We think too much.

I’m doing it right now as a matter of fact. I’m sitting here, in front of this keyboard, trying to ensure that the message I want to convey, is conveyed the way I think it should be rather than being more interested in conveying my message the way I feel it should be.

Many of the posts I’ve made here, apparent or not, have had their genesis as a result of some sort of what’s going on in my life. And, rightfully so. Rightfully so because what gets typed in these words isn’t something that is meant to be cerebral. There’s an element of that, sure, as there should be. But, it’s really meant to be emotive. There was a time that, more often than not, I approached this from an analytical position. I tried to ‘think’ of things to write about; ‘think’ of how to get a message across. What I found was that the posts that felt the most fulfilling were those that weren’t about the thinking, but about the feeling.

What’s here is really about creating a connection with myself and what is coming through me from my Heart. And, to not be afraid to share that. It is our minds, our over thinking, that makes us afraid. It’s easy to confuse the two; Heart vs mind. It’s easy to believe that, at those moments when we are about to share are true self, we doubt our Heart. When our true self wants to speak, that is something that originates in our Heart. And, it is something the mind opposes more adamantly than any other instance. Why? Because it believes it is not in control. It doesn’t like to not be in control. This is when the mind puts up its strongest persuasion.

When you experience a true part of your Heart coming through you, it is there because of the Universe. The Universe does not communicate with the mind. It communicates with your Heart. It channels its guidance and knowledge down to your Heart hoping that you will transfer that message up to your mind and allow you to carry it out. As beings trapped in the human condition, we misinterpret that the messages we should largely act upon originate in the mind, to then which we may push down into our Heart for further processing.

When that message of the Heart is coming up to flow out through the mind, the mind feels the force of the Universe behind it and has no choice but to try to exert an equal opposing force to silence it; so that it remains in control. So, when we ‘think’ we are feeling those fearful moments about sharing what we really have inside, what that is, is us feeling the threatened response of the mind. We’re not feeling the fear of our Heart (an impossibility, actually), we are experiencing the fear of the mind. We then easily associate the fear with our Heart rather than with that of the mind and its attempt at maintaining control.

I think I feel that we are who we really are when we act as conduits of our Heart. No one ever hears a story about how someone trusted their mind or relied on how their mind felt. Know why? Because those moments never led to anything beautiful enough to share. It’s “follow your Heart” and not “follow your mind” for a reason. The more seconds we waste in those moments when our Heart is trying to speak, the more we silence the power of the Universe coming to us and coming through us in whatever medium it chooses to. What remains constant is that it always comes to us to give through the Heart or to be received by us to take into our Heart.

I really think you should feel your way through the next one. 😉

Be Love.