james jaworsky

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if that picture doesn’t make you smile, i can’t help you. :)

You don’t just ‘be happy’, you choose happy.

Makes sense, doesn’t it? You don’t really just ‘be’ anything, do you? You don’t just ‘be’ strong. You don’t just ‘be’ well organized. You don’t just ‘be’ an astronaut. You have to choose the actions that are commensurate with the goal. You choose to go to the gym. You choose to be conscientious and tidy. You choose to go into outer space. Aside from humanness, ‘being’ anything doesn’t just happen (and, even the human being thing is a stretch for some people). 🙂

You choose happy. How? By making decisions in your life that lead to happiness. You choose joy; you choose fun; you choose uplifting people to spend time with; you choose hugs; you choose peace. You’ll never be able to choose everything in life that you get. But, you get to choose how you respond and you make the decisions that support your happiness. And hey, are you going to be happy all the time? Maybe! But, probably not. That’s what human being is about. The question is really about how you’re supporting happiness in your life.

We all go through tough times. We need those times. Great learning and personal evolution come from those times. When we reach beyond adversity to find the other side, we call upon our greater self to challenge who we are and who we want to be. That is growth. That is evolution. But, there also comes the time, past adversity, past the tough time, when we find further growth by choosing to elevate our Self. It’s as though you bump yourself up a notch and create a new baseline of Self; a new baseline of happiness that has traversed and triumphed over the former. You make that choice.

I know it’s easy to say you’re not happy, for any variety of reasons. But, I challenge anyone wholeheartedly that truly believes they’ve never experienced joy, or had fun, or appreciated the company of a loved one, or felt safe in a hug. That’s the stuff that leads to happiness. Doing those things over and over and over, again. Find the resources in your life to create the opportunities that create those feelings and emotions. The more time you spend in those places, the easier it becomes for your baseline to mirror that; to elevate there. You’ll forget what it feels like to be lower. You’ll forget what it feels like to be discouraged. You’ll forget what it feels like to lack value in who you are. When you spend more time in places that lead to happiness, you take the strain off of your mind to remember what it’s like. You remove the distance between the two points. You live there, together. Through, probably some not great times sure, but surrounded by happiness way more of the time. Surrounded by support, by strength, and yes, Love. These building blocks construct themselves upon each other; they’re dependent upon each other. You don’t work toward one to, only then, work toward the next. You let them work all together; that’s where the true power is. Everyone pulls the rope at the same time. If the first person pulled with all their might, then stopped so that the second person could pull with all their might and stopped to let the next person pull and the next and the next, down to the end, everyone would end up in the mud before they knew it. You pull at all these things together.

Get basic. Read something inspirational. Watch something heartwarming. Give a hug. Ask for a hug. Lay under the stars. Stop and smell the roses. Eat chocolate. Tell someone they’re beautiful. Tell yourself you’re beautiful. Pick up the telephone, dial a number and say, “I Love you”.

I promise, you get to choose all of these things.

Choose happy. Choose Love.

 

Be Love.

Listen to something fun.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dGp8F7CHEY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ru0K8uYEZWw

can you hear me now?….

Connection.

Connection is real.

It’s the reason why that certain song always brightens your mood. It’s how you can watch that one movie over and over and over, again. It’s what draws you to a particular smell or a particular colour or a particular number (balsam, green and eight, by the way :] ). It’s connection. These are the frequencies emitted from any number of sources that resonate most with who you are. That connect with you; that tell the story of you.

Most importantly, though, connection is your greatest teacher.

Connection will guide you in an immense way. Albeit yes, although connection defines you in many physical parameters; the way you prefer to dress, the activities you like to participate in and the manner in which you represent your internal vision as your external self, connection is responsible for what shapes you most; relationships.

Connection is the reason for and why relationships enter, leave and remain a part of your life – including the relationship you have with your Self.

Think of the hundreds of people you’ve encountered in your life. Think of who has drifted through, stuck around for awhile, is here to stay and maybe even won’t seem to ever leave. Think, even, of the relationship you’ve had with your Self over the years. There are endless lessons here; joy, triumph, hurt, pain and Love.

It seems as though the general theory of connection is that it’s either there or it’s not there. And, it’s true. As elementary as it may seem to say, if a person has entered your life, there is a connection. Otherwise, they probably wouldn’t be there. But, it’s also true that connection is not just a ‘it works’ or ‘it doesn’t work’ thing. Connection is a ‘it takes work’ thing.

Connection is why you have the family you have; but it doesn’t mean that everything goes smoothly all the time. Connection is why you have the friends you have; but it doesn’t mean that you see or speak to them every week. Connection is why you have the romantic partners you have; but it doesn’t mean that you’re always on cloud eight or that any such person is even still around.

But, connection, real connection, is the reason why you do what it takes to be a family even when your physical self is frustrated and tired. Real connection is the reason why you can pick up with that friend after months without missing a beat even though your physical self has been absent for so long. And, real connection is the reason why you find a way to make it work with your partner even if your physical self attempts to stand in the way of your Heart.

Connection is rooted in the deeper part of who you are. It’s how strongly your Heart pulls you there. There doesn’t need to be a pen and paper reason for it. What your Heart says is the reason. It’s not established based upon attributes and definitions of the physical realm. Its foundation is in your Heart. Our physical limitations and boundaries are often what impede real connection, as opposed to fostering it.

To levy somewhat of a harsh opinion; if you feel as though you’re the same person you’ve always been, there’s a good chance you haven’t done any work in strengthening the connection you have with your Self. Why? Understandably, because it’s physically tough to deal with your shit. Your Heart and your spiritual being want nothing more than for you to be the beautiful soul that you are. That is your foundation of who you are. But, it’s your physical self that holds you back or convinces you that you’re “good” where you are; that you should be where you are. It’s also the reason we stay in relationships we shouldn’t. But, it is not of your Heart.

You don’t build connection; it is something that has already been long established before any of us knew so. It comes to us at the time in life that it needs to for us to evolve; to choose to evolve. You understand connection; not all will be the same. You strengthen connection; not all will get your full attention and energy. You learn and you grow. You decide which of them  will truly connect your Self to your life and to your Heart.

Be Love.

 

easy choice?

Last week, a very close friend called me saying that he’d promised himself that he would reach out with something more than a text message; certainly something I appreciated. In the same sentence, he also said he wanted to ask me something.

“Of course, man. Anything”.

Paraphrasing, he asked, “how do you write about the things you write about? How do you just put yourself out there with all of it?”

I remember my response. I paused….and then paused some more. Finally, I said, “because I’m not scared”.

I elaborated on I meant. It wasn’t a matter of being “tough” or “brave”, it was a matter of being who I am. I told him that I’d been through enough of life, of my life, to know this is who I’ve become and to be anything else would be as though I’d be swimming against the current trying to get somewhere I didn’t even want to be anyway. Or, was even supposed to be.

It made me recall a conversation, in somewhat of the same regard, with another close person in my life. It was speaking about how it’s not as though a person changes, it’s just that we all go through life experiences that lead us through and to who we really are. Those experiences are all part of how much of our heart we choose to want to unlock. That’s what evolution of the Self is. It’s not changing; it’s choosing. The part we have to play in it, is choice. We have to choose how much of our true self and the Love we have inside that we want to let out. And, it truly is an evolution; once you’ve gone that direction, it stays with you. It’s not a flash in the pan; one day it’s here and then maybe, poof!, the next day it’s gone.

I remember, in that previous discussion, giving the example of starting my meditation practice at Aromansse. It was something that ten-years-ago-me would have ever thought ten-years-later-me would have ever done, let alone be fully subscribed into. But, there I was; choosing that part of me to be unlocked. Not to change who I was, but to evolve into who I am. It’s a lot to handle at times. It’s tough. It’s scary. It’s a lot of responsibility to evolve one’s self, to almost have to let go of everything you thought you knew. There have been a few times that I’ve wanted to abandon ship. I tried. But, that’s the other thing I learned; anything that is truly of your heart you cannot go back from. I couldn’t just choose to ignore any of this. Like I said, I’ve tried when it felt like it got to be too much. When it felt too tough to accept the responsibility and accountability of this path. Too tough to accept what comes with self awareness. Too tough to embrace how much more there still is to go. But, you can’t go back. You can’t erase the choice of making your heart bigger.

And, my heart has grown bigger. From joy, from happiness, from hurt and from harm. It’s all Love. It’s all part of the curriculum. It’s all part of learning from each life experience. Would there have been things I would have done differently? Yes. Absolutely. I am definitely not a person that sits atop his pride and says, “if I could redo it, I wouldn’t change a thing”. It would be a lie for me to say that. There would have been things I would have done differently. But, I have learned from my mistakes. I have grown from my mistakes. And, more will come, I’m sure. But, I’ve chosen to accept what comes with the choices I’ve made, good and not-so-good.

And so, I’m not scared to be this. Are there things I’m scared of? There are. But, to be scared of my Self? To be scared of my heart? No. I don’t want to do that. Not anymore.

Be Love.

 

 

let there be light!

Everyone has a beautiful heart.

I invite you to think of any tyrant throughout the various eras of history, or any acts of hatred or violence you’ve ever seen on the news, or even what’s happened to you personally. Every one of those individuals you can think of has a beautiful heart.

There is no equilibrium maintained in the heart. There is only good; only beauty; only Love.  Just like how it cannot be both day and night in the same place; the system of equilibrium of the heart, is larger. The harmful acts we witness, experience and feel, whether physical, mental or emotional, are not a product of the type of heart a person has, but rather, they are a product of the type of person that person is. Those acts come from a wider system that include the heart, but are not by way of the heart. The full spectrum of that system of equilibrium houses the mind, the ego, pain, abuse and, ultimately, fear. Any choice not made from Love is made from the influence of those other components of the system.

To Love unconditionally is not to allow oneself to be hurt but to separate the Love from all else. It is the choice to acknowledge the light of the heart even though it may not be shining on you.

Unconditional Love is a choice. It’s a big choice. Not only does it mean you accept the responsibility of living in the frequency of Love, it means you have to choose to look past what you see on the outside (not Love) for what is actually on the inside (Love). You may even have to accept and understand that what you have experienced before (Love), you no longer do (not Love). Still not done – to add even more to it; you will also have to decide how much of the not Love stuff you’re willing to keep in your life and how much you do not want to navigate through. Decisions, decisions, decisions.

Choosing unconditional Love is to acknowledge the Love in every heart there is, regardless of anything else. As much as it requires an unrelenting, open heart, it doesn’t mean you do so at a detriment to your own. This is not only true of the relationships you carry on in your personal life but it’s true of how you simply carry on in everything in your life. It’s watching endless news story after news story of violence. It’s interacting with people on a level that focus on or gravitate towards the negative. (Consequently, that one is tough because it will feel as though we are connecting with the people we are sharing these stories with. And, there is a positive, productive and supportive way to do this. However, more often than not, the stories we share and try to relate upon are about something terrible someone did or how crummy of a person “so-and-so” is, rather than actually communicating our true feelings, trying to understand perspectives and being both sympathetic and empathetic.) It’s what state of emotional presence you keep yourself in and how you respond to the circumstances of your life (your vibrational frequency). And, it’s also how we replay the hurtful experiences we’ve faced, over and over, in our minds.

Frequently living in those spaces can only make it challenging to believe in the heart. It can only make it challenging to believe that everyone has a heart that is beautiful. The more time spent in the presence of these influencers, the more it shapes your paradigm of others. It’s not to say we should ignore, neglect or turn a blind eye to any of it and pretend to live in a rose-coloured reality. Nor is it to say we shouldn’t engage in and face any of it. I do it, too. I have, and will continue, to make myself a victim of it. I am human, after all. But, having the expectation to remove all of it from your life is just not realistic. We have a choice as to how much energy we want to expend in keeping our own heart strong, optimistic and full of Love in the midst of it all.

The way you outwardly approach unconditional Love is cohesive with how you experience inward unconditional Love, ie the Love and acceptance of exactly the person that you are. In truth, as I write this, the thought comes that it may work in the opposite direction. Or, perhaps they parallel each other? You, like any and every one else, have a beautiful heart. A heart that is only Love. As much as you are empowered to choose how much of it enters your life from the outside, you choose how much of it enters your life from the inside. It’s all about how and what you surround yourself with in life. It’s about what you choose to lift your vibration or not lift your vibration. Imagine the mental and emotional freedom you could possess by seeing every circumstance and every person, stranger or close companion, through the lens of unconditional Love. Imagine the mental and emotional freedom you could possess by seeing yourself through the very same lens.

Unconditional Love is a choice to see the light within every heart, it is a choice to burn yours brightly and it is a choice to decide which light you wish to make brighter with yours and which light you watch from a distance.

Be your light.

Be Love.

 

 

 

Love is what happens to you while you’re busy making plans

It’s About Time to acknowledge that Love Actually can be a bit Stranger Than Fiction; in a way by which I mean, not what we wanted to expect. What gets me, though, is despite that we’ve most likely all had this experience in life, we still attempt to convince ourselves in subscribing to a belief system that it’s “supposed” to look a certain way, to feel a certain way, to fit into a box that we probably didn’t even totally create ourselves.

We establish “ideals” that we expect from Love, yet really, the ideal is simply to be Loved and to Love. Without hesitation. Without reservation.

The challenge we all face, because we’re physical human beings, is the incongruence of mind versus heart, ie Earth versus the Universe. Do we listen to our head or do we go with the heart? How many times have you said, “well, I gotta think about it”? How many times have you said, “I’ll see how I feel”? It’s probably pretty lopsided in favour of the former over the latter. And, truthfully, even when we say we’ll check with our feelings, we usually just end up using “logic” and “reason” to sort things out, anyway. It’s not easy to let go of.

We try to blueprint Love. It’s a product of our daily intake with limited independent personal filtering and processing. It’s the movies we watch, the songs we listen to, the posts we see on Facebook and it’s a bunch of our own doing, too. Because of it all, of course we have a tough time not coming to a conclusion that Love can be figured out with a checklist. We write a story about it before it’s even happened. A story that’s not our own but one we’ve put together from various fragments creating and supporting the blueprint we think we’re supposed to want. But, how could something so big, so wonderful, be contained?

There is safety in logic. There is solace in reason. There is security in thinking something through, assessing the variables and coming to a supportable conclusion. We believe this to only be possible with the mind. We, very rarely, give any responsibility to our heart in figuring something out for us. And, it’s not just Love. Changing careers, where you decide to live; the bigger things in life, we’re too nervous to hand over to our heart.

But, the heart is not devoid of logic or rationale or reason. It employs all of those things and more; feeling, intuition and your connection with the Universe. These are big things; big things that we may not necessarily feel in control of. And, when we don’t feel very in control, we get scared. The direction that your heart is guiding you may not seem to make sense with what you thought it was going to be or what you figured it would look like, and that incongruence creates fear. Trust can be a scary thing, especially putting it into something you can’t see but only feel. And, fitting as it may be, I can’t offer a definitive, logical reason as to why you should trust your heart other than to say that I believe in it. I know that the best version of me is that one that truly comes through from my heart. I don’t know why, I can’t say how, I just know it is. That’s trust, isn’t it?

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

good choice/bad choice/same choice?

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It seems like we can get stuck a lot in life. Maybe even, like, always stuck? We do the right things, are a good person, contribute to society, all of the above, etc, etc; yet, life ‘befalls’ us.

We’re not paused in time; life happens to us. There is always forward movement independent of your own personal intention. Discernible or not, your being is always progressing. That “stuck” feeling, that’s part choice and part trying to keep up with the progression. We’re always evolving. It happens in the foreground, right in front of your face; it happens in the background, where it’s not as easily apparent – it’s always there, though. You’re not the same person you were ten years ago, a year ago or even this morning. The question is; are you still doing the same things?

Life is all of it; the losses, the victories, the confusion and the clarity. All of it. It’s how you integrate your ‘life’ into your life. We don’t change, we evolve. Life is a perpetual opportunity for our evolution. It’s the losses and the victories and the confusion and clarity where, dependent upon how we embrace the opportunities (or don’t embrace them), we move into the space our higher Self is already occupying. This is why, at any given moment, we are choosing the muck we’re in and we’re just having a hard time keeping up to where we know we should be.

It’s the way in which we face life. It’s how you choose to find the growth. I’m certainly not presenting a novel concept. I’m presenting something I can speak to because it’s happened, and continues to happen, to me. There have been peaks and valleys, intentional action and fortunate occurrence and moments where I’ve actually felt the shift happen and moments where it all was just there and I could only say, “where did that come from?” Dramatic as it sounds, I marvel at the path my life has taken. I can only believe that it’s done so because I’ve made the choice to embrace and accept my evolution. Or, even just to acknowledge that it’s happening and maybe I kinda got on board every now and then. Why and how can I say this? Because I feel bigger than I did before. Because I feel like I have more meaning, more to offer and more alignment of my Self. Sounds great, doesn’t it? It is! But, I promise you, it came with an f’ing boatload of challenge. It came with a tonne of smiles and beauty and Love, too. But, it came with a lot to deal with.

Your evolution will progress at the rate you choose, but progress it will. The rate at which you’re willing to feel the hurt, face the fear, break the pattern and open your Heart, is the rate at which you’ll feel more in alignment with your own presence. The thing is, the farther your evolution progresses without you, the worse you’ll feel doing the same things you’ve always done. The gap gets wider and wider until you start choosing life in a way that narrows the separation. We’re all here to close the gap. No one is exempt or has a free pass. You don’t “get out of” being your true Self. That just wouldn’t make sense. But, it’s not meant to be perfect, either. It’s not meant to be constant work or constant stress. It’s not meant to be done right every single time. Mistakes have to happen. The longer, tougher path will inevitably be taken from time to time. You will get stuck. It is the experience. But, you also have to choose to not be stuck. You have to choose to smile, to laugh, to screw up, to be scared, to feel vulnerable, to break down, to rebuild and to Love.

“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you have to go, just remember how far you’ve come.”

Be Love.

get your parka

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; a driveway that will need clearing in the morning, the impending reality that traffic will probably be a mess on the way into work tomorrow and the potential that spring will be delayed that much longer.

As I sit and write this, I look out into the night sky through the window right above my desk. I see the snow falling; how silent and still it seems outside, how the tree branches are shimmering beautifully white and that it almost feels like it could be Christmas, again, in a couple of weeks.

Are either of those paragraphs any less true than the other? Does the perspective in either of those paragraphs cancel the other out? No, to both. But, one of those narratives makes my Heart smile. And so, today, I choose the one that does that.

This is life. This is the choice we all have, each and every day, with each and every experience. We can choose to see the traffic jam or we can choose to see the shimmering beauty. And yes, I know, life can feel like a blizzard at times, for all of us. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t be in the storm and still experience something beautiful; something that lifts your Heart.

It’s too easy of an excuse to blame the storm; to place fault. Instead of finding fault, why not accept the responsibility to yourself, to your Heart, to see past the tough stuff through to what’s good. And, there’s always lots of good if you’re just willing to look. Finding the positive won’t necessarily stop the storm but it will certainly make the experience easier to navigate.

Choosing what’s uplifting amidst the challenges is what strengthens your Heart. It re-wires how you see what you see, how you feel what you feel and how you react to what you react to. Making the choice to let your Heart smile when it feels like you have every reason not to, is what true resolve is. It’s what really supports your true Self.

And, like anything else that you practice and become stronger at, it gets easier; you can handle more. Life’s challenges will not miraculously evaporate, no matter how positive or optimistic you can be. But, choosing to be positive and optimistic, choosing to see everything beautiful around you, will only enrich those challenges and your success through them.

Truthfully, this isn’t really even about ‘strengthening your resolve’ or ‘positive thinking’, it’s just about lifting your Heart up to the level it’s at; to lifting your Self up to the level you deserve to be at. It’s focusing on the beauty; appreciating the simplicity of what’s around you; finding every little (and big) reason to smile.

Just because there’s a storm outside, doesn’t mean you have to go stand in it.

Be Love.

 

 

 

billy ocean had right the whole time

There will be many instances throughout your life that you will be asked to let go. They won’t all bear the same appearance, but rest assured, it won’t just happen once. It’s not just once. If it were simply once, you’d have a single checkpoint of growth in the how ever many years you spend here and that would be it.

There’s no fun in that.

These instances we’ll all face, these instances of letting go, it’s not a matter of just throwing your hands in the air and being done with it. No. It’s a lot further from the end and a lot closer to just the beginning than it may seem. It’s the time in which you’ve reached the mark to pass off what was once in your hands to something greater. That’s when these moments arise; that’s when you get the pull to let go the most. It’s when, even though we clamour to gain control, to maintain control, it’s time to actively relinquish control. And really, what greater command in power and control than to consciously assign it to a higher force? A higher force than you, but that is You.

It’s not that you abandon your goals or give up on your dreams and ‘hope’ they’ll come to be. It’s about acknowledging that your physical self can only do so much. It’s about knowing that employing all that is available to you in this life means giving control to what seemingly appears to be out of your hands. The hands you pass it off to are still yours; just able to handle more. But, it is only fair though that you do everything you can up to that point. There is no free ride, here. That’s part of the three-way deal; that’s your contribution to your total self – you take care of the physical stuff, you make sure you’ve asked your Heart to weigh in and then you give it up to the Universe. It’s all three. It’s choosing to get into the car but not behind the wheel.

And, you have faith and you know. You have faith and you know that you did everything you possibly could for your dream. You have faith and you know that your Heart was in on it with you; that it was a true reflection of who you really are. And, you have faith and you know that the Universe will take you the rest of the way.

You leap. Be it with a job, with relationships, with changing old habits, with vulnerable communication and with allowing your Heart to be fully open. It’s why a lot of people get stuck, or make a decision that they know they shouldn’t make – they stick with trying to maintain control; it’s too scary to give it away. They don’t actually let the Heart contribute; it’s easier to make sense of what seems to be on paper rather than on true feeling. And, they trust themselves rather than the Universe; when they should trust themselves to trust the Universe.

You are in control. You are given the control to ask a greater power to take over for you; to not do it for you, but to do it with you. It has to be a choice otherwise it would have no intention behind it. There would be no focus and no directive, just fear. You don’t find what’s in your Heart by fluke. You ask for it. You ask to be who you were always meant to be.

Be brave.

Be Love.

i <3 me; pt. ii - the return of Love

Tough.

Without doubt.

It ain’t easy to Love your self. It ain’t even easier to realize you’re not Loving your self. I take pause. This isn’t about actually Loving your self. This is about trying to Love your self. It’s about trying because this whole deal, this whole “Love your self” deal, is as much about the journey as it is the destination. You won’t get it until you get it. Get it? You have to try.

The conscious thought of Loving ourselves is probably not a frequent occurrence, if maybe an occurrence at all. Yet, it’s not uncommon to come across the idea in our daily lives. Many an advertisement says we’ll love ourselves more if we just owned ______. Or, there’s even just the wall art at Hallmark that says “Love Yourself” that’s free to look at though the window, free to be reminded of; that passes by as quickly as it approached. But, that’s kinda just it. We see it, we hear it, we know it, but we don’t actually get it.

Tough.

Loving yourself isn’t easy. But, I’ll tell you this. It’s worth it. You owe it to your Self; your real Self. You and your Self are in this til the end, side by side, arm in arm, to the death. Literally. What’s more reason to take this seriously? With a smile on your face, of course (not too serious). 😀

There are many reasons for one not to Love themselves. Lots. Diminished self worth, hurtful past relationships, hurtful current relationships, the experience of abuse (be it physical, mental or emotional), self-image, broken trust and, very simply but most poignantly, not being Loved back. It’s going to be an uphill. But, the overriding reason to Love your self, is because of You. It’s what you deserve, nothing less and everything more.

So, how?

There’s some magic to it, but no magic formula. Loving your self is about some universal constants and some flexibility and forgiveness. Loving your self needs a whole of tonne compassionate Love as well as some tough love, too.

Universal constants apply to everyone. But! They get smooshed together with who You are as an individual; they become about you. Elaborate; everyone needs to be active; you’re welcome to argue that universal constant, but I won’t. You’ve got one body and you should love it. Having a healthy, positive physical self is an integral component of building the foundation to your mental and emotional self. This is a truth no matter who you are. Exercising and being active attracts positive energy. It helps flush out stagnant energy and brings in new, vital, clean energy into your body. And, there’s endless ways to do this. Play sports, lift weights, go to yoga, walk your dog, walk someone else’s dog, ride a bicycle; endless endless choices. Feeling good from exercise and activity – universal constant. How you want to do it – your individuality.

Creativity. Creativity opens up pathways to and from our soul. It expands your being and gives you an opportunity to be free, and it’s fun! You can write, paint, dance, sing, do crafts, build Lego; it’s whatever you like. It’s just a matter of allowing that channel of energy to flow through you. And, doesn’t require you to think too much or over analyze. You just….feel.

Music! Listen to music! Absorb the energy behind the words and notes. Allow the rhythm to permeate your exterior. Just let go into it. Whether you want to listen to Thirty Seconds to Mars or Kenny Chesney, just go all in and be the person who’s belting it out at the traffic light like no one else is on the road. Let the frequency lift you.

It’s about participated in your life. It’s the groundwork. It’s the stuff that you don’t actually have to try that hard to achieve. Just find things you like to do. Find things that truly feel rewarding. Ditch the sofa. Get off of social media. Eat healthful foods. Appreciate nature. Meditate. Heck, actually, all of life is a meditation! No one’s ever encouraged anyone to spend more time watching television or to eat a bag of donuts everyday. Sure, a little bit here and there with the Netflix and the crullers, but the stuff that really counts is the stuff that fosters your being. You’ll know what these are for You. You won’t have to search very deeply because they, themselves, are not overtly deep. Just look. Just feel. Just take care of your self.

So now, the really not easy one. Your Self. Big ‘S’.

This is the one that’s really tough. This is the one that doesn’t need a mirror to see what you don’t like about your self. This is the one that music can’t drown out the thoughts and the anxieities that don’t ever seem to dissipate. This is the one that, no matter how tall the wall is, will always climb over unless you’re willing to just take the wall down.

Taking care of your Self is all about how you treat your Heart. It’s about allowing everything about you to rise to the vibrational frequency that your Heart operates on. And, this is where the toughest love comes in. To Love one’s Self is to experience true vulnerability, true pain and true triumph. This isn’t the one that’s readily tangible. It’s everything else. It’s acknowledging the underlying reasons why you don’t care enough to experience all the joys (and fears) of who you are. The tough love truth is that you have to deal with your shit. We all do. We all have it. We’ve all experienced some thing or things that have brought us these lessons we need to learn. And, no. As much as exercising, listening to your favourite song and eating kale are part of the solution, they, in and of themselves, are not the solution.

Growth and expansion of your consciousness and soul requires that you break out of the shell that holds You back. Then, once you break out of that one, you break out of the next one and the next one and the next one, til you no longer even notice you’re doing it. And yes, it probably means going to hell and back. Or, so it will seem. But, it makes sense, right? We went through hell to get into this predicament we’re all a part of, in our own way. Seems to follow that getting out means going back through.

And so, there will be instances whereby you need to exercise compassionate Love to your Self. Forgiveness, kindness, reasonable expectation, the allowance to break down. But, you will also have to employ tough love. No excuses, motivation, setting goals and putting the pieces back together. And sometimes, you’ll need both compassionate Love and tough love simultaneously; like when you tell your self to find the will and the strength to want to face what you don’t want to face. If you don’t, it won’t go away. The lessons we need to learn are there to be learnt, not ignored. When we learn, we get bigger. When we ignore, the distress gets bigger. It gets stronger. It brings us down even further. And, the reason you should care is because it will become to loud to hear what’s in your Heart. You need to create the pathway to realizing what your Heart already does; your beauty and your Love.

You have to discover why you don’t like what you see in the mirror; it’s not because of the actual reflection. You have to overcome why you never feel good enough; it’s not because you’ve never experienced success. You have to learn why open and honest communication isn’t your strong suit; it’s not because you don’t have the words. You have to acknowledge the reasons why you’ve built a wall around your Heart; it’s not because you were a brick layer in a past life. This is all stuff we have to face; to come to terms with. It’s not done in solitude. It’s done with help. It’s done with choices and people and relationships that raise you to a higher vibration, not keep you where you are or pull you lower. It’s not done by drugs, alcohol, over-eating, destructive relationships or anything that is a low vibrational match to the crap you’re already in. It needs to be above that. It’s even not immersing yourself in productive things like exercise or work or meditation. You still have to face what you don’t want to face. It’s acknowledging the fear of how far away you are from where you really want to be in your life.

This one is tough, it really is. These words are not meant to cast a shadow of unreasonable simplicity. It’s going to take all of your being. It’s something that only you can do, but it’s not something you can do alone. Your Heart knows what it needs to be helped. It’s the place you need to go to first. You will be able to feel all the imbalances in your life through It. And, you will feel scared; that’s what the emotion will be. But, it’s not fear of what’s inside, it’s fear of breaking the pattern that has become so familiar. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between a positive or a negative pattern. It just knows the familiarity, comfort and efficiency of repeating a pattern. Attempting to break that pattern, invokes fear. But, to ascend to meet your Self, the pattern needs to be broken. That is the catalyst to changing and building your greater vibration. It’s how you treat your Self; how you judge your worth; how you perceive what you deserve; who you build relationships with; how you choose to Love others; how you choose to be Loved or loved (there’s a big difference between those two in my book); and how you choose to Love your Self.

The reason that this one is so tough is because no one can tell you how to do it. You have to figure it out yourself. You have to choose it yourself. We all do. You have to help yourself. You have to ask for help. You have to make tough choices. You have to make good choices. Ultimately, you have to lift your self from where you are to where your Self is. Going up is always more challenging than falling down. But, that higher vibration, that higher point of attraction, is all magic, art and science together. It’s everything. You’re everything.

Be Love.