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good grief

Chuck may have been onto something there.

A dissertation on grief may likely, in fact, be a bottomless suitcase that could be unpacked til the end of time. And, time would probably win before you got to the bottom of it all.

When presented with this expanse of perception, I choose to let go of understanding what is. I say “perception” because that’s what experience and emotion is. That’s really what most experiences are; how we perceive them to be. Often, however, our emotional reaction leads us into the perception of whatever it is we’re experiencing. If something feels negative, like grief, our perception of it translates into something bad. Something we don’t want. Something that doesn’t appear to be useful or productive. And, when I find that I encounter an experience that can encompass a whale-sized amount of emotion and perception, I do my best to let go of understanding it all. The left brain has a hard time on these waters.

The void exposed with a lack of understanding is filled with feeling. But, it’s not emotional feeling that fills the space, rather it’s foundational feeling. Emotional feeling is very reactive; it’s very in-the-moment, which is not to say it can’t last for an indeterminate amount of time. We can, certainly, have an in-the-moment response to something that lasts much longer than that specific moment. What foundational feeling is, is the layer beneath where the emotional response came from; it’s like understanding by feeling. It’s not the reactive type. It’s, actually, stronger and more telling. Probably more complex. However, maybe as simple to undercover as to ask yourself the question, “why am I really feeling this?”. There’s a likely opportunity that the answer you receive to that question being a different feeling than the feeling you’re actually outwardly experiencing. The challenge is that when we are grief stricken, we won’t be able to hear an answer much other than that of the grief.

We all have an opportunity to grieve, always.

Perception. Grief is our emotional feeling response to something happening that we didn’t want or plan to happen. It’s our emotional feeling response to a change that we perceive to be negative; the loss of a job, heartbreak, death of a loved one. I’m certainly not here to debate any of those life events to be bad or not bad. Nor am I here to convince anyone that the emotions brought about by any of those to be unfounded or unwarranted. None of those instances are good. I do not think or believe otherwise. They can be confusing, hurtful, debilitating, depressive and, sometimes, unrecoverable.

What I want to challenge is that it’s not the actual event or experience that causes us suffering, it’s the perception. What if grief were good? What if it represented growth and progress? What if it signified movement into a further emotional evolution? You would still experience grief, and should still experience grief, but would remove the negative association from it. Grief is borne by attachment. It may sound callous and cold, but grief is our autonomic response to the involuntary severing of an attachment. Rightfully, it’s not going to feel good. When life seems to be out of our control, the feeling is often not one of peace and positivity. Even in the instance whereby the deattachment is of our choosing, pain will usually still follow. It is because of our response to the loss of the connection. It’s real. The dissection of the mechanism of grief is not an attempt to be robotic; the attachment is true. The disconnection of the hardwired maps in our brains and hearts disrupts what is familiar. It upsets what we are used to. That’s just human reality on the plane of this existence. It’s important to live through it. It’s part of having a mind and a heart. The goal is not to become desensitized to grief, but rather the exact opposite. It’s too get more acquainted with it. So acquainted with it that you shift past the emotional feeling layer and delve deeper into it. Willingly. With self Love and self care.

I say that “we all have the opportunity to grieve, always”, because grief is about change. We experience change everyday in any number of ways we perceive and do not perceive. When change pulls grief from us, we live there, for whatever duration, with whatever fierceness. There is neither a right or wrong to it. Grief is not something to be circumvented or sped through. Grief, perhaps, can be about understanding. But, I know for sure it is about feeling. There is spirituality in grief. And, on the spiritual path, which we all travel to some degree throughout our lives, there is no “like” or “don’t like”. We see the path for what it is trying to teach us. Because we choose to like or dislike what the lesson is, doesn’t change the lesson. And so, maybe the lesson behind grief is change and not to change the lesson of grief?

Be Love.

“people”….ugh. i mean, hug.

People. They’re everywhere. At work, the grocery store, in front of you at the bank machine, even your home. Everywhere you look; people. There’s no escaping them!

And, I’m grateful for that.

People have been, and continue to be, the greatest teachers in my life.

I’ve learned from all kinds of people. Big people. Little people. Those with the intention to teach me and those that had no idea they were. People that were kind and people that were not. Close, cherished people and unknown strangers; forever to remain that way. Those who have Loved me and those who have hurt me. All of those people have taught me something, have given me something; a lesson, a message, a direction. They’ve all, at some point, worked at the same school dedicated to teaching me about what I’m supposed to learn in this life. A school I choose to attend.

People will be, undoubtedly, our greatest trials and our greatest triumphs. They will help us the most and they will hurt us the most. Both, more than capable of supplying countless lessons of growth and evolution. In fact, both necessary for our growth and evolution.

Almost everything I know, I’d say, was because of someone else. And, almost everything I’ve felt, too. People have taught me patience and taught me urgency. People have taught me calm and taught me chaos. I’ve learned compassion. I’ve learned empathy. I’ve learned how to see things in a hundred ways I could have never seen on my own. I’ve learned when to fall apart and I’ve learned resilience. Most of all, I’ve learned how to Love. Including myself.

People are everything. Why? Because of Love. And, what are people if not beacons of Love? Even the worst of us was put here to make one choice; how big will you Love in this lifetime? We are, each one of us, surrounded by seven billion beacons of Love. Do you have the right to think that the selfish, the inconsiderate, the unkind and the unfair are far from that light? Yes. But those people who stitch a seam in the fabric of your life in that manner are not meant to be beacons of Love in and of themselves. They are meant to conjure up the beacon of Love that shines in you. That is the choice you are empowered to make. How big will you Love in this lifetime?

We need each other. Love needs us and we need Love. Not everyone that treads this planet will leave Love in the footprints behind them. But, every one of us is an opportunity for Love. To those you meet that are the trials in your life, Love them. Silently. From within. Find the space that is created to Love yourself. And, to those that are the triumphs, to those you cross paths with that forever take up residence in your Heart; Love them to the moon and back. Be a beacon so bright and Love so big that the universe needs to make adjustments for you.

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

can i see your id, please?

The greater the distance we travel into this life, the greater, it seems, we carry with us. We accumulate our identity. Through experience, success, challenges and tribulations, we define who it is that we are. Or perhaps, we allow it to define who it is that we are. We become the businessperson, the philanthropist, the parent, the caregiver, the teacher, the student, the victor, the victim. What we become, we come to be.

Like a dictionary definition, consistent and unwavering each and every time it is read, the image of our self too becomes imprinted. Constructed and imprinted. As we build our identity like the floors of a skyscraper, whether each storie tells a different story or the next level only heightens the one before it, our structure becomes precarious. What seems as though should represent strength and power, doesn’t. It creates expectation, stress, anxiety and, ultimately, misalignment of the self.

As we build taller and taller, we can only believe that for the structure to come down, it would be nothing less than catastrophic. It would erase who we had become to that point in life, exposing it for us to see that it is not truly who we are.

Is it to say that what you’ve created in your lifetime is not meaningful? No. It is meaningful. It is a part of your legacy; a part of how you share your physical presence here. But, it is not you. Why is this true? Because what you have become was a choice that was made. You were you before that choice and you will be you after the choice.

We feel like we find ourselves in the choices. But, we more lose ourselves in them. We search for an identity. We focus on the choices as a purpose of accomplishment and when we achieve them, they can become expectation of the self. The choices can become obligation and a false sense of security. All this being said, who we become, the choices we make, create the beautiful beings that we are. That is how we live life in the reflection of who we choose to be. Granted, the choices that we make can be destructive but they can also be productive. And together, we are beautiful in the midst of them and because of them.

But, to find our meaning, we needn’t look any further than the perfect Love that we are. We are perfect Love before the choices and we are perfect Love after the choices. When the choices serve to overshadow who and what we really are, Love, we find misalignment of the self. You don’t need you to be anything but just you, nor should anyone else. We fracture the relationship we have with our self and with others around us when we see expectation, when we expect something other than what’s exactly at the ground floor, the foundation; the perfect Love we’ve all inherited simply by our presence here.

You are here to just be. To be still, to be peaceful, to be Love. If you do some stuff in between all of that, great! Do not lose sight of what your true identity is. It is not what you create, but has created you. Love.

Be Love.

happy halloveen

In a few evenings, we will openly welcome a number of little strangers into our homes. Little masked and costumed strangers; vampires and princesses, pint sized Thors and aspiring Hermiones.

Our little visitors come to our doors to receive what there is to be offered, all in good spirit and faith. And, we offer what is to be given to our momentary new friends, all in good spirit and faith. Perhaps there is a scootch bit of judgment; the extra cute ones get a bigger handful of candy whereas the ones who seem a shade too old may get fewer treats. Nonetheless, amidst our good natured critiques, we give to all who come, equally and without prejudice.

We give, yet we don’t to whom. It is our agreed upon understanding to give without knowing to who it is we’re giving to. In fact, it’s the deal. The mask, the costume, is the expectation; I don’t know who you are and so, you receive my generosity.

Our generosity diminishes outside the safe confines of the evening of October 31st. When it seemingly matters more, our giving then comes with caution, with reservation and with hesitation.

We all wear masks, each and every day. Different masks for the different people we encounter and have relationships with. We even wear masks with ourselves. And, we put masks on those we don’t know or those we think we know.

To give of our kindness, our compassion, our understanding and our Love, to the masks, is not part of the deal. It’s the unknown. It’s not safe. We cannot see nor do we choose to be seen. And so, there is a pre-requisite to what it is that we choose to share. When we make that choice, we distance ourselves not only from others but from ourselves. More so, however, we distance ourselves from the true reason of what makes up this physical presence of our spiritual being; to Love.

Closing the distance doesn’t come by way of exuberant acts of emotional outpour. It’s the silent resolve you have within yourself for whoever crosses your path. It’s doing, “small things with great Love”, as Mother Teresa left with us. It’s in keeping your internal peace and compassion resolute that provides the open arms and Love to all the masks that we see each and every day, including your own. There’s no way to understand everyone, but there is a way that everyone can be understood. And that is to know that regardless of the mask that we see, beneath it is light and Love; to give to and to receive from.

To those for which we can see behind the mask? To those for which we know what is underneath; the challenges, the hurt, the beauty and the soul. We seem to hold more expectation. We seem to need more to be able to offer our understanding and Love. We can bring it in great waves, but the closeness of these relationships can also create a great distance. Embrace it all. Peace in your Heart comes from the whole of your Love. It is not to choose what parts to Love of someone and to shield yourself from the others. It is to Love all of it. Everything that is behind the mask. This is true for me; the more I see, the more I want to Love. The more I want to understand and to offer. It is all for exactly what it is, to give of yourself. Of your Heart. That is the greatest realization of the self.

And so, as All Hallow’s Eve will come and pass, think of what you have to offer to everyone that “comes to your door”. To those that you only get a chance to see their mask, or to those who live in the safety that resides behind their mask and to those that choose to take off their mask for you. Think of what place you have for them in your Heart. Of what you give them of your Heart.

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

the relevance of intimacy

“the most intimate thing we can do is to allow people we love most to see us at our worst. At our lowest. At our weakest. True intimacy happens when nothing is perfect”. Amy Harmon

Intimacy, for many, conjures up thoughts of the physicality between two people. The admittance we grant to another person to be close to us in sensory perception form. To share a “human being” experience.

For some, a more personal intimacy represents the plane in a relationship whereby the closeness of the individualities of each person has created, in a manner of speaking, a conjunctive reflection of both into one; a fostering of openness and connection.

And, for fewer still, a greater depth of intimacy will be ultimately realized in its entirety upon that moment that they fully reveal themselves, as aptly quoted, “….to allow people we love most to see us at our worst”; to share a “being human” experience – the most vulnerable act of openness and connection.

Of the three, this is always the last one to show itself. If it shows itself at all.

It makes sense that it’s the last one. It’s the toughest. It’s the most personal. It’s usually the final piece of our own intimacy puzzle.

When we share a physical experience with someone, it’s a two-person endeavor. There is, of course, intimacy involved, but it’s of a different nature. As counterintuitive as it may seem, this intimacy is not as personal as one may think. Why? Because it’s mutually shared. It’s happening at the same time and both are doing the same thing. No one person is really in the spotlight. And, although I do strongly believe there is a great intimacy and connection shared within the physical nature of a relationship, it seems that more and more have very limited regard for what means to share that with another person. It’s, sorta, just the way things are. Sleep with you now, get to know you know you later. Maybe.

Another level of intimacy reached within a relationship is that of familiarity and of fluency. It taps into that space beyond the physical (if there is a physical relationship; most relationships are not physical) and an introductory level of mental and emotional common ground. There is more here. There is an intertwining of each person from a more pervasive perspective. It’s a reciprocal embrace of another individual; acceptance of who they are on a deeper level. A product of time, respect, desire to connect, foster growth and to, simply, cultivate a relationship. Maybe even Love. It’s when each person has made the choice to place a personal investment in the other, together. It is the basis of meaningful relationship, or if romantically involved, to find that ‘someone’.

There is still a heightened intimacy beyond this. Past shared physical experience, past mental investment, past the building of a relationship. It comes subsequent to the sharing of those intimacies. This intimacy comes as a product of vulnerability, safety, trust and a Love at a deeper level; different from the others. When physical intimacy is shared, it is shared together. When relationship intimacy is shared, it is shared together. When the intimacy of vulnerability and trust, in the form of personal internal emotion is shared, it is often done so by one and received by the other; a given gift. It’s when we let the other see us fully and completely.

This gift is when we are at our most intimate. We are actively giving ourselves from within, to be received but not reciprocated. We attempt to allow another person to experience a fragment of what we are experiencing ourselves with the trust and confidence that there is compassion waiting for us on the other side. That there is understanding and empathy. That, not only will we be Loved, but Loved more.

This intimacy is courageous. It is not the happy-go-lucky parts of a relationship. It is a person saying, “this is all of me. This is everything about me that you cannot see. I trust you”. When this intimacy touches a person, it is one of the most realest experiences of true connection. It is a person wanting to release everything about them; everything that they carry inside. I do mean that this offering is truly a gift. Think of what you hold most closely inside whether it be Love or the toughest personal challenge. Each of which we only share when our Heart has made the choice.

Give your Heart to this intimacy both as the one offering it and as the one receiving it. Understand it for what it is. Be grateful for what it is. And, Love more because of it.

Be Love.

help

It can often be difficult to ask for. Or accept. For some, even a last resort. The thought of vulnerability can be incredibly daunting. It exposes us. It puts our imperfection on display.

Surrendering ourselves to seeking help can illicit any number of emotions and ideas within us; failure, defeat, diminished self-worth, weakness and, of course, helplessness. Feelings of burden consume us or even a manufactured obligation to always be at one’s best when we believe others are depending upon us.

Asking for help means we “couldn’t do it” and for some, there is a belief that they should always be able to do it.

If I have learned anything, if I have experienced anything in my life, it’s that I cannot do everything on my own. We were not meant to do everything on our own. We Love so that we can help. We help so that we can Love. And, our beauty is because we are not perfect.

I have sought help in my ‘obligation’ to offer what words I might have to give. I’ve opened with my own, but close with another’s who can say better what I could not. And, for that, I am grateful that there is help. Because help is help. Like Love, there is no pride in help. Whether it’s my own message or one that I pass along, it’s about what it moves inside of you. Not how it gets there.

Be Love.

“I find beauty in things others never see. I find hope there, too. Life is what you make of it. Life is taking not so beautiful things and making them beautiful. It is finding hope even when there is none. This is not an easy thing to do but I find that Love is the answer to most things, if not all things. Why not Love more? If you do not give your Love away, then it means nothing. In essence, it is a wasted love. No one will ever feel it. Love is meant to be felt. To be given away freely, regardless of what you get back in return. We all want our lives to have meaning. So we can say we were here and we Loved with everything we had. My life is not perfect but it’s mine and I never wanted perfect. I want real. I want to feel. And, I have Loved, really Loved. A lot. And, above all I have lived, really lived. And, I still Love”.

 -NR Hart

 

 

 

 

hey, thanks for giving

Gratitude. The new black of the enlighten path. Journals, meditation apps, Instagram quotes. It’s everywhere. And, rightfully so. Gratitude can be very powerful if intentionally practised, as goes the karma with simple appreciation for what you have; for your life.

The practice of gratitude is exercising vibrational shift. It’s not super science to understand that being thankful is putting yourself in a better frame of mind than if you were to be focusing on that which you don’t have. Practising gratitude elicits a feeling of abundance. That feeling of abundance raises your vibration which, in turn, puts you in a better place mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate endeavour. Even simply think of your basic functioning health relative to what many others have to contend with. That alone is enough to appreciate how precious life is.

For most of us (I’m assuming), we have more than we don’t have. Not uncommon, it’s easy to focus on what we lack; even when what we do have vastly outweighs what we don’t. Let’s chalk it up to the human condition. Does that make it excusatory? No. But, you don’t have to beat yourself up about it, either. Awareness, right?

Gratitude elevates your vibration; it shifts your focus. If you’re a subscriber to the law of attraction, when you give thanks for what you have, you put yourself in a position to be able to give more thanks for more things. Once you get that snowball rolling down the hill, you will move with the power. It will require less of a push and more ‘keeping up’ with the abundance.

But! As much as all of that is indeed ‘practising’ gratitude, I’d like to challenge the notion (in a good way).

Establishing an internal emotional foundation of gratitude is definitely the starting point. That’s where the journals, the meditation apps, the Instagram quotes and introspective thought all come into play; they assist in the focus. That is ‘contemplating’ gratitude. It’s an awareness to it. It’s acknowledging and receiving the energy of it. It’s building that framework so as to be able to expand upon it in a greater capacity.

But, ‘practising’ gratitude?

Practising gratitude is that next step from contemplating gratitude. It’s doing something with the contemplation. We’ve all read or heard stories of those with even the most meager of resources still finding a way to give to the less fortunate. A simplistic illustration of the bounds that are possible.

But, practising gratitude isn’t really all that metric. It can be, but it’s just giving something tangible. Practising gratitude is really just being the best person you possibly can. When you’ve acknowledged all that you have to be thankful for, how do you translate that into your everyday actions? How do you use the energy of that higher vibration? Are you kind? Do you offer a smile or hug whenever you can? Do you respect the earth? Do you lift others up? Do you accept the gratitude and Love of others? Or, do you complain? Do you make yourself a victim? Do you view things through a negative lens? Do you focus on what you need to simply further your own agenda? Do you turn away the gratitude and Love of others? How are you really practising gratitude?

It’s possible to contemplate gratitude at great length, on a daily basis, but not actually live it. Not actually practise it. And hey, I get it. It’s not so easy to wake up one day and start doing all these positive things without any hiccups. But then, how else do you do it? How else do you start doing something other than start doing it? Your mind, your emotions, your awareness, all have to begin somewhere. It’s a conscious choice to hold yourself accountable to share how beautiful you are. And, it starts with the recognition and appreciation of the beauty in your life. It’s the input of that energy that fuels the output of our actions.

Practising gratitude is how you live out what you have to be grateful for in your life. Being in the space of gratitude is what enables us to share the space of gratitude. And, sharing the space of gratitude, whether reciprocated or not, builds that energy and vibration. It builds your spirit, it builds your Love.

“for it is in giving that we receive.”

                                    Francis of Assisi

Be Love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

how to fight for what you believe in

 

It’s on its way, if it’s not already here – the things that matter to you in life. The things that matter the most in life. These are the things that you’ve realized are integral in forming what you want your life to look like. These are the things that are the real embodiment of what is in your Heart. You will feel that you’ll be better at it than anyone else has ever been, even if there have many before you. You will feel that it’s meant to be; that it is your path. And, the path, will be clear to your sight, to your vision, to your being.

1.Figure it out

What is it, exactly, that you’re fighting for? What we believe we’re striving for is not always actually what it truly is. Think about if what you’re after is something just on the surface or a deeper fulfillment. You will need a level of self awareness and reflection here. You will need to speak to your Heart. The amount of fight you have will be only be strengthened by how clear and how true  it is in your Heart. This is the big stuff in life.

2.Don’t set parameters

Contrary to what most “success” step plans advise, don’t define exactly what you’re going to do. I’ll tell you this, if you are truly fighting for something that is imprinted within your Heart, the idea of what you’ll do and not do will be as unpredictable as unpredictable gets. Resign to the fact that you won’t know everything that’s coming and how you’ll respond.

3.Stay grounded

Now that you’ve thrown out the idea of having a definitive set plan as to what you’ll do or not do to realize your goal, you still need to maintain a sense of ground. When it comes time to make a decision, act on something, find words to say, or a sacrifice to make (and the time will come, more than once), your Heart will tell you if what you’re about to do enriches it or compromises it. If it translates into building your strength, offering some learning, showing compassion, exercising forgiveness, enabling understanding, lifting someone up (including yourself), that’s a green light. If it questions your self respect, diminishes your self Love, bolsters your pride or boosts your ego, hurts someone (including yourself), that’s a red light.

4.Be emotional

True growth isn’t a stoic endeavour. If what you’re doing means the universe to you, then you’re going to feel it. That kinda makes sense, no? “Toughing it out” and “powering through” won’t teach you everything you need to learn. Sure, there’s a time and a place for pulling up your socks to keep moving forward, but there’s also a time and a place to sit yourself down. To cry. To be lost. To feel like you can’t do it. To be angry. To question what you’re doing. You need all of that. You need to get it in you as much as you need to get it out of you. Being emotional can offer clarity and just a general clear out. Like, lovingly taking out the trash. Some stuff will probably get recycled, too.

5.The cheese stands alone

You’re not cheese.

No one will fight as hard as you for what it is that you believe in or want. It’s just simple math. But, that doesn’t mean there aren’t people that won’t fight for YOU. The right people will support you the right way. Whether it’s a close person that knows what’s in your Heart or someone that has the knowledge and experience you don’t, ask for help. Lean on others for support, for guidance, for gut checks. We aren’t here to do everything alone.

6.Gut checks

It’s incredibly imperative to seek help and advice; to get another perspective, a different idea, encouragement, a lift in strength, to learn. But, ultimately, whatever knowledge you’ve garnered from whatever source it is, your intuition is your best guide. Absorb experience and information, your own and from the outside, and process it internally. Your Heart and your intuition will know where to steer you.

7.Watch out for fear

Fear lurks everywhere. It will infiltrate your mind, it will disguise itself as your intuition and it will try to silence your Heart. Why? Because you’re human. Because you’re putting the most important thing about you out there to be vulnerable. Because you’ve lived through past experiences that your brain wants to protect you from repeating. But, it’s not real. The reason you’re doing this, the real reason that’s because of what’s in your Heart, that’s the reason to follow. Fear is a liar.

8.Believe in magic

It’s free and without it, 9. doesn’t work.

9.You-n-i-verse

The power of the Heart is an immeasurable force that cannot be rivaled. It will provide you patience, strength, resolve, dedication and perseverance that you would have never envisioned having. But, you need the Universe. You need to close your eyes, look squarely at it and say, “it needs to be you and I for this to work.” The Universe is there for you. The Universe will get in your corner, with your Heart, and take on the parts that you just can’t. It’s bigger than you and that’s why you need the Universe. It seems counter-intuitive (and scary) to leave something so big up to something that we can’t see or touch, but that’s where the power is. To have faith. You do 1. to 8. and then let go. Subscribe to faith. Get out of the way and let the Universe do its magic. And, it will do its magic. The second you believe in it is the second it becomes possible.

10.Love

It wouldn’t be a list without it. Love. Love without expectation. Love without reciprocation. Love without anticipation. Love with perfect chaos. Just Love. Love those who Love you. Love those that don’t. Love the journey. Love the path. Love yourself.

Never lose sight of what’s in your Heart. Never lose sight of Love.

Be Love

 

is this thing on?

There’s a reason we don’t instinctually speak with our Heart. Many reasons in fact; fear, the possibility of rejection, uncertainty, embarrassment, inexperience, past experience; to give a short list of a much longer list.

As we absorb our own life experience and observe other life experiences around us, we accumulate the residue of negative inference. In the same context, we do so of positive derivatives. That is a bit of the science behind the soul. We try things out, we create an action, we receive the result and we measure the conclusion. As a product, it shapes our comfort towards who we’re willing to be.

The instinct of the mind is to inherently attempt a translation of cause and effect. It searches for correlation. It’s how it learns and evolves. And, it does so for your protection. Much like how, if no one told you of the danger of touching a hot stove, your mind would be sure you would learn the lesson very quickly and resolutely the first time you did tough the stove. It would be the only time you did.
With similarity, the mind will do the same of emotions and feelings. It will create its version of cause and effect and provide a pathway for your mind to learn to do something, as a response. Or, to not do something. In all cases, it does so to avoid a negative consequence or to produce a positive benefit. It is how the mind attempts to protect you.

But, the oversight of the mind is that there is no protection required from the Heart. There is no cause and effect of the Heart. “Always do the right thing”; you know what that means to me now? It means, always do what’s in your Heart. Be the truth that’s in your Heart. It means being your real self without the conditioned fear of what the effect is to your cause. The cause is to open to your Heart. It’s to be in the vibration of your Heart. It’s to be in the truth of your Heart. The effect is the peace you experience. It’s the freedom of your soul. It’s the expansion of your universe. The cause and effect of an act of the Heart is entirely internal. You do not control that which is outside of you. To believe that idea is not what is in alignment with your Heart. Can you inspire? Yes. Can you help others unlock their Heart? Yes. Can you attract the Heart which you have inside of you, to you? Yes. But, that’s as far as it goes and that’s as far as it needs to go.

There is no shortage of hurt in this world. There is no shortage of insult, of rejection, of misinterpretation and misunderstanding. But, it’s not as result of what is from the Heart. It’s not because of doing the right thing; the Heart thing. It’s because of all that is not where the Heart is. It doesn’t need to be understood any further or any greater than. What we need to teach ourselves is that when we speak, act, live from the Heart, we’ve done the right thing. No matter what the response, what the reaction or what the result. To be discouraged because of a less-than-positive response, reaction or result is tying together a cause and effect that is not meant to be tied together. It’s matching to frequencies that don’t belong together.

When you live your Heart, you inspire your universe to show up for you. You open the pathway that says this is what you want in your life. It sends out the highest frequency and level of attraction for all things in life by saying “I’m not scared of being Love or being Loved”. Not to mention, it’s just the right thing to do.

Be Love.

….who’s there?

I’m not there. Yet. Arguably will never be. In fact, to not be a contradiction, I would have to conclude that I’ll never be there. But, that’s not the point. The point is that you try.

Ever really think about who you are? Ever really think about the things you’ve learned about yourself? Or, the things you still don’t know about yourself? I’m not speaking about what your favourite colour is, or the name of the dog you owned when you were eight, or how many Fakebook friends you have.
I’m talking about who you really are. In the place that no one can know except for you. It’s not the easiest thing to answer. It’s not the easiest thing to understand. The potential of your consciousness, your awareness, your compassion, your Love, ends somewhere around limitless. And so, maybe there is no static answer? That’s evolution, I would believe – no static answer, no static conclusion. It will go as far as you can take it. Maybe it’s not about how you’ll get to the end that doesn’t actually exist, but that you just try. You strive.

I don’t think the question gets asked a lot. I don’t think we consciously ask ourselves, “who am I?” And, if you did, then what happens? It’s, quite possibly, the most real question you could ask of yourself. It’s a whirlwind in there. Everything about you is in the there. All your beauty; all your ugliness. The joy you’ve experienced; the abuse you’ve harboured. How you’ve treated people; how you’ve been treated. Real is not easy. Real is real. It can be a kick when you’re already down.

Observe. Observe what you see and hear around you. Observe what you see and hear of yourself. How much of it is Love? How much of it isn’t? There’s a lot of selfishness out there, arrogance, intimidation, deceit, abuse; it’s difficult to process the magnitude of it all. I understand it’s not an optimistic assessment, but it’s accurate. It’s all out there because we are not inside ourselves. We are not inside of who we really are.

I will forever believe in the goodness of people. I believe it’s in everyone. I, also, believe there’s a lot of accountability and responsibility that’s been neglected. We don’t want to face our demons, we don’t want to resolve our guilt, we don’t want to acknowledge our indiscretions. We don’t want to do the work that comes with the question, “who am I?” And so, we don’t. We put what we can’t manage onto others, onto the universe and onto ourselves. The result is that we don’t live in Love.

When I ask myself the question of who I believe I am, I’m overwhelmed. I feel all the shitty things I’ve done and that have been done to me. I feel my insecurities and my inadequacies. I feel confusion and doubt. But, I feel something more than all of those combined. I feel a belief and a strength in Love. I feel compassion. I feel the pull to face the hard stuff and resolve within myself that I don’t want to be a part of it. I don’t want to be a person that is anything less than what the Heart is supposed to be. I don’t feel a desire to move toward the hurt, I feel a pull to move toward the light. It’s making the conscious choice to move to the light; to be a good person. It’s acknowledging that you have that choice to make.

It’s the biggest question to ask yourself, “who am I?” To find the soul, the being, the Heart that is underneath what everyone else sees and even what we mask to ourselves. All of it is real and none of it should be ignored. Teach yourself, remind yourself, affirm yourself that Love is bigger than all of it. When you face it all simultaneously, you will experience how everything stacks up. Love is a skyscraper surrounded by convenience stores. Nothing truly compares to it. And, if you don’t completely feel sure, it’s because you haven’t completely asked yourself the question, “who am I?” You are not anything but Love; to give and to receive and to accept. You are not anything but Love, to embody and to experience and to educate. You are not anything but Love.

Be Love.